lLeane Posted August 12, 2019 Share Posted August 12, 2019 I have questions about crush and aromantism. How would you define a crush? Is it obligatory a romantic attraction? Can it be also a physical attraction? Can physical attraction still be an aromantic trait? (I'm new to this and still trying to understand where I stand, I hope your answers will be able to help me!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 12, 2019 Share Posted August 12, 2019 1 hour ago, lLeane said: How would you define a crush? Is it obligatory a romantic attraction? Some crush can be platonic, if you see them as such. (it can mean many things ). But how would i define it? Hum.. being attracted in any way to someone i guess? "crush" is usually used for romantic feelings that being said. 1 hour ago, lLeane said: Can it be also a physical attraction? Can physical attraction still be an aromantic trait? I am not exactly sure what you mean by that. If you mean sexual attraction, yes. If you mean sensual attraction, also yes. (but again i don't know how many peoples call them "crush". ) Well, it's not necessarily related to romantic feelings anyway. But since you said you were new to this, i would understand if you don't quite see what i mean. (the different types of attraction ) Maybe this could help you ? http://www.arocalypse.com/index/ And this https://www.aromanticism.org/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lLeane Posted August 12, 2019 Author Share Posted August 12, 2019 First thank you so much for answering! I don't know if the terms I use are the right one, English is not my first language. ? Tbh, I don't think I actually understand what a romantic feeling is... I've tried reading about it but it doesn't make sense to me ?... As for "crushes", I've had a "crush" on guys I find good looking but I think only the looks attracted me. I couldn't see myself in a relationship with them tho. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 12, 2019 Share Posted August 12, 2019 45 minutes ago, lLeane said: First thank you so much for answering! I don't know if the terms I use are the right one, English is not my first language. ? No prob' (also, same it's not my first language, but some lists of words can be found , making some things easier to understand ) 45 minutes ago, lLeane said: Tbh, I don't think I actually understand what a romantic feeling is... I've tried reading about it but it doesn't make sense to me ?... Me neither ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 45 minutes ago, lLeane said: but I think only the looks attracted me When it happen to me, i call it "aesthetic attraction" (or i don't call it at all but you see what i mean ). when i think someone is good looking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nonmerci Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 On 8/12/2019 at 4:40 PM, Cristal Gris said: Some crush can be platonic, if you see them as such. But then it's a squish no? I won't use the word "crush" to talk about a non romantic attraction but I'm not an English native speaker. Anyway you can feel other types of attraction (sexual, sensual...) and still be aromantic. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 13, 2019 Share Posted August 13, 2019 57 minutes ago, nonmerci said: But then it's a squish no? I won't use the word "crush" to talk about a non romantic attraction but I'm not an English native speaker Yeah, i don't call it crush either, when i call it at all. Then again, platonic can mean a lot of things (sensual? friends ? qpr ? ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aro_elise Posted August 14, 2019 Share Posted August 14, 2019 yeah, platonic/queerplatonic is a squish. personally, when i have a squish + sexual attraction i call it an aro crush. ? i randomly said it once and just stuck with it. if it's just sexual attraction i don't call it anything, i just say he's hot or whatever. i believe 'crush' is usually romantic + sexual but could also be just romantic (like allo aces would use it, right?), but you can use whatever words you like. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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