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    Tzur Ziv
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  1. Thanks guys for all your replies. I will edit/add to this post later with more nuanced thoughts but I just wanted to say from the top that I did NOT mean autistic as an insult!!! I literally meant it sounds like the definition of autism. If I offended anyone I'm sorry and I'm more than willing to elaborate on why I specifically chose to use the word autistic. But I did mean it.
  2. Hey guys, I was referred to this forum by a facebook group. I'm sorry if this turns out to be a long read - I'm just pouring out my feelings and would really love to hear if there is anyone else who relates to how I feel. (I posted this on Reddit too, but only got 2 comments and I really want to hear some more input) I'm a 21 year old gay man, never really questioned where I am on the Romantic scale since it was clear to me I want a relationship and get married since I was remember myself (with a woman before I came out, with a man after). Since I started dating men, 6 years ago, I had 2 emotional relationships. The first was 5.5 years ago with someone who had been my friend for about a year before we told each other we had feelings, and we became boyfriends. It was a really intense relationship for me and I was devastated when it ended. The second was 3 years ago. It started as a hookup from a dating app, and we continued seeing each other so much I developed intense feelings for him. It did not last long, but to this day I still love him and would marry him within a heartbeat. So why do I think I am demi-aromantic? Because between these 2, every time I would go on a date, I barely functioned normally. I felt like a robot. I didn't know what to ask because I genuinely were not interested in the guy I was with. And these are guys I asked out!! But the second we would be on the date, suddenly I lost all interest in them. All I could think was "When is it legit to go home" or "When is it legit to go to bed with him." The few guys that managed to move on past the first date with me, I would date for about a month before getting really stressed out. I would never get myself to actually get emotionally attached to them. I remember one of them came to my house right after work one day, and he just wanted us to talk and be together and I was like "No I want play video games alone for a bit." I really want to be in a relationship, and I fantasize about what I had in my 2 relationships, but I just can't bring myself to date and investing in other people. When the "serious" (non-hookup) guys on dating apps ask me "So what kind of music do you like?" I just get bored instantaneously. I probably sound like some jerk, or maybe even autistic. So, to end this post, I think I'm demi aromantic because while I want a relationship, and to fall in love, and I had 2 very intense relationships, I can't bring myself through the process of getting to know someone, dating and comitting to them, before I really know them. Does this remind anyone of themselves?
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