Pandanose

Thank you @Ch0c0 and @Scoop, that actually really helped. ?

Woah I just read your explanation of your situation after posting something similar trying to get some clarification. I'm in a similar situation but for me it's more like, in the beginning of the relationship it's fine doing romantic stuff and then it just gets gradually harder and harder to the point where I feel guilty for doing those things and not telling the person I'm with that I actually don't want to. In the past I've just broken up with them at that point to be done with it. I just assumed I'd fallen out of love or that I had some bad commitment problems, but now I'm realizing I probably never was in love. I've never had crushes or something similar, just cared a lot about certain people. Thing is, I'm in a relationship now and don't really know how to handle it since I'm at the stage where I'm starting to question everything and don't like doing anything romantic or so anymore. I'm wondering if it'll be fine again if I push through or if it'll just be like this until I finally break up with him. Woah sorry to just dump everything on what is supposed to be your post, I just started writing and I couldn't stop ?. Anyway hope you can figure things out with your limits and do's and don't's. Good luck ??

So I have never had crushes and I never feel like I have fallen in love yet, I'm only 19 years old so I would have plenty of time to still be able to experience it. I like romantic stuff on TV and in shows and people acting romantic in public, it makes me happy that people are happy (which I know some ppl who identify as aro also feel they are totally okay with) the point is, I still feel like I want to have a closeness and be able to cuddle with someone and do some typically romantic stuff. I've had boyfriends before but I've always been the one to break up because I didn't feel like being together with them anymore even though I liked doing some romantic stuff. After a while it just gets too much and I break up with them. Has anyone else who identifies as aro the same or a similar experience? Also, and maybe I'm overthinking this way too much, but how the hell do you tell the difference between what you want and what society has imprinted in your mind that you're supposed to want?