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  1. Where are you from?

    Ohio, United States, Eastern Time
  2. There was a bit in highschool where I thought I was aromantic without realizing that was an actual thing. It was just something I came up with on my own. Me finding out I was demi didn't so much change how I saw myself as much as it changed how I saw others. I just thought everyone was like that. I thought people dated people they weren't attracted to all the time and due to societal pressure both people just went along with it as part of an unspoken agreement to pretend like they were. So I guess this was just a long winded way of saying I thought I was a normal straight person and then realized the world was different than how I thought it was.
  3. Romantic Attraction

    As a demi I can say that from my perspective, romantic attraction is like pornography. You know it when you see it. I acknowledge that that is not a helpful description.
  4. Aromantic Confessions

    Me too which seems to put me in good company here. I have had a friend tell me because I'm good at looking at them objectively. Really, I only know two pieces of advice to give: 1) Talk to them about it. 2) Break up with them. In any interpersonal relationship, if you're past the point where talking can help, it's pretty much over.
  5. Introducing Myself

    Thank you everyone. Not taking it well means feeling more suicidal than I normally did at that point. The best way I have come up with for describing it is imagine that for awhile you have not been feeling well. You keep telling yourself that you're fine. Maybe if you get some more sleep you'll feel better. Then the doctor tells you that you are really sick. What was once ignorable and easy to have vague hope for the future becomes a lot less so. Edit: I feel like I should clarify that I feel better about it now. It just took awhile.
  6. Introducing Myself

    Hello everybody. I currently think I'm demiromantic. For a bit in high school I thought I was aromantic, which I actually came up with on my own and only found out was a thing other people said later. About a year and a half ago a friend of mine told me about demiromantacism. I didn't exactly take it well. Anyway, now I'm here.