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    Prickly Ball of Aro

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    The Antipodes
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    Greyasexual of some form

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  1. Apathetic Echidna

    The thinking asexual

    I had come across it before but the writing style is not something I can pleasantly read, so I would really have to be in 'the mood' to more than skim read their stuff (really some of it reminds me of Anthropology articles I read at Uni). I did just now though read through the whole https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/2015/11/13/the-asexual-and-aromantic-identity-spectrums-dont-make-sense/ There are some good points as per the semantics of who/how meaning of attraction for different labels and ultimately the model they propose makes more logical sense if the whole non-allo section of society is going to be used for psychological or philosophy studies. But really, I can't agree with them as I do see aces and aros as being on the same line of spectrum as demi- and grey- and allos though using the terms 'aces' and 'aros' as shorthand when people are talking of that end of the spectrum is a bit annoying simply because then what are you going to call a group of asexuals or a group of aromantics and have people understand that there is no attraction experience in the room? Also I think there is an easy sidestep around the semantics issue How are aromantics attracted to people? Compute error: No Who are aromantics attracted to? Not Applicable
  2. good overview, but point 7 gets too technical too fast. It really feels like someone else wrote the last point as it doesn't fit with the light intro the rest of the article is.
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    Did Aromanticism Used to be "the Norm" in Western Society?

    okay, so being a (most likely misinformed) bored person who trawled the internet one night I came across a discussion about dating. One person had pulled a set of quotes from some historical correspondence. I don't know the original context of the correspondence, and being of classical origin, it is doubtful anyone knows what the context really was...I guess we are all stuck with supposition? anyway I'll post the stuff I directly saved from the conversation (the top line is a hyperlink to the original Tumblr post) they were obviously interpreting it all as romantic, and holding these classical examples as being a benchmark of a good romantic relationship. So as time goes on, because we don't know for certain much of the context of history, the modern views will be skewing our sense of history anyway. I sort of forgot what my point was....I'll probably be back to clear up points or edit this post of something when I am feeling more clear
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    Anyone want to help me make a website?

    @Naegleria fowleri you could, but it is sort of covered in more general terms. I sort of see Apressexual as the little cousin of WTFsexual ~ you can identify the attractions eventually but they are still pretty much inseparable and possibly still confusing. Maybe make it a footnote to another term?
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    Anyone want to help me make a website?

    Just put a comment on your asexual page for my own situation, but I tried showing that it is sort of covered by other terms and it's basic opposite (I really believe that what you define yourself as is equally balanced between what you are and what you certainly are not). That was the biggest problem when I was looking into my own labels, I found many definitions but little context in some of the labels I was interested in so the idea of comments from actual people that identify that way is great
  6. Yay! I forgot to mention this one in my own post as for many many years, way before knowing about aromanticism, I would tell everyone that it was my favourite romantic movie. Technically it is still my favourite romantic* movie. *romantic in this way being used in the way that that Asexual gets quoted about saying that Tron is the most erotic film. So not at all in the common understanding, but still a deeply effecting movie. on the same sort of early 2000s UK splash gore with interesting premise is the soldier vs werewolf movie Dog Soldiers (also 2002). It has been awhile since I watched it, and there is a token female character dropped into a platoon of men who are assumed to be quite starved for life outside of their duties so there might be some noticeable undertones in some interactions, but from what I remember they are more scared/bravado/sexual/hate sort of thing rather than possibly romantic. EDIT: so I went and watched the movie again (it is awesome 😜) and the first 2 minutes 30 seconds does have a couple on a camping adventure, but it is not overtly romantic and it doesn't take long for the screaming to start - and really you can skip those first few minutes even though it does introduce a sort of key point you can still understand the story without it. As for later in the movie there are some very overt sarcastic comments but they are definitely not romantic (definitely the scared/bravado/sexual/hate sort of thing)
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    Hello! Guess I should introduce myself

    Welcome! have some colour themed digital aro icecream It is very cool that you have asexual meetings in your area! do you see other aromantic (or at least aro-spectum) people there too? I hope you enjoy the forums
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    Trying to Figure Out Who I Am

