I’m sixteen by the way (girl). Okay so I’m curious if what I feel with guys is alterous attraction or romantic because I feel like what I feel towards guys is sometimes a mix of the two. I have a crush right now, or at least I call it that. All of my friends when they have a crush on a guy or when we’re talking about guys gush about romantic candlelight dinners and getting married but for some reason I picture doing those things with the guy I associate as my “crush” and it just doesn’t seem right. It feels weird. Like if I were to be in a relationship with any guy I would want it to be literally a mix of platonic and romantic. I’ve always felt that if an activity, or gestures, or whatever between two people is too romantic then it can limit what they feel towards each other or how much they can care for each other. If I were to have a boyfriend I’d want the knowledge that we care about each other more than just in a purely romantic way. And the “crush” I have currently feels like a mix between alterous attraction and romantic attraction. Romantic because I get giggly when I think about him, daydream about us kissing, get jealous when he’s around to her girls. And alterous because I really want to get to know him and I think of him more than just in a romantic way. I genuinely would care about him even if I didn’t feel romantic attraction towards him. And also because of what I said before, picturing me and him getting married or me and any guy in the future getting married makes me feel uncomfortable. I want there to be a balance between romantic and platonic. Like half best friend and half boyfriend with us being closer than we are with other members of the opposite sex? Like best friends without significant others and with a limit to our romance in our relationship. Oh and one more thing I am asexual (aegosexual specifically) not sure if that helps or not. I would appreciate any opinions thanks!!
