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You might be aro if...

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To bring us closer to finding a definition to aro, we should first find what exactly separates aromantic people from romantic people. Actions, feelings, etc.

Starting with the most obvious one

YMBAI you have never fallen in love with others

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Never experiencing crushes.

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Assumed you were straight, and then realized you felt nothing towards any gender.

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Alternatively, assumed you were bi or pan because you felt equally towards all genders.

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If you have thought your squishes were crushes or have had to make up crushes to fit in.

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1 hour ago, Robin said:

YMBAI

 

What exactly is that set of letters supposed to mean? :icecream:

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1 minute ago, DeMorgan said:

 

What exactly is that set of letters supposed to mean? :icecream:

I think YMBAI is supposed to stand for You Might Be Aro If...

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Just now, PhysicsOwl said:

I think YMBAI is supposed to stand for You Might Be Aro If...

 

Ah, I shouldn't have missed that. Thanks!

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2 minutes ago, DeMorgan said:

 

Ah, I shouldn't have missed that. Thanks!

No problem :)

 

YMBAI you started dating someone who you should be really good with on paper and you genuinely like, but once you're in the relationship, you feel uncomfortable or trapped.

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You might be aro if you don't understand the point of romantic relationships.

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Or if you don't understand movies, books, etc. with heavily romantic themes.

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You had to lie about having a celebrity crush or having crushes in general.

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Somebody asks you what a non-platonic relationship would look like and you genuinely have no idea because it's just not something you can really conceptualize. 

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When your friends ask who you would date if you had to pick and it's either them because you feel closest to them emotionally or someone you don't know because you could easily break it off (maybe that's just me heheh).

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When the question "What is your type?" really confuses you and you just answer with what you think would make a good friend. 

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You might be aro if you mistook sexual, aesthetic or sensual attraction for a crush.

 

You might be aro if you thought romantic feelings described by others must be exaggerated.

 

You might be aro if you never notice when someone has a crush on you, unless someone points it out to you.

 

You might be aro if you broke somebody's heart by accident, even without realizing it, simply because you underestimated the intensity of their feelings.

 

You might be aro if you felt suffocated and overwhelmed in a romantic relationship.

 

You might be aro if the pet names people gave to their partners, always felt artificial and ridiculous to you.

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You might be aromantic if when you think about marriage you don't imagen who you will get married to, but other things instead e.g. getting to wear nice clothes, how nice the food will be, having the opportunity for a big family get together

 

You might be aromantic if when people look down on marrying for visas, marrying for tax breaks, etc. you wonder why they do because those sound like very practical reasons to get married

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You might be aro if you don't understand how most people seem to have crushes all the time...

Or if you thought you were just picky when it came to crushes..

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YMBAI when asked what you want out of a romantic relationship the best thing you can come up with is "cook for her and share a meal together".

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YMBAI you never understood the point of marriage. (Seriously, why would you stay with the same person your whole life and then make it harder and more expensive to get out of the relationship if things go bad?)

YMBAI you always thought that books and movies exaggerated romantic attraction, but apparently they don't?

YMBAI you were in a romantic relationship and you felt unhappy and wanted to get out of the relationship the constantly.

YMBAI you were uncomfortable or displayed signs of anxiety in a romantic relationship.

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When you hear other people talk about romantic love and you don't understand anything

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YMBAI you decided as a child that you needed to "find" a crush, because everyone else had them, so you just picked the nicest boy/girl in your class and became truly convinced that you actually had a crush on them.

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YMBAI you wanted a relationship, but when you started trying it just felt wrong and boring to you

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YMBAI you originally thought that everyone was faking their romantic feelings or crushes, until you realized they weren't and that you just didn't feel the same way as other people.

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