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Hello I’m doing some research about aromantic history and if I’m not mistaken aroplane was the first aromantic forum. I remember on the old arocalypse before the administration change there was a link to the archived version of aroplane. Is that still a thing that exists?

@GhostyPeppersplease share your comic I will read it!

Muted on webtoon has an aroace character. Theres a webtoon called Andy bass which also has an aro character, they don’t show up a lot however the author is aroace. Also aro_comics on Instagram makes good comics, it’s not fiction but I think the art style is nice.

I’m a middle child. My older sibling is 23 I think and my younger sibling is 11 maybe. Sexuality wise I don’t know the specifics of my siblings sexualities/orientations. I do know that none of us are cis.

I know cavetown is arospec but that’s about it for famous aros I know of.

For the first question I think it’s definitely possible for greysexual people to be sex repulsed, although experiences vary. For me sometimes sexual attraction is weird I recall one time when I felt sexual attraction and was sex repulsed at the same time, like the thoughts/fantasies I had didn’t bother me (they were towards a specific person that I knew and it was an ongoing thing) except when I started thinking about what if I were to actually act on these thoughts. 2), sexual repulsion can also fluctuate. I also feel some fluctuation in that area. Nowadays I find myself to be on the favorable side but sometimes I’m indifferent and occasionally I’m repulsed. it can also appear towards different things, like I’m not really repulsed if it’s a scene in a comic or a book, but if it’s a tv show then I get very uncomfortable. when friends talk about it around me I tend to feel indifferent. If it’s just my own thoughts and fantasies I’m favorable most of the time, but my thoughts can also lead me to feeling repulsed depending on what I conjured up in my head. but also how I feel in general like I can think of it too much then get grossed out.

I was going to suggest succulents but then remembered those weren’t animals.

Hmm attraction is weird, not everyone feels attraction the same way. I’m bi but attracted to women and nonbinary people (with some exceptions.) it’s not always about looks and presentation, for me I have a shared experience usually in terms of gender, the common experience being us both being afab, or being trans, or nonbinary. To be more exact I like anyone but cis men, which I realize this is splitting cis men and trans men into different categories, However I have the least in common genderwise with cis men, but with trans men we’re both transmasc so we can relate to each other in that way. I guess technically I could also identify as polysexual because nonbinary can be many different genders, multiple genders, and the absence of one, but I just like bi better (it still fits cuz bi means attraction to 2 or more genders) , plus I like the colors on the bi flag a bit more than the polysexual flag. I’ve met some lesbians who like the same people as I do~ anyone but cis men, I’ve also met some that aren’t into nonbinary people and only women. So like labels aren’t perfect, people use them in different ways. I think it’s possible to be into nonbinary people the same way people can be into men and women, there’s so much nuance when it comes to these things. If someone likes nonbinary people and other genders and identifies as bi I think that’s valid. (Unless nonbinary people are being fetishized that’s not valid)

As someone who was aroace and now isn’t really as ace as I thought I was they are really different experiences but at the same time it’s hard to tell. Before I just never really thought about sex so it made sense that I was ace and didn’t really take long in the questioning. It didn’t feel like my non attraction was one in the same tho but maybe because I understood the difference between sexual and romantic attraction on a very basic level. But as time went on I guess what I want in an ideal relationship changed and I started really understanding the kinds of things alloaros talk about because I was experiencing the same things. Although as someone who’s grey ace it kinda feels like constant questioning like sometimes I’ll think what if I’m actually allo what I feel right now is definitely something that an ace wouldn’t feel, then sometimes I’ll think maybe I am still somewhere in the ace spectrum. I feel like my experience is different from others because I started out as ace then figured out I was aro 2 years later then realized that I actually do have sexual attraction, most people I’ve heard experiences from had a completely different experience as far as discovery. So it’s kinda hard to generalize because every aro is gonna have a slightly different experience regardless of sexuality or not.

They don’t talk about oppression against cis aro aces because aro and ace are still pretty invisible to a lot of the population I’ve seen more research about aces but not a lot about aros. and there’s still a lack of research about aces compared to other sexualities. Also cis doesn’t mean het those are 2 different things it seems like you might be conflating the two. And to answer your question I don’t see anything wrong with identifying as just aro or just ace. It’s none of my buisiness anyway to know who someone is attracted or not attracted to unless they want me to know and it’s not really any of your business either. Sometimes attraction is complicated so using just ace or just aro is the only label that really fits. Also bi doesn’t really specify which genders people are into either it means attraction to 2 or more genders and there’s a lot of genders out there.

Ya I’ve thought about changing it to a-spec but there are some people in there who don’t know what it is so that term can be inaccessible to some especially if they don’t engage in any a-spec communities online. I haven’t really done much advertising that’s something the queer center does but mostly people find out about it by actually going inside the center, I haven’t made flyers or anything, I do plan on making pamphlets or just using aureas and making a nicer looking aromanticism 101 poster to hang up in the queer center though.

So I run an aro/ace discussion group within my college’s queer center, and I want it to be a place where allo aros feel welcome too, I don’t think there’s any allo aros in the group currently I don’t know if they just aren’t in the area or if they feel unwelcome, I feel like there’s a pretty good balance between discussions about aromantic things and ace things, we don’t really have conversations about sex/sexual stuff tho because some of the members are sex repulsed, although I’m all for a topic like that, I usually go with what the members who attend want to talk about/ do. In addition to what I wanna talk about, it feels kinda strange to have a conversation about allo aros without them being there, although when we have discussions about aromanticism we don’t conflate it with asexuality, is there anything else I could be doing though?

