Cassiopeia

always say everything I think WYR have a bird or a reptile as a pet?

red, black and dyslexic...eh, lets go with colour

Go on I'll start: I watched DS9 years ago, but I think Odo is canonly ace? But I guess he is kinda arospec as well? Like grey or something?

I agree. Like where? (No, not in the movies. The books. There is nothing romantic in the books )

Patrick Stewart

"is it something I did wrong when you were younger?" (@my mum) - seriously, mum, we had this exact same conversation when I came out to you as a lesbian five years ago, its still.not.a.childhood.trauma. please chill "but if you'd fall in love sometime in the future, you would try to be in a relationship with them, right? You are not giving it up right? There is hope" (@my mum) - Yeah. Sure. And If I were a dog, I'd probably chase my tail all day like dogs do. But I am not, , and I am also not alloromantic, so why are we even talking about this? I'm not giving up romantic love. I just don't have it in the first place. "how can one be LGBTQ+ AND aromantic? Omg, you are oppressing the LGBTQ+ people by dragging arospec people into the same group?! You are straight and just wanna be in the ⁓special queer club⁓" (@some confused and furious alloromantic lesbian online) - oh girl, do you seriously think I'm so bored that I'd be playing oppression olympics online? seriously? I have loads of ideas about what to do with my sparse free time, I don't have time for your gate keeping nonsense "you are just a heartbreaker and/or unfaithful and/or cold hearted &@#?!, I hope karma will finally find you and then you will learn." (@some online troll) - I have no idea who hurt you, but I'm pretty sure it wasn't me. I don't go around lying to about my identity to "trick" people. what do you think I am??? but you did look like you were soooo in love with your ex. (@ my friend) - ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) wut? you could get therapy, you know. I know this shrink... (@ some acquaintance) - just out of curiosity, should I like, also pray the gay away while I'm at it? will you also recommend a 2 in 1 deal at some white trash faith healer? o___0

BOTTOM ONE. FUN FACT: I ATTEMPTED TO DYE MY (BLACK) HAIR SILVER THE OTHER DAY, AND I ENDED UP W/ ALL OF THESE COLOURS. THERE IS NOT PHOTOGRAPHIC EVIDENCE, AND NOW ITS THE "NT" SHADE.

yummm rose kulfi?

This happens to me as well. My brain just doesn't compute when it comes to romantic gestures. Sounds like a toxic situation to me. There is no way you'd be selfish for wanting to get out of it.

DO NOT QUESTION THE MEME LORD. WE HAVE THE COOLEST POTATO. YOU KNOW, NOT JUST ANY RANDOM POTATO. NOT EVEN A JACKET POTATO. THAT CLASSIC DARK SHADES, LEATHER JACKET POTATO. A COOL POTATO

Nichelle Nichols

I'd rather not than rather yes, so therefore definitely maybe Would rather be hungry or be sleep deprived?

LIKE... NOW PLEASE? I HAVE JUST HAD TO SIT THROUGH 5+ HOURS OF AWKWARD SECOND HAND RELATIONSHIP DRAMA. MY BEST FRIEND IS BREAKING UP WITH HER BOYFRIEND AND I THINK I'M MORE UPSET THAN THE TWO OF THEM COMBINED. JUST NOPE. YOU ARE VERY BRAVE ÆRATH, I HOPE SHE WILL BE ACCEPTING

YMBAI you watch your allo friend interact with their romantic partner and the whole thing seems so strange, so unnecessary, you just don't get it.

headcanon accepted

Yeah, the made up crushes. So when I was around 8-9, my classmates were asking if I had a crush. I did not, but there was this boy who was bullied all the time and I felt truly sorry for. Everybody had crushes on the popular kids, so I thought that's it, the perfect opportunity, he will be bullied less and they will stop asking me stupid questions about crushes. I made up this crush on to boost his ego, but it had quite the opposite effect, kids started to tease both of for months. Oh dear. And then later on, I made up this other crush on a female friend, to prove that I'm a Real Lesbian™ I had five friends and I decided that that kind of emotional closeness would be The Thing. I mean she was pretty and hot too, and conveniently straight so it felt safe. I even looked up how I was supposed to act around someone I had feelings for. But after all it turned out to be a pointless effort, all my friends were straight at that point so nobody wanted to know the "homo details". Also allo people who seem to know my feelings better than I do. I was dating my ex, and me and my friend (they are a nice person regardless) were talking about dating. I voiced my concerns about how I didn't think loved my girlfriend properly, and they started to tell me about how happy and in love we were. I guess it took me so long to realize something was off cos everybody else would have assumptions about how I felt. I started to tally mark men who "wanted to be my friend" but turned out to be romantically/sexually interested. I have lost count after a while. I guess I kinda naive, and also completely oblivious when it comes to romantic feelings. We would have a rad friendship, with long talks, lots of fun, and then, out blue they'd do something sexual like trying to kiss me. And I'm there looking at them, like where did you get the idea, mate? Why would you do that? Like you know that I'm gay, right? Seriously? And then, they would try to explain how my actions could be read as romantic, and they totally thought I was making a move. I'm not sure why, but all of them try this angle. It is creepy and so entitled. Anybody else experienced this?

I had this recurring dream about flying. Being a kite like flying thing, gliding over a pine forest on a mountain and getting scratches on my belly because I couldn't really control the flight pattern. The air was very dry and dusty, and it felt like some sort of strange extreme sport. Also, I did not have any wings or equipment to fly, I just had to spread my arms. It was weirdly enjoyable.

You might be aro if you mistook sexual, aesthetic or sensual attraction for a crush. You might be aro if you thought romantic feelings described by others must be exaggerated. You might be aro if you never notice when someone has a crush on you, unless someone points it out to you. You might be aro if you broke somebody's heart by accident, even without realizing it, simply because you underestimated the intensity of their feelings. You might be aro if you felt suffocated and overwhelmed in a romantic relationship. You might be aro if the pet names people gave to their partners, always felt artificial and ridiculous to you.

Most embarrassing. I have some anxiety issues anyway, it would not make too much of a difference. WYR live 3000 years but forget everything that happened in every 50 years or would you live a normal human lifespan but have eidetic memory and remember every single thing?

Also Shane from the L word. She might not be full-on aro, but I think we can say she is on the spectrum. She was definitely aro-coded. Anyway, not exactly a positive role model, I can thank this show for half of my aro identity related insecurities.

so has lavender, and it also reduces anxiety

That is sorted, my libido is usually quite low anyway.

Are there certain forms of romantic content that make you cringe you less? Does it fluctuate? Like on some days, I can put up with some stuff, but on others, I just can't. Its strange. With music, I don't mind it at all, as 95% of the songs are about love, and I have just learned to tune it out and not to listen to the lyrics. Books are mostly okay-ish. Romantic movies are an absolute nope.

Yes, all of this. Also sex messes it up on a whole new level. Quite often I wish I was ace, so then I did not have one more thing to worry about. The no-strings-attached thing only works if the people involved so to speak lack the strings to attach. Otherwise it is a can of worms. I decided not to do one night stands, or casual physical things because a, I won't notice if they'd develop feelings for me, and b, if they would, I don't think it could possibly work out well. Also, being with someone who has a romantic relationship with someone else, even if all parties know what is going on and it is consensual...lets just say, a horrible idea.