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Why do I never post in the arcade????????????????????

If any of you are a native speaker of Spanish, forgive me and correct me if I'm wrong because I am not a native speaker, but I presume it would be "aromantico," since romantic is "romantico."

I'VE BEEN ACTIVE ON THIS FORUM FOR MONTHS WHY HAVE I NEVER POSTED IN CAPSLOCKIA UNTIL LITERALLY RIGHT NOW

@Ace of Amethysts Well, know that you always have a welcoming home here!

I shave my armpits because to me it feels nice, and less sweaty. I also shave my legs. I used to do it to please other people, but now I just do it because I like the way it looks and feels. I only do it if I feel like it. It doesn't matter to me if other people do or not--anyone is allowed to do whatever they want with their body! Standards of femininity and of feminine beauty are probably... one of the biggest reasons I don't feel completely comfortable in being a cis girl. I just want to dress, act, talk, do whatever however I want regardless of my gender. I hate how femininity is so closely tied to the (straight cis) male gaze and how I'm expected to be a certain way in order to be a "normal girl." I hate swimsuits and the way they make me feel, and I hate makeup, and I hate feeling like I have to put on a costume for other people. When I go to the mall with my friends, sometimes they want to look at clothes, which is fine because I like clothes well enough, but I don't feel comfortable shopping with people because I cannot bring myself to fit the stereotypical feminine narrative. And I just get so sick of being judged for it! "Just wear the swimsuit, you'll look great, don't be self-conscious!" It's not that I'm self-conscious, I mean that's part of it, but I just hate the way it feels and feminine gender roles just make me want to scream. And I hate when people try to force stereotypical feminine roles of softness, delicacy, and motherhood onto you as if I'm supposed to be soft and nurturing by default. No, get that away from me. I don't have that many feminine features. I'm an extremely small-chested individual, I'm lanky and awkward looking, and I chopped all my hair off a year and a half ago. I've embraced it as part of my increasingly more androgynous aesthetic. And I can't stand when people, even friends, draw attention to it like I'm some kind of enigma instead of a regular old human being! wooooOOOOOOOOOO don't get me started on prom! I'm fine wearing more casual dresses, but prom dresses for some reason make me want to rip off my skin and throw it into a fire. Prom culture is the bane of my existence. Junior prom wasn't even that fun and I wanted to rip my skin off for half of the night. I want desperately to wear a suit this year but Traditional Gender Roles(TM) dictate that I can't do that unless I want to have a stressful and long-winded argument with my parents. /shrug That turned into a rant. Enjoy that mess.

@Ace of Amethysts reason #948509475 why i left AVEN for good

I confess that I wish my friends in relationships would break up so I wouldn't have to deal with them anymore. Maybe that's selfish. Ah, well. I also confess that sometimes I wish all of my friends were aro so they would never leave me.

Because don't you know romance is so perfect and super special and friends don't matter [/sarcasm]?

This just in: aromantics to blame for the world ending in 2012. I always thought people exaggerated having crushes. Or that, when we were very young, people said just said they had crushes on people they wanted to be friends with.

While I feel like the binary definition of "girl" doesn't really fit me completely and feels like an uncomfortable box I'm forced into, and as such I often don't feel entirely female, I choose to still call myself a cis girl because being referred to as a girl does not bother me, although I don't really have a problem being perceived as anything else. There are words that I've toyed around with that might fit better, but the knowledge that they exist is enough for me without actually using them as labels for myself for the sake of ease. My advice to you is to think long and hard about your gender, which I'm sure you've already been doing; and it's important to keep in mind that it is entirely plausible and in fact pretty likely that there isn't one word out there that feels like it fits you completely and that feels useful to apply to yourself. Remember that labels are a tool, not a hard and fast rule, and that at the end of the day you don't have to label your gender at all if you end up finding it's easier not to.

Cool horses randomly take yogurt. BFHTP

THIS. I'm so tentative to use any sort of aro related terms or jokes offline even to my most supportive friends, because I'm always afraid they won't understand!

Yes, YES, revive this thread! Tsukishima from Haikyuu is aroace in my opinion, or at least on the spectrum somewhere.

Not really. I can deal with being seen changing, like in a locker room situation, only out of necessity, but it isn't something I'm particularly fond of.

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Well, I don't know enough about your personal situation or this other person's, so I'll just tell you, from my own experience, what I think I would do in a similar situation. It isn't by any means easy, but it's best to walk away. The healthiest thing to do is pull away, because if you try to hang on too long, eventually it's going to build up inside you, and that's when we say things we regret and things get more painful than they otherwise would have been. I know it's really difficult, and believe me, I understand the feeling of guilt -- but you have to remember that it's not your job to sacrifice your own emotional well-being for another person's, especially when you really haven't known them all that long (I know 10 months may feel like a long time, but that's only a tiny fraction of your life; there will be many, many more months with people who actually give you the respect you deserve). I've been down a similar road before, and it's best to just cut ties and walk away. It hurts at first, but down the line I think you'll feel much better about it.

When I listen to songs that are considered romantic, I usually end up trying to think of them as platonic.

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