I know of three books that are nonfiction, two of them I own, but haven't read yet one of them I found searching on the internet but that one doesn't have very good reviews, the first one is Minimizing Marriage by Elizabeth Brake, she's the person who coined the word amatonormativity and this book talks about that. i have this book but i only read a few pages so I can't really give a review, but this book is legit. The second book I have is called Singled Out by Bella DePaulo. While this book isn't about aromanticism its about "how singles are stereotyped, stigmatized, and ignored, and still live happily ever after" it just says that on the cover. I have only read a few pages of this ont too but i know some other people who have read it and they said it was good, this one relates to aromanticism because many aromantic people are single/ want to be single. The third book is an autobiography its called The Love and Sex Life of an Aromantic Asexual, by Laurel Federbush, its really short though, 42 pages other than the one review I don't know much about it.

I make a lot of my stuff although I have a few things that I bought. Most recently I knitted myself some rainbow shorts and knit a trans belt for it. I also have an aro flag I didn’t make it tho. In addition to some beanies that I knit, a nonbinary one, a trans one, and an aro one. I also have a bunch of buttons and one of those cool scalemail necklaces in aro colors.

I don't know much about these people. I and the team wanted people who we knew and trusted, as the initiative is more serious than a blog, and involves money and our personal information being shared. For the core team it's important that we keep information such as my address (which is something that is being shared) as private and confidential as possible. While I don’t know these people in person I do know them through many facets of the internet such as multiple discord servers, tumblr, as well as these forums. And we interact with each other enough to where we do feel like we can share that kind of sensitive information with each other. I’m sorry if you feel uneasy, but we all want to make sure the entire aro community is represented while at the same time respecting each other's privacy concerns. We all come from different parts of the community, with different identities and backgrounds. Our core team is for administration, but we will always be talking with the rest of the community (yourself included) about things that go on the site, before and after it goes live. For quoiromantic specifically, even though I feel like the definition that tends to be around the internet these days can be seen as problematic there are people out there who identify as quoiro with that definition so it would be unfair to take that away from them. That’s why we are going to include both meanings. Just in general the glossary will have multiple definitions for each word, the original definition/ how the coiner first defined it, and the modern/how people usually or currently define that word today because sometimes words do change overtime. And we will have links to the original definition. Although some words have always kept their original meaning. We are still in the process of compiling everything not just for the glossary but for the resources and the FAQ too. When we do publish our website there will be a way to contact us if you think something should be added changed or updated. So please give us comments when the site is live.

As for AAN as an acronym why does it need to be pronounced as a word? A lot of three letter acronyms are usually pronounced by their letters. Like UFO. Asac sounds cool too tho. A poll would be helpful.

I like AURA the best then with ACARE for second place

Hmm What about AAN which would stand for aro advocacy network it’s not as wordy and it’s short if people like short acronyms idk if there’s anything else using this but it’s another suggestion

I still have yet to listen to Moses sumney but cavetown is also aromantic.

All I know about the first forums is that there’s a link in what I think is arocalypse’s main website although accessing posts is hard. I’m very interested in the history too and I wanna know when the term aromantic even became a thing. I also know that queerplatonic came from dreamwidth so that might be a place worth looking into.

English is my first language and I really like they as a singular pronoun even though it does have plural origins. They has also been used singularly for a while although it’s mostly been used for anonymity instead of a personal pronoun. But it’s still used in the same way. As far as other singular gender neutral pronouns go at least in the English language they aren’t as commonly used as singular they is. Merriam-Webster dictionary has a cool article about the usage of singular they https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/singular-nonbinary-they (oh this article was already shared above) I like being referred to as they because gender is very detached from that pronoun and since people generally are more familiar with it it’s easier for me to not get misgendered opposed to if I were to use neopronouns which only a few people have heard of and even fewer people know how to use them. But ya they isn’t entirely plural it’s used singularly too plus language changes overtime gay used to mean something else so did queer. So why can’t they be singular and used as a personal pronoun? On another note you is plural and singular yet we never hear people say “you is” it’s always “you are” they works in the same way. Another thing I’d like to add is that people use singular they pretty often like when you don’t know someone’s gender ex. “Someone called today.” Who were they?” That’s singular they, but the only time I really hear the “but it’s plural” argument is when it’s used as a personal pronoun for nonbinary people, so there’s that. Sorry about the long post I’m just really passionate about singular they.

As far as music goes apparently Cavetown is aro. I heard of him from my friends and I like his music. I dont know of any other musicians that are aro tho.

pillow fluff?

Sorry for advertising but, First of all I just wanted to share the webcomic that I'm working on here: https://www.webtoons.com/en/challenge/the-other-side-of-the-wall/list?title_no=247918 it only has two chapters out so far but ill be updating every 6th of the month it has 3 main characters that are aro; well they all dont really feel romantic attraction but this world doesnt have a word for that. its also a take off of a soulmate AU where people are born with a tattoo of the name of their soulmate, except in this world some people werent born with a tattoo and theres a wall built between the two groups. any way if this sound intresting please read it! Second of all I know of the aromantic and asexual characters database but it mostly has books. Books are good although I perfer comic books better, but I was curious about if anyone is working on anything aro related like a song, or an animated short, a comic, or even just a script for a play or a movie. I also want to know if theres already media like this out there that is made by aros and aro-spec people, or has aro representation. I guess I'm just kinda bummed on how little representation there is in these other catagories.

Movies and TV shows would be nice if they had aro representation. I feel like a lot of people watch and are into those types of media so having aro characters in those types of media would boost representation.