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Nice to meet you. As far as current goth and darkwave goes, I recommend Psyche Corporation, Astrophysics, Exist Trace, Moi Dix Mois, Buck-Tick, and Unlucky Morpheus. The Cure is also still pretty active. If you're interested in joining the goth subculture, I recommend also exploring gothic literature, film, and video games.

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Hi hello hi! I'm sailor, i'm 89% sure i have an old account on here but meh! we like new starts. He/they for me, with a strong preference for he/him but never mad to be they/themmed so to speak. Aroqueer, trans-masc, anarchist i guess, norwegian. Knew i was asexual as a young-un (actually, thought i was pan first, because i mis-identified my lack of attraction as equal attraction to everyone); was in denial of being aro for a LONG time before realising it's actually hella cool being aro 8) now i primarily identify as Aromantic as a whole, asexuality is kind of secondary in my mind, hence the aroqueer label. i adore fictional romance, so i'm one of those aros haha. i'm a bartender at a comparatively chill pub-style place, in a 300 year old building. my current Thing I Want To Master is sewing, specifically to repair clothes and to make plushies for friends. I'm also really getting into goth/dark wave, and realising a lot of the music i already liked from the 80s fit that genre - if you know some more recent bands and artists, feel free to recommend them! I'm just in general missing having and being involved in a community, i miss having people around me who knows about this whole mess. So here i am! I have a tendency to get involved in online communities, get intense about it for a few weeks, not log on for one (1) day and deciding everyone hates me anyway so i shouldn't bother. so my plan is to take this slow and not get like.... hyperfocused i guess? anyway hi hello excited to be here!

Yeah, I suppose so, thank you for helping :p Thanks for the help (not sarcastic I'm sorry I just talk like that :/ ) Thanks, I'll try :<

Hi there! I'm Mal I'm transmasc too! looking for friends and stumbled upon you, so Hi! :D

I personally dislike it when there's canon romance in works of another genres – especially when it's heteronormative romance that is pushed down your throat and I'm really, really picky about ships. Someone would think that because most of my ships are slash then I ship anything between two (or more) male characters, but I don't. There are many ships (and tropes) I just can't stomach.

Yep, only thing to do is talk about it. Which like, to be honest, is really the first step to determine if such a relationship can even work at all. Communication is key in any relationship, and if you can't talk about what you want to begin with, it's not going to work out. Good luck!

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Yeah I think there's really no easy way around this... I agree with @Neon, just fully clarify what you mean by a QPR because it might be confusing to them when they learn that's it's an option. Possibly reference the split attraction thing to help them understand that what you feel towards them is still a form of attraction. Maybe even direct them to some resources here if you want. Good luck though, I hope it goes well.

I'm sorry, but the thing you want to do is the only option that will lead to you being in a QPR with them. You need to sit down and have an honest conversation with them about what you want. Plan out what you are going to say before hand. Even write it down and bring the paper with you to reference. But have that conversation.

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Chonky frog :3 AWWWW ITS SO CUTE

So I have a friend that I would want to be in a qpr with but I don't think they understand I don't want to be "dating" but I'm too scared to clarify and they think I'm weird or don't like them at all. Can someone please help me I don't know what to do :/

I legit have had more people ask me that now that I've come to terms with being aro, where I swear - no one confessed to having crushes on me, or tried to ask me out, or asked about my romantic life, before I even thought about questioning myself on being aromantic. Now, if someone ever asks me in what I would find appealing in a future partner, I would say, "The capacity to walk away."

I do find it that lot's of aspec people don't like romantic and/or sexual media, and it can be liberating to talk about that dislike or disconnect, which can lead into emotional and important topics associated with amatonormativity and allonormativity. All of that is completely valid! But, it's also 100% valid to like those kinds of media, too! I'm aroallo and I still love romantic genres (although, I am quite picky), and sometimes I ship characters romantically more than platonically, or queerplatonically (unless a character is blatantly aspec, then I ship them queerplatonically with others). There's nothing that makes you any "less" aroace, like how me loving romance every once in a while doesn't make me any less aro. Think of it as this: if you don't consider other aspecs any less because of the media they consume, then that means you're not any less for the media you consume.

There could be other terms that I'm just not aware of, but in my opinion, I'd say that you can definitely call a potential relationship a QPR even if there's romantic attraction involved sometimes! QPRs are supposed to be liberating relationships that consist of non-normative feelings, relationship styles, or identities. You don't have to be aspec to have a QPR, nor do you even have to be queer, and sometimes romance (whether that be the action or the feeling) can be incorporated into these relationships. Being aroflux is just another beautiful part of the aspec community, and another sacred queer identity, and however you want to define a future relationship is entirely up to you and your partner(s). Some arofluxes may define their relationship as romantic when they do experience romantic attraction to their partner(s), and some don't at all and may still define as it was before. There's no need to sweat it though. Your identity, and any relationship you may or may not have, is valid and welcomed here, no matter how you want to define it; and if anyone says otherwise they're wrong.

I am aromantic-flux and I was wondering if I were to be in a committed relationship based on a consistent platonic connection but there is romantic attraction sometimes is that still a QPR or should I find another term ?

This is a good point about how being single does not equal being aromantic, and I think equating being aromantic to simply being single would be a mistake.

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