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About arokaladin

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  • Birthday 03/18/2001

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    girl probably
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    she/her or maybe he/him
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    asexual ♠

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  1. arokaladin

    Religion Thread

    I'm personally an atheist and definitely need to put more time aside for contemplating my views on the universe. I'm weirdly not distressed by the idea that it just... always existed? idk it's like optimistic nihilism I guess! That being said, though I'm not sure how much I believe them, all sorts of theories are interesting to me. That another universe spat us out, or another being, or that perhaps the end of our universe kickstarts the beginning. I have. thoughts about time. (sidenote relevant to this thread: as someone who's religious perspective is characterised by what I don't believe... it takes zero money or effort to respect things you don't believe in <3)
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  3. I think I am coming on too strong in this friendship and that’s stressing me out I just want to express how deep my love is but at the same time I’d rather die than make a friend uncomfortable so uuuuuuuuh Time For Depression 

    1. Eklinaar


      oh, big mood

    2. Magni


      oh BIG MOOD.....hope it works out okay :)

  4. arokaladin

    What are you reading?

    I'm rereading the catcher in the rye, have a reread of the rithmatist scheduled for after that, and am also dipping back into so you want to be a robot as I feel like it.
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    heeeyyyy welcome! You seem awesome too!
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    Some of the people in this article I think could benefit from hearing about aromanticism, but I doubt many of them. I'm actually kinda wary of some of the men feautured, since they seem to feel victimized. Some of them almost creep into 'nice guy' territory. It is nice that the article links to information about asexuality at the bottom. I would also note for any other asexuals who want to read the article, a lot of the people featured seem to associate not being able to lose their virginity with somehow being a 'monster', or otherwise act like not having sex is really really horrible. It was a little hard for me to read for that reason, though I definitely don't fault star girl for sharing it.
  7. me, partway through a sewing project that was meant to be finished in may but is now unlikely to be finished until october, realising I need to basically redo the entire skirt and also buy more fabric: hey what if I embroidered the dress bodice and made some jewellery to match that would be cool right!

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    Cupioromantic or Internalised Arophobia?

    That sounds an awful lot like internalised arophobia to be honest, though that's just my personal opinion. I think a lot of us daydreamed of weddings and significant others, though not necessarily at a maladaptive level, which I imagine complicates things. It can be very hard to accept that you won't have the future you expected, and for me personally it was difficult to reconcile my desire for a relationship with the fact that in reality relationships are not good for me. That said you could still be cupioromantic, I'm not you so I can't decide for you. And it wouldn't be wrong to keep identifying that way to convey the loss you feel. Whatever happens, good luck.
  9. Would it kill my schools lgbt club to give a shit about the whole community rather than just gay people? I’m beginning to think it would. Every week I leave feeling worse than when I came

    1. Jot-Aro Kujo

      Jot-Aro Kujo

      Tbh that’s why I’ve never gone to my school’s LGBT group. They seem very... well, LGBT without the plus, if you get what I mean

    2. techno-trashcan


      my school's club is explicitly inclusive but i STILL avoid it because we all know that's just a formality and aspec people still get thrown under the bus

  10. arokaladin

    The Expanse tv show

    I haven't heard of that! What's it about?
  11. aaaand the aphobes have found my aro blog. Great.

    1. Jot-Aro Kujo

      Jot-Aro Kujo

      Oh boy, lucky you :/

  12. I constantly forget I'm asexual because I'm so alienated from and uninvolved in the asexual community so yeah... being aroace in our current situation is... weird. At least I can somewhat explain my orientation to people via asexuality first, and had asexuality as a road to discovering my aromanticism though. I'm very aware that as much as people trample on and ignore my asexual aromanticism, allosexual aromantics have the same experiences tenfold. There's a really clear hierarchy in the aspec community/communities of alloaces > aroaces > aroallos and it's so fucking gross. really needs to change for so many reasons, visibility and otherwise. It helps no one.
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    Receiving a confession

    Understanding yourself like that really helps with bad feelings, I’m so happy for you!
  14. I always wonder whether aces prioritise their asexuality in the same way us aros seem to tend to and then I remember I am ace and then I realise that I actually just wonder about alloro aces

  15. arokaladin


    Welcome! what books are your favourites right now? I love fantasy!