HorcruxCupcake

PM me if you need to talk about anything in private with someone who understands. I know it may not seem like it, because it's a complicated situation that romantic people don't necessarily get, but there will always be someone who will listen and who will accept you for who you are. You don't need to change; you are you for a reason and that's ok. One day we will all be accepted and understood, I'm sure of it. What helped me was realising that I can actually be happy on my own and that I didn't need a relationship. Things then slowly (and I mean slowly) started to improve and I'm now beginning to accept it doesn't matter what others think if I am happy. I'm not there yet though, still working on it. I'm not out as aro though so I can't offer any experience with that I'm afraid. Not sure if this helps but please remember I'm here if you need someone to talk to.

I totally get where you're coming from, but just try and remember we understand and you're not alone. If you need someone to talk to PM me, don't suffer in silence 

I think that's a great idea. My only thought is because we are such a minority people might not be very local to each other. But as an allo aro I think a meeting app is a brilliant idea, would definitely sign up.

18 minutes ago, Michael09 said:

Welcome, Horcrux! Thank you for sharing your experience. I realize that beginning to identify as aromantic can be hard to accept, but I assure you that a life without romantic attachment is not an inherently a life of loneliness. There are so many beautiful and wonderful ways to connect with people nonromantically. Excited for you to explore all of that!

Thank you very much, I appreciate that.

Wow can't tell you how much I relate to all these posts above. The only reason I have ever wanted a relationship with anyone is for companionship and emotional closeness. I've never been able to keep friends for more than a few years either and it's rubbish to think I'm just going to be alone forever. Ah well, maybe someday I'll find a qpp.

Yeah to me that just sounds like alterous attraction but then I can't really say as you're the one experiencing it not me. The dream was probably just because you were questioning whether you are romantic or not and whether you like her like that. So the thought was in your mind (even subconsciously) and entered your dream.

I'm an out lesbian but only recently discovered my aromantic identity. I think it took me so long (6 years since figuring out I was gay) to work out the aromanticism because I knew I liked girls and not guys but somehow it wasn't quite right. Now if I were to have a QPR I would only want one with a female so in some ways they are related but I don't really see it that way because although both affect any relationships I would have, they don't really affect each other. I see them as two separate things that work together to shape my identity.

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Ooh I like this game  

Human - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human

Hi everyone ?,

Been questioning my identity and why I don't seem interested in dating like 'normal' people for years and recently discovered aromanticism. Pretty sure this is me. Although it is hard to accept because I don't want to be lonely for the rest of my life, think I'm going to have to come to terms with it.

Anyway I'm here because I want to make some new friends who can relate ?

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