Tired-Sparo
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100000% this. Not knowing how to respond to big/personal info is one thing but like Autumn said there's a respectful way to handle the situation even if a person doesn't know how to respond, and the way that your friend repeatedly responds to you bringing up aro things is pretty rude. It's also concerning to me that your friend seems to have no regard for your boundaries when you told her you were uncomfortable with something. Regardless of it being about romantic affection, if a friend mentions they are uncomfortable because of something then that thing should stop period end of story, and true friends will respect that. -
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How's everyone holding up? hope everyone and their families are as safe and healthy as they can be rn and anyone that is sick I wish a speedy recovery
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I 100% agree with this and I think that's why communication is such an important part of any relationship platonic or romantic. I think that the line between what is platonic and what is romantic is different for everyone because everyone feels emotions and perceives emotions in different ways, so because of this we have to maintain healthy communication in our relationships so that we can be on the same page with other people about what we're feeling and they can tell us their feelings and thoughts in return. I don't think there has been or ever will be a solid line that everyone can look to for what is and is not romantic because it's less about actions and more about feelings and how those feelings are perceived.
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Also I know not many people will probably see this but thank you thank you thank you to all of the wonderful people in this community who worked so hard to save this website I appreciate y'all
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So I was thinking about it and I realized that the few times I have felt romantic attraction was always for a friend I had already formed a connection with, so I'm identifying as demiromantic now. Also got dumped a few months ago and I feel like I'm back to my old self just content chillin by myself thinkin about when I can hang out with my friends and get more dogs.
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Discussing Your Aromanticism to Allo Folks
Tired-Sparo replied to sunny's topic in Aromantic Discussion
I havent had much experience trying to explain it to someone not part of the LGBT+ community in some aspect but usually before i try to explain it at all i ask if they know what aromantic means. Ive only ever had one person fully know (cuz they had researched the community when they thought they might be aro) but most often i encounter people that say "sort of. isnt it like-" and then theyll give whatever half definition they have. I like doing it this way cuz its generally less work in that they have a vague understanding and then you can be like yeah thats sort of right and then add a bit of info to clear up their definition. It can also sometimes turn into an interesting convo where they might ask a few questions to get a clearer understanding and i might explain some of my personal experiences/feelings/views on things in relation to my aromanticism. -
So ive discovered a lot about myself the past few weeks and thats been interesting. i think i finally know what a crush/romantic attraction feels like so thats one thing. i not too long ago realized im greyromantic and also recently got a boyfriend. so i was telling my best friend how i was feeling in relation to him and she goes yeah thats what romantic attraction is dude and i was like that john mulaney meme oh okay i see now. it was also funny cuz my friend was like not to invalidate your feelings but out of curiosity do you think youre aro or you think youve just been repressing your emotions a lot? and i was like lol nah im still greyaro cuz me and my bf were talking about childhood crushes on tv ppl and i was like yeah i had to ask my friend if that was normal when i was a kid cuz i didnt have that lmao. so im interested to see what else i learn about my aromanticism and myself in general
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I might not actually be as aromantic as I thought
Tired-Sparo replied to QuestionsConfusion&Panic's question in Anonymous Q&A
figuring out your orientation or even just yourself as a person takes time. it will be hard but try and remind yourself to be patient with yourself because feelings are confusing so it takes time and patience to figure it out but one day youll get there. Also im not trying to define your orientation for you because only you can do that but just a suggestion maybe you could be grayromantic or somewhere else on the aromantic spectrum. But no matter what you will figure it out one day and whatever your orientation is youre an awesome person and i wish you luck with your dating endeavors. also even if talking to that guy seems like its too late you should talk to him anyways. just be honest about it an be like hey im confused but this is how i feel and yall can decide what you wanna do from there. you never know anything can happen. -
I went to a convention last weekend and two of the stalls with pride flag products had aro stuff! i got a cute pin and if i can find the card i took from the table ill post it so anyone who wants a pin or something can buy one
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So I basically described feeling aromantic to my mom but didn't tell her I'm aromantic. I was like I wouldn't mind dating but I don't feel a need to I'm okay without dating and she was like yeah that makes sense but knowing her if I said I'm aromantic she would just tell me I have to wait for the right person and that I'm still young so it was an odd situation
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when i was questioning, i described aromanticism to my mom and she thought it was "sad," then when i came out she said she "wasn't worried about dating at 17 either" even though i was in a relationship at the time (wow, that was over 3 years ago?), but i tried to explain further and i think she accepts it, my dad too. like i think the possibility that i'll change is definitely in their minds but like they're going with it for now? idk, it could certainly be worse. good luck.
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so ive taken a liking to crocheting and am almost done with a striped blanket which got be thinking that it would be pretty cool to make an aro flag blanket
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Ironically my final paper for my 18th century literature class is on an author's view of first loves vs. second loves
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Aromantic Character Headcanons
Tired-Sparo replied to rayofsunshine's topic in Aromantic Pride and Culture
I headcanon Aloy from the video game Horizon Zero Dawn as aro because almost every character in the game flirts with her at some point but she's always like thanks not interested and she has a large group of friends she cares for immensely -
I would rather own an animal shelter than get married
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A magazine for my school is taking submissions of poetry for possible publication if i post some stuff would anyone be willing to give me opinions on which ones would be good for submission?
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For me it took 3 days but I didn't work on it non-stop. It was a good few hours each day though.
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I usually write poetry/prose and recently I wrote a poem for class where we had to find a place in nature and describe that place without directly describing it. It's really long but I think it turned out pretty good so if anyone wants to read it:
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So I had to write a hella long poem for class and I’m actually kinda proud of it should I post it somewhere on here?
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You should definitely post it. I there's this thread, but you can also open a new one.
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There’s a person I wanna be friends with but idk how to do that
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