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Naegleria fowleri

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  • Birthday 12/20/1999

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    Lindsay
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    Female
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    She/Her
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    Canada
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    Student + other stuff
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    Aro
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  1. Naegleria fowleri

    aro in a romantic relationship...

    So... being guilted into things that make you uncomfortable is not a healthy relationship. There's a difference between, say, saving your partner the last cookie out of love even though you really wanted it, and forcing yourself to shove down a fight or flight reaction to please your partner. A lot of us have felt these feelings you're having when trapped in a romantic situation, and we call it romance repulsion. You feel repulsed, but it's not the person who's repulsive, it's the romance. Does that sound right? When I first discovered I was aromantic, I found it difficult to put into words what I was feeling. You feel like you're explaining it properly, because you have all of this inside knowledge, but to people who have no concept of any of this, it just... doesn't always translate. You know? "Discomfort" sounds like "butterflies"; "I don't like kissing" sounds like "You're not a good kisser" and so on. It becomes a lot easier to defend your feelings once you wrap your head around the idea that you're never obligated to love somebody. Not only that, but that non-romantic love is just as valuable as romantic love. Good. You hold on to that.
  2. I find this to be a very intriguing question too, and I didn't fill out the poll because what I really want to say is... both? Like, I don't think there was a time where I was ever romantic. But perhaps some of us are born more susceptible to becoming one thing or another, and our environment can sway in a certain direction. I've often wondered, if I'd grown up with two parents who loved each other romantically and all that stereotypical stuff, would I have ended up romantic? Maybe. Although I believe in another topic we were talking about orientations of family members, and some people did have highly romantic parents. So I dunno. I'd love it if some scientists could crack down on some research though.
  3. Naegleria fowleri

    Share your Talents!

    I have a knack for making sculptures out of pipe cleaners. It seems to really impress people. The pictures rotated themselves when I pasted them, and I couldn't get them to go back so I guess just turn your head 90 degrees to the left! Simple Dragonfly Rose Lil' Squeakers Cat Crocodile I don't use glue or anything, and all the parts are moveable, so you can open and close the jaw, and make the legs longer or shorter, take out an eye, etc. I'm also pretty good at studying, video games, writing stories and guitar.
  4. Naegleria fowleri

    Aromantism and Marriage

    Your description of marriage certainly sounds aromantic! Really, all aromantic means is lacking romantic attraction. It takes some time and soul searching to pinpoint what "romantic attraction" means and whether or not you've felt it. I think of romantic attraction as a driving force connected to a specific person that makes you want to do romantic stuff with them. So, it's more than just liking romantic stuff, and it's more than just deciding someone would be a good candidate to do romantic stuff with. That being said, marriage doesn't necessarily have to be romantic. Closeness isn't necessarily romantic either. I am firmly aromantic, and I would definitely be open to a best friends marriage (although I perceive marriage to be kind of a prison so I would probably have a common law partnership instead 😁).
  5. So I got this bold idea to email my favourite author, Jodi Picoult, to ask her if she would be willing to write an aromantic character in one of her future books. I got a maybe! Essentially she said if an aromantic character fits organically into the plot of one of her books she would consider it, but she wouldn't want to shoehorn one in just to make a statement. Which is totally fair. Anyway if this ever does happen it would be huge for us because not only is Jodi a master of her craft, she's also famous. Just wanted to share!

  6. Naegleria fowleri

    How various sexualities view aro

    You should totally be allowed to share important epiphanies about your life with your friends without feeling guilty. As people mentioned above, the reaction you got was probably more of a confused silence than a grudging one. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this. I get that many people can't really wrap their heads around the idea of someone never having romo feelings, but when you make an aro joke or reference or comment and receive no reaction you just feel selfish for even bringing it up. Like, we get it, you're aro. Quit bringing it up already. It makes it hard to share things that are on my mind anywhere other than here, and I'm a pretty share-y person! Anyway, whenever something's peeving me about being aromantic and I can't share it, I usually start trying to write a song. Which is ironic, considering young teenaged me was "waiting for a relationship so I could start writing real songs". How the turn tables
  7. Naegleria fowleri

    Not a frigid spinster?!

    Hey, welcome! What do you do for a living? I'm curious.
  8. Naegleria fowleri

    Sensual attraction to a friend

    Oh I totally get those desires, if I understood you correctly. Sometimes I'll become good friends with someone and I'll want to sit close beside them or lean my head on their shoulder or whatever else. These desires are fleeting though, and I usually never act on them because I feel some sort of social barrier. I never tried to classify it after I found out it wasn't romantic attraction, but sensual attraction sounds about right.
  9. Naegleria fowleri

    Hello from the Philippines!

    Am I the only who read the topic title to the tune of "Hello" by Adele? Anyway, welcome!
  10. Naegleria fowleri

    can aromantic people fall in love?

    I mean, I like to use the term "in love" in completely non-romantic situations such as "I'm in love with this cat" or "I'm in love with this new book", and I guess I do that to express a sudden infatuation for an object or an entity. So I suppose if you use "falling in love" in a metaphorical, non-romantic sense, then yes? However I would think of falling in love romantically as what divides romantics from aromantics. "Falling" implies a loss of control, whereas bonding and building a strong relationship is a conscious choice. People who fall in love may also choose to build a relationship over time, but I would consider them separate things.
  11. Raised some awareness today! Here's the conversation I had at the kids summer camp where I work. The kids are aged 7-9 and one kid had a sticker of a boy's face on her phone.

     

    Kid 1: Why do you have a sticker of him on your phone with all those hearts around it? Do you have a crush on him?

     

    Kid 2: No. I like him but I don't have a crush on him. I just put the hearts as decoration.

     

    Me: Hey, did you guys know some people never get crushes in their whole lives?

     

    Kids: What?!!!

  12. Naegleria fowleri

    Standup Magazine Articles - Aromantic and Asexual

    This article made me think a lot. Something that struck a chord with me was how they described a common reaction we get when coming out as "absolute condescension". Being told that when I find the right person I'll understand; I pretty much expect that from people. I'm sure most of us do. Actually, they addressed a lot of things that are just a way of life for many of us and made it sound like these are legitimate issues and people should care and it just... was weirdly validating and alarming at the same time? Did anyone else get that?
  13. Naegleria fowleri

    Early signs that you were aro

    I could never picture myself sharing a bed with someone for the rest of my life 😄
  14. Naegleria fowleri

    Aromantic irony

    Aromantic being auto corrected to "a romantic"... no honey, that's not what I meant.
  15. Naegleria fowleri

    What Is Romantic Attraction?

    It starts out subconsciously. You don't even realize you like them yet. You meet someone and you find yourself making excuses to be around them. And then suddenly you notice these feelings, they pop up out of nowhere. You can nip it in the bud early with willpower, but otherwise it's got you man. Being around them is like the best thing ever and when they leave it's like being hungry, but for their attention. Have you ever listened to a new song or album, played a new video game, read a new book, or started a new TV series, and you just love it and it's all you can think about? All day you look forward to the moment you get to come home and spend time with your new song/album/video game/book/TV series? It's a little like that. And you don't just want to be around them, you want to be theirs. Maybe you want to kiss, hold hands, or lean on each other while watching TV. Romantic attraction (to me) is the desire to become romantically involved, and this desire is focused on a specific person. Anyway, that's my personal insight based on observation and outright asking friends and family, "So what does a crush feel like?"
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