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For those times when you suddenly realised not everybody around you was aromantic.

 

So we were watching a video on Youtube in French, but before it played an ad popped up. It was one of those ones you could skip after five seconds, but instead we ended up watching the whole minute of this random love story between a guy and a girl in highschool. It eventually turned out to be a Coca Cola ad... because those two things are related somehow? o.O

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You should have seen me when I was grading the first wave of undergraduate papers for a music appreciation course this semester. They had to create a scene set to instrumental music of their choice (only rule was that it couldn't be an instrumental version of a song with lyrics), and man, so many of them wrote cheesy love scenes. A friend of mine even warned me that you'll always get at least one person who chooses Kenny G because they want to play his music at their wedding, and my friend was right on the money. One of them even wrote a romance between two boys, but it was still ridiculously cliche.

 

Honestly, every time someone wrote about something like a space mission or a cat-and-mouse chase, it was like a breath of fresh air.... Until they started doing things like mistake rhythm for tempo, call cymbals "symbols," use passive voice constantly, choose songs that made my ears feel like they were bleeding, and the general joys of grading undergraduate papers for a class that they took as an easy elective. I even spent my entire Valentines Day grading some of these, so I must have looked like that stereotypical bitter single teacher. :P

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I had that moment when I once discussed love with my friends. In contrast to them, I'm very cynical when it comes to love, and said that romantic attraction only last for a maximum of three years- and if you haven't established other forms of bonds with that person your relationship is likely to fall apart. My alloromantic friends didn't agree with me of course and one of them said "No, not true, my boyfriend and I are still going strong even after two/three years! Just wait until you fall in love!" I didn't start an argument, because I think it's better to be a "happy fool" sometimes. She did however break up with him a few weeks after for the same reasons I mentioned. 

 

Sidenote: I think the couples that do last for decades have formed "family bonds" and have strong platonic love for each other. 
 

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me: *is happy*

all of my family: "so who's the lucky lady?"

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

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Every time I see a cheesy, cliche, or badly written love story in movies and am torn between constant facepalming and trying not to fall asleep. And then some of my alloromantic friends keep going on about how cute the story is and I am just so confused sometimes. :P

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8 minutes ago, 46odnetnin said:

me: *is happy*

all of my family: "so who's the lucky lady?"

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

 

Oh god, I hate that. Why is being happy automatically 'you have a partner' o.O

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was to a new years party at a friends house. 

woman at the house: So are you bisexual?

me: yes

woman: so do you prefer men or women?

me: uhm... I dont really work that way.

woman: I mean like.. would you rather have a boyfriend or a girlfriend?

me: I wouldn't

she was very confussed. O.o

 

 

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11 minutes ago, Natkat said:

was to a new years party at a friends house. 

woman at the house: So are you bisexual?

me: yes

woman: so do you prefer men or women?

me: uhm... I dont really work that way.

woman: I mean like.. would you rather have a boyfriend or a girlfriend?

me: I wouldn't

she was very confussed. O.o

 

 

 

That's hilarious! Why was she asking you in the first place? xD

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5 minutes ago, DannyFenton123 said:

 

That's hilarious! Why was she asking you in the first place? xD

 

probably just for conversation or curiousity since we where all lgbt folks.

someone else had also asked if she was tired and she thought he had asked if she was trans, so she replied. "no im homo"

 

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Just now, Natkat said:

 

probably just for conversation or curiousity since we where all lgbt folks.

someone else had also asked if she was tired and she thought he had asked if she was trans, so she replied. "no im homo"

 

Oh. I thought it was just a general meetup.

 

And that's strange, because being trans isn't the opposite to homosexual o.O

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I knew I aro cause I had to fake  having crushes growing up. I had to fake having celebrity crushes even online for some reason. People thought my love for Sherlock meant I had a crush on him. Sigh...

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4 minutes ago, pearl said:

People thought my love for Sherlock meant I had a crush on him. Sigh...

 

This is the most annoying thing. It's okay to enjoy a series or character just because, isn't it?

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Just now, Equinox said:

 

This is the most annoying thing. It's okay to enjoy a series or character just because, isn't it?

Yeah exactly! He is a super interesting character! I don't want to like date him (that would be a nightmare) but I think him being in real life would be hilarious and awesome. This is true for a lot of other characters too. I just like cool characters okay?

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Also, I find it annoying when I talk about shows I like and people immediately go to shipping. There's not an inherent problem with that and I know a lot of people like to do that, but there's a lot more to stuff than who likes who :ph34r:

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Shipping! That's the worst thing ever!!!!!! I'm shipped with one of my best friends… by my other best friend. Real life shipping is even worse than TV.

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Those moments when you're watching a DVD with certain people, and they'll let the romance/sex scenes play out, but fast forward the really cool battle scenes, and you're left sitting there disappointed.

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I think shipping can be fun sometimes, but before I recently realized that before I identified as aro, all my ships were people that I thought would make a good queerplatonic couple.  Shipping people in romantic or sexual ways always feels weird and foreign to me.

 

Also related, in my freshman year of college, some of my friends decided to ship me with this guy we both knew who was about to graduate.  I just kind of laughed it off and went along with it for a while, because although I didn't know him very well he seemed like a nice enough guy.  Then they started trying to set me up with him, and it became to most awkward thing ever, because of course I didn't have a crush on him like I assumed they did. I was very relived to find out he was married, because after that I knew nothing would come of their antics.

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Additionally: When we are watching a play or something with romance for class.

 

A bunch of people are sitting and going "awwwww that's adorable" or "they're so cute" and I just sit there wondering why they're wasting their time kissing while they could be addressing the problem/plot.

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And when they do stupid, stupid things "in the name of love". It drives me up the wall. I have had to study romeo and juliet 3 times and every time I get so annoyed at the plot.

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Agreed with the fandom thing. I hate when I'm talking about how awesome and badass some female character is and then my friend's comment is just "yeah, she is really hot" and I'm like no that's not the point! 

 

Also, ugh, yeah. The whole "I know there's a giant monster about to destroy the city, but like I think we should talk about our feelings right now!" thing is a mess. 

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Just now, DannyFenton123 said:

 *cringe*

 

You tryna out post me, mate? That seems like a pretty minimal post to me...

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1 minute ago, DeMorgan said:

 

You tryna out post me, mate? That seems like a pretty minimal post to me...

 

It was a genuine reaction, I-I swear! :ph34r:

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5 minutes ago, 46odnetnin said:

And when they do stupid, stupid things "in the name of love". It drives me up the wall. I have had to study romeo and juliet 3 times and every time I get so annoyed at the plot.

I'm reading Romeo and Juliet in class right now so we're constantly talking about romantic love and the way we experience it and honestly it's like hell for me

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