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  1. Does anyone else find it utterly hilarious that some people complain about the odd comment on a (debate) forum being 'too long', when they've probably read books that are 100 times longer and possibly more in depth? (If they even do read). I get a bit pissed off at people complaining when they're just being lazy and most of the time the offending comment isn't even directed at them.

    Sometimes you do need more than a couple of paragraphs to really get your point across.

    (This is on another forum and didn't actually happen to me, but I did call the lazy idiot out on it).

    1. omitef

      omitef

      wow this post is so long i didn't even bother--

       

      i kid

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  2. I probably have something wrong with me... As it was brought up as I was talking to an old bestfriend, I really do have some... fixation problems. I just. Obsess over someone or something really bad at times and even people I normally do care about doesn't feel like they matter at those times. I still try to act normal to them but just. Barely tolerate them. And like. When I am out of that obsessing period, then I have a not caring about anything stage and kinda return back to normal but then feel hallow inside. It can be character, person I really admire, a story, a rp, a personality theory, anything. And that can be really bad for human interactions because I really don't care most of the time and feel like I am just faking it often times. Also, since I am still a human being I might end up talking with someone about what I was obsessing over too if they really like it too, which might lead to a randomly made friendship and since emotions there are INTENSE I don't even realize that we barely know anything about each other but feel pretty attached to each other by then and when my interest to topic cools down, there is often some messy friendship breaks.....any idea what the problem might be? Don't wanna go to see some professional help without at least some idea of what it might be?

    1. omitef

      omitef

      Sounds like you might have either hyperfixation, or special interests (autism spectrum)?

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  3. I'm starting to realize that I'm agender. Been thinking about my gender for the past few months. So, I'm a triple A. :D Sounds weird. I think I'll stick to she/her pronouns for now, since I'm used to them.  

    1. omitef

      omitef

      congraaats

  4. I am honestly a lot more protective towards allo aro people than allo aces, it seems. I don't hate them or want them to die or something- it is just their way of validating their humanity by saying they can "love too" makes me feel pretty disconnected with ace movement so I can easily see how us aroaces doing the "but we are mostly aces as well so we aren't 'heartless sex maniacs'" couldend up making allo aros feel the same way. Not that they all have to be always sexually active but because slut shaming and "cold, heartless monsters" are things they already might have and most likely do have said to them.

     

    I just.

     

    I am adopting you all okay.

    1. omitef

      omitef

      Also the sexism, toxic masculinity, and gender binarism that come with being allo aro are awful. If you're perceived as female, you're slut-shamed for wanting sex without romance. If you're perceived as male, you're demonized for fitting the stereotype that men are mindless sex fiends. If your gender is non-binary, or if people aren't perceiving you as the right gender, you also get invalidation, dysphoria and erasure. 

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  5. yo i haven't been here for like two weeks what's up

    1. omitef

      omitef

      welcome back!

  6. I'm 90% sure that one of my squishes (the one with the trans sticker on their laptop) shares squish feels back and I'm so happy right now

  7. WELP! My mom asked me if I believed in god or not and I dint have an exact answer! Great.... (screaming internally)

    1. omitef

      omitef

      Yikes. Is your mom anti-atheist/anti-agnostic?

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  8. Stuff I've been pondering lately: have any women suddenly started having crushes on other women later in life, when they never did before? (I've never had crushes - romantic or otherwise - on other women, but I have sometimes felt a bit confused and questioned how straight I actually am and wondered if anyone had ever experienced that, rather than being bi or lesbian the whole time and either in denial or not realising how they actually did feel thanks to heteronormativity), and is it possible to gradually become aro over time? ALSO: I love indulging in romantic fantasies now and then, but I nearly always sabotage them in some way - e.g. I'll have a nice 'fantasy boyfriend' but after a short while I might make him want kids or do something else unforgivable... it rarely ends up being 'happy ever after'. Does that mean anything? xD LMAO!!

    1. omitef

      omitef

      Not gonna answer the first question since I'm not a woman; as for "is it possible to gradually become aro over time?"

       

      I'm pretty sure that's what happened to me, although I'm also questioning whether my past "crushes" were actually special-interest-style squishes whom I were aesthetically attracted to. In any case, my desire to have any connection that could be remotely classified as romantic has gradually plummeted to the point of nonexistence (which is why I went from identifying as lithromantic, to identifying as totally aromantic). The most romo thing I did recently was consider the possibility of being my squish's boyfriend rather than queerplatonic partner, since I'm not sure if he has a squish, or an unrequited crush on me. Then my squish mentioned the idea of marriage (not even in the sense of anyone getting married--just the concept of marriage) and I was so romance-repulsed that I decided I could never be anyone's romantic partner under any circumstance ever. 

