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    Aromantic (possibly aegoromantic or cupioromantic)
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  1. Thank you so much for the advice! I'm still sorta torn between the two what you said does help!
  2. I need help with finding out where I am on the aro spectrum... At first I thought I was aegoromantic because I do enjoy romance in fiction but now I'm beginning to think I might be cupioromantic (honestly I'm kind of surprised I didn't think I was cupioromantic first). I'm not sure if you're aware of the term "maladaptive daydreaming". I'm really bad at explaining but you can read about it here. I am a maladaptive daydreamer, and ever since I was a kid my daydreams have included significant others. When I first found that you can be aromantic despite having lovers in your daydreams, I just assumed that my daydreams were exceptions and it was less of me having a lover and more of the person-I-daydream-as having a lover. However, recently I've started to feel lonely and the thought of a lack of an intimate relationship with someone is depressing me. I used to feel this way when I first found out I was aromantic, too, and realised that it was connected to internalised arophobia. I was certain that I was aegoromantic until recently when I had a "tube-light moment" and realised I might be cupioromantic. The thing is, I really do not want to date anyone. I like the idea of dating and intimacy and stuff I guess, but the second I imagine actually dating someone in real life - anyone. Not just people I know. Just imagining dating anyone at any point in real life - I cringe and yeet that idea out of my head. Is that what it means to be cupioromantic? Or am I just aegoromantic with a side of internalise arophobia?
  3. I don't really like either of the three but it's less because they're romantic gestures and more because I'm awkward. I may even be mildly touch averse but it's not really because the gestures are inherently romantic
  4. I have been listening to the song for about 2-3 weeks now and I can't stop I love it so much!
  5. Arivin

    Aromantic culture is...

    Aromantic culture is looking back at all of those times you weren't really into romance and them finally making sense to you Aromantic culture is being called dense because the people who you thought were just being really nice to you actually liked you Aromantic culture is realising that all your past "crushes" were actually squishes Aromantic culture is not realising that you were aromantic for a long time because you couldn't tell the difference between the various kinds of attractions
  6. Arivin

    New aro here

    Hi! Welcome! I relate to your second point so bad... I'm an Indian and we seem to consider ourselves extremely romantic. It's near to impossible to find a show/movie without romance in it. Due to this I thought I had to love someone and would "force" myself to get crushes on guys. After I realised I was aromantic, I realised that I was just confusing aesthetic attraction with romantic attraction and didn't actually like any of the guys that I was telling myself I had a crush on ^^;
  7. The last song I heard was Never Been In Love by Will Jay. (Quite fitting, I know ^^; I was checking out romantic posts on tumblr and stumbled across it and I love it!!) Edit: If you're asking how does the thumbnail of the video appear, then I just copy-pasted the youtube link and it appeared by itself. I didn't use the link option to insert the video's link, I just copy-pasted it.
  8. Arivin

    Hi i'm new!

    Hi! Welcome to aocalypse!! ^^
  9. Arivin

    Introducing me

    I haven't even been here for a week so I'm not sure if I've earned the right to welcome others yet but ah well ^^; Welcome! Nice to meet you!!
  10. Arivin

    Aromantic Confessions

    I only recently broke up with my girlfriend because I realised I was aromantic. We were extremely close friends before she asked me out so everyone was sure we would never break up (so was I tbh). So when we did break up everyone kept asking us why. I told her that I was aromantic because we're so close so I knew she would understand, but I was scared to tell anyone else because most of them already make fun of me for identifying as pansexual instead of bisexual so I felt like they would call me a "special snowflake". I didn't know how to say that I realised I didn't love her romantically or that I realised I didn't love her the way she loved me without sounding like a jerk so I just told them it was complicated. They've stopped asking me now but it was really stressful when we first broke up...
  11. Arivin

    An introduction, I guess?

    How'd you get all four?? Did you take the official quiz on pottermore?
  12. Arivin

    An introduction, I guess?

    The first three books are my favourite! I didn't like the series as much after he became good, but I loved the first three!!
  13. Arivin

    You might be aro if...

    Oh no β˜ΉοΈπŸ˜‚
  14. Arivin

    You might be aro if...

    (Not sure if I'm doing this right but I found this post on tumblr which helped me so) YMBAI you relate to more than half of the points in this post: http://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/69145328274/you-might-be-aromantic-if
  15. Hi! My name is Arivin (not my real name, unfortunately) and I'm new here! I only recently found out that I am on the aromantic spectrum and I think my romantic orientation is Aegoromantic (still sorta questioning)! 😊 Here's some general stuff about me: I am an aromantic pansexual My pronouns are she/her I'm an Indian I speak three languages fluently: English, Marathi and Hindi. I did study French in high school but I sucked at it… I’m a slytherin Despite being bad at aiming I am, apparently, the daughter of apollo I'm a maladaptive daydreamer I currently stan Exo, A.C.E and BTS I am very awkward and nervous when it comes to new people so if I don't reply to your messages often it could just be because I can't think of what to say (sorryπŸ˜…) I watch quite a lot of anime/tv shows and read quite a lot of manga/books, but these are the ones I am currently most interested in (finished and/or ongoing): Boku no hero academia (need to catch up on this so no spoilers please πŸ˜…) Voltron Durarara!! Yuri!!! on Ice Bungou Stray Dogs (need to catch up on this so no spoilers please πŸ˜…) Noragami (need to catch up on this so no spoilers please πŸ˜…) One Piece (need to catch up on this so no spoilers please πŸ˜…) 07-Ghost (an old favourite) Soul Eater (yet again, an old favourite) Percy Jackson (need to catch up on the heroes of olympus so no spoilers please πŸ˜…) Harry Potter (please don't judge me but I need to catch up on this, too, even though it's centuries old, so no spoilers please πŸ˜…) Artemis Fowl (an old favourite) I can also sing the entire Ben 10 theme song. I have the entire thing memorised. Is that something to brag about? I’m not really sure but I can sing it. I'm new to forums so please be patient with me πŸ˜…