    Wow a bumper sticker! that is a really cool way to find out about aromanticism, though very lucky as that is probably a very uncommon sight, an aro bumpersticker. Welcome, I hope you decide to delve into learning the vocabulary, it really does help with expressing yourself and joining discussions..and just expanding your language skills (before I found this forum I never knew about limerance and that was coined back in '77)
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    Tell me about your day

    @Tired-Sparo Thanks, I hope it goes away fully soon too! Lol, the job doesn't last long (like once a month for 4 months), it is just a bonus thing I do. As for books well .....I read so much! but at the moment I am reading the Dream Catcher series by SheHopes on Wattpad. Which is free and well written and a supernatural/psychic crime drama story.
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    Nice aro merch

    wow there is so much merch on that site! I gotta love this one though https://www.redbubble.com/people/caseisolus/works/15981330-naaah-aromantic?grid_pos=22&p=t-shirt&rbs=f5ac15ce-e36f-46e2-8cd7-a216c3d78415&ref=shop_grid&style=mens
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    Tell me about your day

    I'm getting over a cold, the symptoms are almost totally gone...but last night I slept about 14 hours so obviously there are still some things not right. Then I did a ridiculous amount of washing. Done 10 loads, and I probably have about 3 more. Most of it is for work so I get paid to turn a washing machine on and dance around to funky music and read. Later this afternoon I am picking up some lost property related to a family mystery that hopefully we will be able to solve soon. The Mystery is so weird. Apparently someone left a bag of papers at a restaurant far from where me or any of my family live, and the papers are all 35+ year old tax/property things from my grandparents. Hopefully seeing the papers will shed some light on how they appeared at the restaurant. I'm getting over a cold, the symptoms are almost totally gone...but last night I slept about 14 hours so obviously there are still some things not right. Then I did a ridiculous amount of washing. Done 10 load
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    What is sold at an inconvenience store?

    A car dust cover storage and cleaning service, for all those times you take the car out and don't know what to do with your dusty dust cover.
  13. Apathetic Echidna

    Wanting internet friends

    find a topic you both share an interest in and start an in-depth discussion and see where it takes you. TV shows, music and sports are generally good areas to find shared interests in. (conversations about animals or celebrities can become shallow or dead ends when talking with new people). If you get to the point of recommending things to each other call the conversation a success
  14. Apathetic Echidna

    Hello, I am a newb!

    Welcome Yeah, we seem to be spread thin on the world...well the ones of us that know about the orientation labels, I feel there are many more a-spectrum peeps that just don't know the terms
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    Confused hello from newbie

    Welcome! Yeah, there doesn't seem to be much exposure and information around. It is sort of sad that I truly believe the small forum here which has links to outside articles is a fairly comprehensive archive of the articles available. There is some good stuff there (and some slightly worrying things, like aro representatives in interviews being less than healthy/stable). This is massively accurate. For my sexuality I did the same thing, I was massively confused and spent weeks/months dissecting ancient feelings and experiences which I now totally count as internal proof and validation of my sexuality. I hated the confusion at the time, but looking back I am grateful for it as I feel that confused experience supports me now, I hope that as you learn about other people's experiences and become comfortable you too can think back on the current situation with fondness too. The fact that some of us don't want romantic relationships or are repulsed by them is sort of using the extremes to form the most distinct definition. There are many terms in the aro-spectrum glossary to describe all the nuanced ways people experience their orientations, though these are less well known and overlap or are indistinct because that is what the people who use them identify with. If you do still feel discordant with 'aromantic' because you feel it misses important parts of your desires you might be interested in the term Cupioromantic, I'm sure there are some conversations here or on AVEN which can give you a better idea of how people use it, but in it's simplest terms it is an aromantic (no attraction) who desires romance (action or feeling or something). I never got it explained to me by an actual Cupioromantic but I am sure there is variation in understandings. (the lack of accepted solid dictionary meanings for most of these terms makes everything slightly vague, so any vague questions are certainly welcome as then at least the vague answers will match the spirit of the vague question)