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  1. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Where does touch aversion come from?

    Touch aversion is just a thing that sometimes shows up in the aro and ace communities, and I haven't really seen any discussion (that I remember or know of) about why it exists. I guess touch aversion has connections with romantic stuff/sexual stuff, but I'm touch averse to a lot of things that are entirely platonic, that I do not at all associate with romance or anything. Is touch aversion just a thing that shows up in the aspec communities? (not counting touch aversion or whatever as a result of trauma. that's a whole different thing, as there is a logical explanation and all) Why are some of us (such as me) touch averse, and especially why are some of us (me) touch averse to entirely platonic gestures? I feel like these questions have a super obvious answer that I haven't understood yet, but if there is an obvious answer I would like to hear it anyways.
  2. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Am I aro, ace, or just young?

    I was like 13 or 14 when I first heard the term aroace, and I sort of was like, "okay sure, sounds like me" and mostly forgot about it until later, when I was uncertain about it again and questioned it, leading me to do some research, and eventually to deciding I'm definitely aro (and ace, but I didn't really debate that). I kind of knew that I didn't get crushes when I was a young child and all my friends (well, one in particular) were ranting about all of their million different crushes that I could never keep track of. I'm 16 now, so it hasn't really been that long, but I am fully convinced I'm aro (and ace too I guess) now and I will personally fight the world if anyone says I'm too young to be that. My advice? Try it out. Try thinking of yourself as that, see if you like it after a while, and see if it fits you. This is all I can really say, as you know your thoughts and feelings the best, and only you can decide who you are. There's no harm in changing it if you realize new things and decide it doesn't fit anymore.
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    Does aromanticism affect appearance?

    I refuse to wear makeup, but that's probably more me wanting to be weird and different than everyone else. I love to wear pretty dresses and skirts occasionally because I like feeling cute (don't care what other people think though). I also like wearing "weird" things, like this cool cape/cloak/poncho????? thing I have that's really cool and warm. So really I don't know. All of this is really probably just connected to me wanting to be weird and different from people, rather than connected to my aromanticism.
  4. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Early signs that you were aro

    For me it was mostly just not ever thinking about romantic relationships or getting married or whatever. All my friends had this plan of getting married, having x amount of kids, the usual, while I just never thought about that. Somewhere in the back of my mind I had decided that was something I would think about in the future, and that was that. I somehow understood almost exactly what a crush would be, and so I knew enough to know I didn't have any crushes, and I boasted that whenever the topic came up. Thankfully the other kids were just deeply surprised, and never questioned me further (and they never said that I have to have a crush).
  5. Presented on Aro Spec Awarenss Week at school today! It was terrifying. BUT, my teacher is amazing! Kept saying how we should stop assuming things, and then when I showed her the aro spectrum identities she said she thought she might be demiromantic! I thought that was cool. So it was terrifying but 100% worth it.

    1. Naegleria fowleri
    2. Next-Level Consciousness

      Next-Level Consciousness

      This is how I see society in the far future!

  6. (is this too long for a status update? I don't know where else to put my rant) Reallllly annoyed today because in one of my classes, we were told to do a project about a specific date related to social justice issues (it is a social justice class, after all) and so I was saying how I was thinking about doing either Asexuality Awareness Week or Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week  (major step out of my comfort zone, literally the first time in my life I ever said the words "asexual" and "aromantic" out loud, very proud of myself). So the teacher listens in to my conversation, obviously means well, but then starts talking about asexuality as a mental illness (and aromanticism, too, I guess, but she obviously doesn't know much). And then some other dude in the class agreed (though I'm not convinced he heard right), and then my sort-of friend, (who is openly gay) says it's a mental illness too, and I was very upset. And then I mentioned that it's not considered a mental illness, I forget how they reacted to that, but it wasn't enough of a response that I was placated. Later I mentioned aromanticism to my sort-of friend, who was like, "Don't worry, you'll find someone," (seriously, dude, do you not understand what I'm saying?)  to which I of course replied, "Screw you" (though in a sort of joking voice because I do that automatically so as to not horribly offend people; I honestly wish I had said that more offendedly so he would get the point). But I'm still annoyed, because everyone was 20 miles deep into misconceptions and misunderstandings, and it upsets me so much that people know so little.

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      Being pathologized is something I have dealt with too and I really strongly identify with your feelings here! (As well as your Screw You attitude!) I remember finding scientific studies online that debunked the whole ace/aro=mentally ill thing and that helped me feel better, so know that science is on your side. You're right to be mad about your teacher's and peers' reactions though; I'm so annoyed on your behalf. Sending good vibes your way. You're in the right.

    2. Next-Level Consciousness

      Next-Level Consciousness

      In April, I did a report on asexuality and romanticism in my English class, though, thankfully, I didn't get any reactions of invalidation. However, if I'd gone through the reactions of invalidation, I could see myself getting into warrior mode. Their reactions kind of remind me of cult mentality, to be honest.....

  7. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Christianity 2.0

    Yes. (although not that specific article; I showed her the main page of it, which I figure gives about the same info, if not more) I don't know how much of it she read, though.
  8. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Thoughts on lack of (a)romantic orientation acknowledgement?

