BlueHairedHippo

When I told my sister in law that I was aro she just said “so now what?” And I replied, “nothing, I just continue my non dating life.” And the whole conversation was over. It was so anticlimactic I didn’t know how to feel about it.

I find really annoying that when I tell people that I’ve never been in a relationship and never will be they look at me with pity and tell me I’ll find someone some day. Even when I try to explain that no I won’t because I don’t like people romantically they don’t listen and say that there is someone for everyone. No one wants to believe me that I’m fine not ever having a romantic relationship.

The major sign that I am aro was that I have never had a crush. So of course I was always the odd person out whenever discussions of who liked who came up. As I got older people would ask me if I would this person or that person and I could only ever respond with “I don’t know.” That was never a good enough reason so I would be pressured to give a better answer but I never could because I had no idea what would make me want to date someone. At one point I told myself that the reason I didn’t date was because no one asked out. But as soon as I found out someone liked me I would instantly want to avoid them. So by the time I made it into high school, still thinking that I needed to have a relationship at some point in my life, started wishing I could just have an arranged marriage.