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    Aromantic (possibly aegoromantic or cupioromantic)
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  1. I think what you want is a queerplatonic relationship. You can have exclusivity without there being any romantic feelings. I'm not exactly sure how to explain it since I've never wanted to be in a qpr... You could look it up and see if you relate?
  2. See, the reason why it's so confusing is.... When I daydream I'm not exactly me, if that makes sense? I don't know how to explain this to a non-maladaptive daydreamer properly... When I daydream, I'm another me. Me but with a slightly different personality and stuff. If I were to try to envision irl me with someone I wouldn't be able to and would hate it, but I can envision daydream me with someone else just fine. But again, I'm not sure if this is because of cupioromanticism or not... I've actually never wanted a relationship with anyone irl... It's always just been in my daydreams... I guess it could be loneliness or neglect because of my avpd but, again, I can't be sure. In my daydreams I don't find the relationship weird. I don't stop like how you do at a certain level. I only find being in a relationship weird if it happens irl. See, the problem here is that I'm not a very intimate person. I am not exactly fond of physical contact and I'm not good with being emotionally open. I wouldn't want intimacy because it would me feel uncomfortable...
  3. Thank you so much for the advice! I'm still sorta torn between the two but what you said does help!
  4. I need help with finding out where I am on the aro spectrum... At first I thought I was aegoromantic because I do enjoy romance in fiction but now I'm beginning to think I might be cupioromantic (honestly I'm kind of surprised I didn't think I was cupioromantic first). I'm not sure if you're aware of the term "maladaptive daydreaming". I'm really bad at explaining but you can read about it here. I am a maladaptive daydreamer, and ever since I was a kid my daydreams have included significant others. When I first found that you can be aromantic despite having lovers in your daydreams, I just assumed that my daydreams were exceptions and it was less of me having a lover and more of the person-I-daydream-as having a lover. However, recently I've started to feel lonely and the thought of a lack of an intimate relationship with someone is depressing me. I used to feel this way when I first found out I was aromantic, too, and realised that it was connected to internalised arophobia. I was certain that I was aegoromantic until recently when I had a "tube-light moment" and realised I might be cupioromantic. The thing is, I really do not want to date anyone. I like the idea of dating and intimacy and stuff I guess, but the second I imagine actually dating someone in real life - anyone. Not just people I know. Just imagining dating anyone at any point in real life - I cringe and yeet that idea out of my head. Is that what it means to be cupioromantic? Or am I just aegoromantic with a side of internalise arophobia?
  5. I don't really like either of the three but it's less because they're romantic gestures and more because I'm awkward. I may even be mildly touch averse but it's not really because the gestures are inherently romantic
  6. I have been listening to the song for about 2-3 weeks now and I can't stop I love it so much!
  7. Aromantic culture is looking back at all of those times you weren't really into romance and them finally making sense to you Aromantic culture is being called dense because the people who you thought were just being really nice to you actually liked you Aromantic culture is realising that all your past "crushes" were actually squishes Aromantic culture is not realising that you were aromantic for a long time because you couldn't tell the difference between the various kinds of attractions
  8. Hi! Welcome! I relate to your second point so bad... I'm an Indian and we seem to consider ourselves extremely romantic. It's near to impossible to find a show/movie without romance in it. Due to this I thought I had to love someone and would "force" myself to get crushes on guys. After I realised I was aromantic, I realised that I was just confusing aesthetic attraction with romantic attraction and didn't actually like any of the guys that I was telling myself I had a crush on ^^;
  9. The last song I heard was Never Been In Love by Will Jay. (Quite fitting, I know ^^; I was checking out romantic posts on tumblr and stumbled across it and I love it!!) Edit: If you're asking how does the thumbnail of the video appear, then I just copy-pasted the youtube link and it appeared by itself. I didn't use the link option to insert the video's link, I just copy-pasted it.
  10. Hi! Welcome to aocalypse!! ^^
  11. I haven't even been here for a week so I'm not sure if I've earned the right to welcome others yet but ah well ^^; Welcome! Nice to meet you!!
  12. I only recently broke up with my girlfriend because I realised I was aromantic. We were extremely close friends before she asked me out so everyone was sure we would never break up (so was I tbh). So when we did break up everyone kept asking us why. I told her that I was aromantic because we're so close so I knew she would understand, but I was scared to tell anyone else because most of them already make fun of me for identifying as pansexual instead of bisexual so I felt like they would call me a "special snowflake". I didn't know how to say that I realised I didn't love her romantically or that I realised I didn't love her the way she loved me without sounding like a jerk so I just told them it was complicated. They've stopped asking me now but it was really stressful when we first broke up...
  13. How'd you get all four?? Did you take the official quiz on pottermore?
  14. The first three books are my favourite! I didn't like the series as much after he became good, but I loved the first three!!
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