    Do you think it's important to talk about romantic orientations as well as sexual ones? Do you feel like this is necessary but only within the context of being a-spec, as our experiences tend to be more varied? 1. Yes, there does need to be more discussion, mostly for varioriented people who need to hear it and so they feel included (do ace/aro people count as varioriented? I'd assume so). I feel there should be more discussion of the split attraction model too, keeping in mind it's flaws and not forcing it on anyone. Do you think that it would also be nice if people acknowledged kinds of orientations that are not sexual or romantic more often? 2. Yes, absolutely. There are different orientations than sexual or romantic, and they can easily be just as important to the individual. I don't really know too much about that, though. Do you feel comfortable as an aro in spaces that are "for asexual people and also aromantic I guess"? 3. As an aro, no, not really. It prioritizes ace people while sort of shunting aromantic people as less important. Do you feel like your experience as an aro is acknowledged/included within other orientation communities (eg. lesbian, pansexual, asexual), or within LGBTQIAPN+/IMOGA/queer communities, if you participate/lurk at those kinds of spaces? 4. I don't really know, as I tend to only really lurk in aro specific spaces. But as far as I know, aro experiences aren't acknowledged or included enough at all.
  9. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Christianity 2.0

    My mom says it reeks of cult and heresay, in that it's saying everyone can become divine, and become God. When I was reading through this (and going to the actual website of it), I kind of ignored that because I thought it was exaggeration and they were saying we could become like God in being a good person and stuff.. I also noticed that nothing they said they reinforced with bible verses, though I assumed they would do that in whatever courses they were offering or whatever. Honestly, when I was reading through it I kind of liked what it was saying, the call to be like Christ and a Good Person or whatever (or at least that was my interpretation), but that's found in normal Christianity anyways. The "divine masculine", "divine feminine" and "divine child" thing mildly confused me, but whatever. It saying that Christianity has shifted from the original purpose and become different resonated with me (all these judgemental, hateful people calling themselves Christian) It was interesting though.
  10. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Share your Talents!

    Apparently me able to balance books on my head is a talent, according to all the people who come up to me when I'm casually balancing them on my head in the halls of my school. Personally, I just think it's because I have a flat area on my head, but whatever. I obsessively draw dragons (and only dragons), so I've gotten decent at that, I guess?
  11. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Some Arospec Questions (For fun) (Part 1?)

    I feel like I'm late to reply to this, but I'm going to do it anyways because these are some interesting questions. 1. As far as a mascot goes, I don't really care, as long as it's cute. Of the already suggested animals, I kinda really like the cat, because I like cats. 2. I wouldn't use it personally, because I feel it's usually used in a romantic context, but I do absolutely believe that it should be able to be used in any instance where it applies... So, yeah, if someone lost a friend, I'd be cool with them calling it heartbreak. It still counts. 3. A QPR is its own thing! It's different than romance and different than typical friendship! Though, I personally think it's far closer to friendship than romance. If I were in a QPR and someone called it modified romance, I'd be a little bit offended. 4. That's complicated; I think no, it wouldn't be better in some ways. I'd mess up something we didn't know we could mess up, and discrimination would probably still happen. But on the other hand, more focus on friendship. Better for us, probably, but what of those who aren't? I don't know. That'd take a lot of thought to fully think through the pros and cons.
  12. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Are there any other teens on here?

  13. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    What kinds of physical touch do you like/dislike? (Poll)

    Hugs- it depends. I guess I'll hug my mom, because I'm expected to hug her, and it doesn't make me that uncomfortable. I love hugging my little brother, and hugs with young children is perfectly fine, because they're adorable and innocent and such. But everyone else, even friends? No. I'm uncomfortable with that. The idea of kisses mildly grosses me out. I'm the one looking away and occasionally loudly saying, "Ew!" when kissing scenes come up on tv or movies. What is cuddling anyways?? I mean, if a little kid wants to sit on my lap, sure, go ahead. I'll rest my feet on my dad occasionally when we're both sitting on the couch, but that's it. Anything beyond that scares me. I'm just scared of/uncomfortable with touch, I suppose. I have a big personal space bubble. Even at school, if I can sit anywhere, I'll always make sure to have at least one desk between me and anyone else. (I'm sorry, other people; it's not that I don't like you, I'm just uncomfortable sitting so close to you) With friends it's different, and I can sit beside them, as long as there's enough space between us to keep me comfortable. High fives scare me, but I can do them alright, although it's a better idea to never initiate them with me. I dread handshakes. I can shake hands with people if I'm socially expected to do that, but I'd rather not. I once had a friend who I told about me not liking touch, but being okay with handshakes and highfives, and so when she gave my other friend a hug, she offered a handshake to me. It was in that moment I knew that I should have specified that I'd rather not do any touch if I can help it. Suffice it to say that it felt way more awkward in that scenario to shake hands than it is normally. (I mean, handshakes are so formal!)
  14. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Hello? Am I supposed to introduce myself?

    Thanks! I'm happy to be here!
  15. awkwardchickenpotatodragon

    Hello? Am I supposed to introduce myself?

    Thanks! It's really nice to have a label, though before I never really considered my sexuality at all.