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hippiesthop

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    Kelly
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    Female
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    she/her/hers
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    Minnesota
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    Student
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    Aromantic
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    Asexual

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  1. hippiesthop

    Origins of Romantic Feelings

    That's an interesting article. I disagree with a lot of stuff in it, but one thing I found interesting was the author's love of water was equal to (not just equivalent, literally the same) as how she experiences romantic attraction. At first I thought she was saying she's romantically attracted to water, which she kind of is, but whatever, but then once she got around to explaining why she thought that it got more relevant to my curiosity. She says romantic attraction is something you feel with your entire body, and if she says it's the same feeling as her love of water, I am not qualified to say she's wrong. She goes on to talk about scientific reasons for romantic attraction, though she tends to mix that and sexual attraction. Though I suppose some people who don't use the split attraction model probably think they are the same thing.
  2. hippiesthop

    Origins of Romantic Feelings

    I'm glad I asked this, hearing other peoples' thoughts is really interesting.
  3. hippiesthop

    Change one word!

    Bull economy
  4. hippiesthop

    How do you dream?

    I know there's already a topic on dreams, but I wanted to make a poll, see what's out there. I personally (almost) always in third person and am rarely in my dreams, but I know there's a lot of variation among my friends alone. Also, I'm aware lucid dreaming is a thing, and I want to know if there's anyone who lucid dreams whose dreams are often in third person.
  5. hippiesthop

    Change one word!

    Science fair
  6. hippiesthop

    would you rather

    Bird. I could be a parrot and they live real long, plus I feel like underwater is generally more dreary than on land/in trees. Fried rice or lo mein?
  7. hippiesthop

    Aromantic Life Simulator

    They're just salty because they put all their points into charisma and it got nerfed.
  8. As far as I'm aware, people can get crushes on you from the moment they meet you. However, and in my experience this has been more of a problem because both of us are then invested in our relationship, they can develop romantic feelings to you as they get to know you. Has anyone noticed any trends in which friends this happens to? Or any specific signs that what they're feeling is romantic and not platonic? I love my friends to death, but sometimes I get scared that they're developing crushes on me, and I think (hope) it's in my head and I'm just being paranoid (I probably am), but I don't want to lose another friend to my lack of romanticism and if anyone has an idea for preventive measures I'm here to hear them. Another thing to note: From what I've heard, alloromantic people have trouble staying in sexual platonic relationships without developing romantic feelings or distancing themselves platonically. If I had to guess I would say this is due to cognitive dissonance, a psychological phenomenon in which when people do things they don't agree with it basically creates tension in their brain and they are likely to either fit their actions to their thoughts or change their thoughts to fit their actions. Since sex is viewed by society as romantic, doing an action they see as romantic with another person over time brings on romantic feelings. Thoughts?
  9. hippiesthop

    Which Aromantic Flag?

    I like the one with white, when I see one of the others the yellow always clashes with the grey.
  10. hippiesthop

    You might be aro if...

    Alternatively, assumed you were bi or pan because you felt equally towards all genders.
  11. hippiesthop

    You might be aro if...

    Dated someone because you felt like you were supposed to.
  12. hippiesthop

    Ice Cream!

    Guess who had ice cream cake yesterday!
  13. hippiesthop

    Romantic Attraction

    We could describe a romantic relationship as a committed relationship in which all parties agree their feelings are not strictly platonic. My thought process on this is I know what I do feel: platonic attraction, so I describe it using terms I can identify with myself. I recognize not all people feel platonic attraction, so this won't work for everyone, but it's what makes sense to me.
  14. hippiesthop

    would you rather

    Both. Who needs sleep? But actually stay up late, cause that's when you can do things with your friends. Boats or trains?
  15. hippiesthop

    Advice - My best friends has a crush on me

    The truth, or something similar, will come out eventually. If you're going to be spending all summer together, you'd probably prefer to come out to her before then. If you don't, you'll be spending all your time together worrying about how she thinks about you, and when she's going to ask again, and how you'll dodge the question this time. It might make the friendship weird, yes, but for you it already is. If you do talk to her about it, make sure to tell us how it goes!
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