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DavidMS703

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About DavidMS703

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  • Birthday 09/19/1998

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  • Name
    David
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    male
  • Location
    Ithaca, NY
  • Romanticism
    aro
  • Sexuality
    demi, hetero probably

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  1. You can identify however you feel at this time. To quote Connie Glynn's great video about aromanticism, "Some people are what they are forever, and that is valid, and some people change their identity, and that is also valid." She goes on to say that, "This is my truth right now, and if it changes, it doesn't mean it was any less true." Which basically means, if you feel that an identity fits you in the present, you can identify with it even if you're not sure if it will always fit you. And you can still be on the spectrum if you have some level of romantic attraction, or not. Only you can define what you are because only you know exactly what you feel.
  2. I filled out the form a few days ago but haven't gotten the questionnaires.
  3. DavidMS703

    Our Favourite Aromantic Songs

    Heart Eater by aromantic YouTuber Connie Glynn is a great one. Her other original song, Video Boy, has some lyrics to suggest not having romantic feelings toward real people but is about being romantically interested in a virtual character. Another good one is Me, Myself, and I by G-Eazy and Bebe Rexha.
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    Hi!

    Welcome Nicole! Here's some ice cream. I'm David. I'm not sure if you meant the state or the city, but I'm in New York State as well. You've come to the right place for answers about the aromantic spectrum, so I hope you enjoy the site.
  5. I tried to write a Wikipedia page, but they merged it back with romantic orientation because it didn't have enough content for them.
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    Celebrity squishes?

    I don't know if she counts as a celebrity, but Connie Glynn. I think she is the most of a celebrity of identified aromantic people, and I feel like she understands me in ways most people I actually know don't for that and other reasons, and her personality is the type I feel I would get along really well with.
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    my parents think i am in denial

    I would recommend telling them what you are because I think it will be easier for them to accept something they have a name for and can read about online. It still took some people a while to accept that as who I really was, I think mainly because I had tried to find a romantic partner before I knew my own identity because of the messages society had sent me saying I was "supposed to" do that. Still, many people who were trying to support me went from seeing my not wanting to date as an extreme decision I had made because of rejection to understanding that romantic relationships weren't for me once they had a name for how I felt. And unless your parents can invent a device that accurately identifies everything a person is feeling somehow, they don't have the proper authority to accurately tell you how you feel, so maybe it would be a good idea to point that out to them. These are just my suggestions. Some people believe so strongly in the idea that romantic love and the desire for a romantic relationship is universal among all humans (amatonormativity) that it's really hard to convince them that anything contradictory to that is true.
  8. You can totally still be aromantic and like those things. Aromanticism is only defined by what you yourself feel for other people, not what kinds of books and movies you like or what you do or don't understand about other people. I personally don't mind if romance is involved in media that has an actual story I'm interested in, though I don't especially like extended kissing scenes but I'll watch through them to get to more stuff I'm interested in. I actually really like the show "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend," partly because it's a funny story about the worst of the types of drama I basically get to just bypass without experiencing them myself, kind of like the time when I was on a bus that got to bypass a big traffic jam by using a bus lane, and I enjoyed seeing people just sitting still in their cars as the bus went by them.
  9. I believe that there are more of us than anyone knows due to our relative invisibility that makes many of us think romantic relationships are for everyone and keep trying to make them work. I almost ended up on that path myself, but difficulty in finding romantic relationships gave me a chance to reflect on why that was something I felt like I needed and realized it wasn't something I really felt and had just been pushed on me by society. My plan now is to try to spread aromantic visibility so people who may be aro but not know it can find out that that's an option.
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    Where might I fall?

    You could definitely be aromantic. If you don't see your relationships or attractions as romantic then they're probably not. I have only really been interested in having that type of close friendship you describe with females; I've never been quite sure why and some people have tried to invalidate my aromantic identity with a logical fallacy about that fact about my relationships, but since they don't feel like anything romantic to me that means I can still be aromantic and so can you if that's the label you feel fits you.
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    Aro playlist

    Another one I would suggest adding is Me, Myself, and I by G-Eazy and Bebe Rexha.
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    Aro playlist

    Connie Glynn is an aromantic artist who has released two original songs, "Heart Eater" and "Video Boy." "Heart Eater" describes very well the feeling of thinking you're broken because you don't have romantic feelings, and "Video Boy" is about wanting a relationship with a character on a screen but having no romantic interest in real people.
  13. It does sound like you might be aromantic, though only you can determine that for sure. I think you should explain your situation to her before ending anything. I don't know your ages from this post, but I know that parents and legal guardians have more power than they should in many cases with anyone under 18. If you do identify yourself as aromantic, her parents might be more comfortable with you knowing you don't have romantic feelings for anyone, but I think it's more likely they'll think you're just pretending so you can see her. But my best advice is just to tell her about your feelings and see what she wants to do about it. Do you know how much she is into romantic stuff? Because some people, even who don't identify as aromantic, care more about the person they are with than the type of relationship they have.
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    Hello everyone!

    Welcome to the community Clarice. Here's some ice cream. You can like romance in stories or movies, or have romantic fantasies, and still be aromantic. You sound a lot like Connie here, so I think listening to her experience might help you, but aromanticism means not feeling romantic attraction to real people, and other than that there's a lot of variation between us.
  15. Hi everyone. I shared my story about being aro on Matthew's Place. Here it is if you want to read it: https://medium.com/matthews-place/learning-about-aromanticism-deff2ca1486?source=collection_home---2------0----------------
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