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SilentShadows

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    Shade
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    Aromantic Greyasexual (No gender pref)
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    Gender non-conforming
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  1. Very interesting takes here, I love seeing all the varied replies! Personally, I am on the more romance-repulsed side of things, so real life shipping makes me grimace a bit. I've always found it to be a bit strange, as I would never want romance pushed onto me, so when creators/actors get it pushed onto them, I feel bad for them. Of course, if they don't mind, I suppose it isn't the worst, but if they explicitly say it makes them uncomfortable... yuck. Consent, people, consent! In fiction... it depends. Ultimately I tend to go towards QPP, friends with benefits, or other non-romant
  2. Personally, I identify as aromantic (and gray-ace, being mostly sex-indifferent) with a healthy dose of romance-repulsion that occasionally falls to romance-indifferent/favorable with fictional situations. In real life, any romance makes me feel really uncomfortable when it's directed at me - it sorta makes me panic and I feel trapped and very, very awkward. I don't mind couples all that much, but they do annoy me at times. I typically don't let it be known, though I generally am not crazy about PDA or romance-related things. Relationship talk utterly bores me, and I don't get the drama a
  3. I'm casually out to my LGBT+ friends, but not to the average person or family. It's not their business, and I don't particularly like the fact that people relentlessly tend to question aromantics and asexual folks (and everyone on those spectrums) about their identity. It's easier to say "I'm not interested in dating," give some shrugging, casual answer to "omg WHY??", and move on.
  4. I personally find romance interesting... until they get to the romance part! The figuring everything out, getting closer, and the relationship dynamic can be really lovely. Where it falls flat for me is when there's clearly implied romance or confessions of love. I really like the build-ups, hoping they culminate in something different (for a long time, I didn't understand why I got bored the second romance came in) and getting disappointed when it's just... romantic love again. Anything that is cliche or falls into an undoubtedly romantic line of attraction, however, gets thrown out imme
  5. Veryyy late response, but I think familial relationships are a bit different, I suppose, than romance and friendship? Like that would entail a blood bond, or something that's inherently a bit different - it's not particularly a choice, I suppose, who your parents are. Romantic partners and friends are more often a choice, so it hurts a bit more when they "chose" a partner over you. Obviously, not all people abandon their friends for their partners, or stop seeing their friends, but there seems to be a certain level of closeness people in a relationship have that's usually stronger than a frien
  6. Interesting thoughts, you all got me thinking, haha. For me, it's more of the importance? Like romantic relationships are regarded as deeper/more important than friendship. Ranking itself is a bit of a bummer, but it's not exactly the same - I wouldn't be jealous, really, of friends they have, though I might be a bit sad I miss out on certain activities. As for close friends as opposed to friends that are a bit more distant, I'd say they are both meaningful! But it's on the same level, in a way? Distant friends can become closer, and closer friends can grow distant. Yet romance is on a
  7. Lately, I've been plagued by a vague, sinking feeling. My friends are mostly all alloromantics of varying gender/romantic identities, which is lovely. I support all of them and have been accepted in return (I currently identify as aromantic grayasexual with no gender preference). I'm especially close with a few friends, and I appreciate them being around to support me and one another. They are all great people, and I am so thankful to have them by my side. But I keep struggling with the fact that likely, they'll all be partnered up one day and have a person in their life who they're
  8. I can think of a few signs! I would get "crushes" when I was younger, but be very confused because the idea of getting into a relationship was, frankly, repulsive to me. Later on I learned that squishes were a thing - I mostly just fantasized about getting closer to them (friend-wise) and thought that was a crush! I'd ask my mom if it was okay to not get married a lot and feel bad when she said you should, and that I'd want a family one day or I'd be lonely... that confused me too, cause well... friends! Weren't they enough? They made me happy! I would often be annoyed by rom
  9. I sorta understand that! I feel pretty awkward discussing it because I don't really get their romantic attachments that formed the bond in the first place. But from what I've heard, it's kind of like betrayal of sorts... though, what I really don't get is why people date cheaters in the first place! It's one thing to simply not know, but if you do know they cheat... why go for them? Or stay with them after they cheat? What stops them from hurting you again, and does "love" reaaaaaaaaally stop them?
  10. I loveeee the idea of platonic cuddles and hugging... but in reality, they just kind of make me vaguely uncomfortable because a.) I get hot really easily, and I'd start to sweat, b.) I worry then that someone will misinterpret it as a romantic gesture, and c.) I have contamination-related OCD so I'm always worried about getting sick or spreading sickness. I do really enjoy casual kinda touching, though, like leaning against someone or brushing against one another. My family was never big on physical touch, so it kind of is a foreign subject to me. I don't mind it m
  11. Romance generally irritates me unless it's a genuine connection, and well... in any case, I like the connection, not the romance, haha. I find most media to display shallow, stereotypical romance that I find boring. I'm not generally repulsed by romance unless it's REALLY bad, like say Twilight, or is glorifying abusive behavior. Romantic kissing grosses me out sometimes, and the stereotypical woman being protected by a "big, strong man" trope in romance to any extent has always made me squirm in displeasure! In real life, I find fawning and romance to be honestly quite repulsive.
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