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  9. Anybody remember me? Or has it been too long? Idk, I'm back after like a year of being gone

    1. omitef

      omitef

      I remember the username breaddd but I don't remember who you were or what you're like

       

       

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  10. I'm 90% sure that one of my squishes (the one with the trans sticker on their laptop) shares squish feels back and I'm so happy right now

    1. omitef

      omitef

      UPDATE WE SPONTANEOUSLY WENT FOR A 3 HOUR WALK TODAY 

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  11. Admods of the Arocalypse, do you guys have a high-res version of the Arocalypse logo? I want to save a copy of it out of curiosity. Also, to whom do I ask permission if ever I use the logo on a photo or page?

  12. AHH AVEN IS DOWN WHAT DO I DO

    1. omitef

      omitef

      I guess you could say, AVEN needs sAVEN' 

       

      :D

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  13. How do you even know if you're 'seeing the whole person', anyway? Also, I'm thinking of seeing a counsellor again. The lady I saw last time was great and I left with a different perspective, but we didn't really work on any issues. I was so focussed on trying to find out why I felt the ways I did with my ex, rather than possible causes, mostly because there weren't any tangible ones. I was depressed and anxious for no reason, but I am starting to identify potential underlying issues and really want to explore them. I don't want to get "fixed" in order to find someone (I really don't need a boyfriend), I just really want to know what's going on with my brain and become a better person for myself

    1. omitef

      omitef

      Doesn't "seeing the whole person" mean being able to recognise both the flaws and strengths of someone?

       

      I'm glad that you want to start exploring your mind more--that takes a lot of courage. I know that mental illness complicates my attraction to people, and right now I'm working with my therapist to figure out what things I'm uncomfortable with due to PTSD, and what things I'm uncomfortable with because I just haven't tried them yet.

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  14. Things I've learned in the last few days:

    I'm not 100% straight (was IDing as ace, but that went out the window on Friday in Tesco when I had a very weak, but definite 'pull' towards a male staff member, and have been vaguely attracted to other women too...). Maybe I'm about 96% het, not that I'm looking to get with anyone anyway. The Flippity Flop Feelings, Everything Is On Fire Ride isn't one I'm willing to take anyone else on right now, even if I didn't prefer being single.

    Animal species that have no natural predators tend to be patriarchal (hippos, for one).

    Romance apparently evolved between parents and their offspring as a means of ensuring they would be nurtured well enough to survive, and there's no biological reason romantic/sexual orientations need to match.

    1. omitef

      omitef

      I'm glad you're getting to understand your orientations better. Figuring that shit out is hard. 

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  15. TFW you meet another trans guy who's also poly who's also understanding of aromanticism who's also a total nerd GOD BLESS

    1. omitef

      omitef

      SCRUFF LMAOOOOOOO it's a hookup app designed for queer men #allosexualAroAdventures

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  16. TFW you meet another trans guy who's also poly who's also understanding of aromanticism who's also a total nerd GOD BLESS

    1. omitef

      omitef

      I'm honestly dying because we frickin' met each other in one of the most allo places ever 

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  17. I dunno. My brain was weird. :/

    1. omitef

      omitef

      No we're all gonna be weird alone just like we're gonna DIE ALONE THE WHOLE WORLD IS MISERABLE LIFE SUCKS

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  18. Got an email from work saying my online course progress had been reset, I think it just means I have to do it again anyway as it's meant to be yearly, but I kind of feel like I played a really lame, drawn-out boss fight and forgot to save my progress.

  19. Someone I know was sexually abused. I just shake the question of why anyone would be possessed to do that; to cause so much damage.

  20. Club Penguin is shutting down. I'm not happy right now.

  21. For some reason I completely lost my squish on a friend I wanted to have a QPR with... And now I'm starting to think I'm actually more comfortable without any kind relationship.

    1. omitef

      omitef

      <3 (green heart) Nothing wrong with not wanting any kind of relationship. 

  22. Person on a game starts calling me a 'fake boy' because I play a male character and heard me complaining about my grandfather wanting me to be ladylike. So he starts going off on me because wow, he feels so betrayed that this person he thought was a guy wasn't a guy, and annoyingly enough I crash before I can say much or block him or whatever.

     

    When I log back on I see a bunch of other people in the chat arguing with him about how backwards he's being. So that was some holiday niceness. Merry Christmas!

    1. omitef

      omitef

      That's amazing--I'm glad that other people actively supported you!

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