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Hey all. Just a bit of a ramble and inquiry into if anyone else has felt this. But basically I'm at the life stage where all my friends are getting serious long term partners to move in with or married to. Obviously I'm aro and have no interest in this and very happily live with my Mom who I have a wonderful relationship with. We keep each other company plus I couldn't afford to live by myself anyways. I'm quite happy to love with her as long as she's on this earth. But it seems to me that alloromantics see this as a sign of immaturity or arrested development, whether subconsciously or not. As if wishing to have different living arrangements and having no interest in domestic partnership means you can never take that final step into true adulthood. It's very alienating being the only person in my life who sees things this way, and I can tell my friends don't really understand the concept of truly being content without any type of partner. Or they just seem to pity me which might actually be worse. Smh. Anyways wonder if anyone else can relate or has feelings around aro adults not getting taken seriously. Thanks ??

As others have stated, a QPR is basically whatever you want it to be tbqh. But that's not super helpful so I'll describe the QPR I'm in and have been in for some time Basically I had been dating my partner for a while romantically before I realized I was aro and came out to him. He is one of the most important and intimate relationships of my life so we decided to stay together, just shift out of a romantic version of things. We talk everyday, go on dates, are there for each other emotionally, are tactile as in hugs and cuddling (tho not kissing since I dont like it lol), we have sex because we're both sexual people as well. But there's no expectation that I have to be "romantic" with him. We don't do valentines day, and don't plan to move in together or get married or anything like that. Often it feels like we're just making the rules up as we go along and that's the whole appeal for me!

YMBAI you assign yourself crushes because everyone else seems to have them. YMBAI when you start dating your best friend and your relationship is indistinguishable from how it was before.