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  1. Skittles87

    Giving yourself up for romance

    My friend stopped watching Doctor Who because his wife doesn't like it, which is just mind-boggling to me.
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    Aromantic Character Headcanons

    Hell yes to this!
  3. Whatever you do, don't say that out loud - people do not react well to it, trust me! I totally agree though - it seems so suffocating and unhealthy. Unfortunately, society romanticises possessive behaviour so people tend to think it's a good thing.
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    Writing Thread

    I do this - use my laptop for writing prose, and pen and paper for writing poetry. I find that poetry "flows" better when I write with a pen rather than typing.
  5. Skittles87


    Like you said, no-one can give you a yes or no answer but sometimes your gut reaction will tell you what you need to know. For what it's worth, your experiences sound very similar to mine and I identify as aromantic. Regardless of whether or not you decide to use the label, this website and AVEN https://www.asexuality.org/ are good places to explore.
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    Aro-themed blog post

    Absolutely. Society worships romantic love, so there's a lot of pressure for people to always feel the grand passions of a romance novel. I doubt that's easy to maintain in a long-term relationship.
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    Aro-themed blog post

    This made me happy - I'd never made the connection with aero chocolates, haha. I hope you manage to write about your aro experiences someday.
  8. Skittles87

    Aromantic Character Headcanons

    This is without a doubt my fave thread on Arocalypse. Faith from Buffy the Vampire Slayer seems aro as hell to me, especially in Season 4. My reasoning (which is long-winded and complicated):- 1) When she wakes up from her coma, she's pissed at Buffy because in her eyes, Buffy screwed everything up for a guy (Angel) and now she's not even with him, but is dating some other guy (Riley). This is so relateable! It's annoying and difficult to understand when people sacrifice friendships and other important things for a romantic relationship, then break up with that person, then fall in love with someone else five minutes later. 2) When she has sex with Riley (in Buffy's body - it's complicated) she seems to be enjoying herself until Riley gets romantic, at which point she gets irritated and unsure. Afterwards, Riley says "I love you" and she freaks out and pushes him off her. Maybe this is supposed to be her thinking "Oh my gosh, perhaps I could be worthy of love and that's scary because I'm emotionally damaged!" but to me, it looks like that magical combination of romance repulsion and guilt because she's "using" him for sex. 3) More generally speaking, she just doesn't seem interested in romantic relationships. She kicks Xander out after sleeping with him, and there's this great scene where she's dancing with a bunch of guys and Buffy drags her away. She says "Call me!" but points at all of the guys instead of one of them, haha!
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    Aro-themed blog post

    Sorry about that, I posted a screwy link. Try this one:- https://corastillwrites.wordpress.com/
  10. The first time I kissed a guy, we were hugging at the end of a date and he said "Your heart's beating pretty fast." I wanted to tell him that I have an unusually quick pulse, but I figured I ought to kiss him instead. Felt like nothing. Tasted of nothing. Tongue was a bit intrusive I guess. Then afterwards, of course, I felt guilty.
  11. Hi everyone. I recently started a writing blog, and have just published a distinctly aro-themed post. It's called "What To Write About When You're 100% Done Writing About Love". Hopefully it will strike a chord with other aro writers, especially poets. Here's a link if you're interested in checking it out. https://wordpress.com/post/corastillwrites.wordpress.com/21
  12. Skittles87

    What are you reading?

    I'm reading "The Wind in the Willows". I never read it as a kid but watched a couple of the animated films so the story and some of the dialogue is very familiar. It's beautifully written.
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    What would you say to your younger self?

    I would tell my ten-year-old self "Kid, you have it all figured out. You know exactly what you want - a best friend, a pet snake, and to be a writer. Hang onto that because people are going to spend the next 20 years trying to convince you to want different things."
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    Boston College Professor

    Ooh, I'd like to see this - I'm fascinated by the whole thing. It's amazing to me that she got away with assigning her students dating. Not because it discriminates against aromantics (let's be honest, hardly anyone knows about us) but bececause universities tend to be culturally diverse places and there would surely be students from cultures where casual dating is considered inappropriate or immoral. In fact, dating is pretty specific to Americans of a certain generation. There's not much of a dating culture here in the UK, and I've heard plenty of young Americans joke about dating being an old-fashioned concept. I hope she doesn't get fired. This controversy could be a learning experience for her and for everyone else involved, but if she gets fired she'll just become a martyr to free speech.
  15. Skittles87

    Change one word!

    Greedy pig