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anzu2snow

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About anzu2snow

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  • Birthday November 7

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  • Name
    Rachel
  • Gender
    Agender
  • Pronouns
    she/her or they/them
  • Location
    USA
  • Romanticism
    aro
  • Sexuality
    ace

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  1. I created a group on facebook. A group focusing on all of Kitsap county. (Huge area.) I first called it Kitsap Aces, but switched to Kitsap Asexuals soon after. It was getting confused with ACES, which is a sex-positive kink group (if I remember correctly). Seattle is actually further away than it might seem, and they already have a group called Seattle Aces. (Wonder if they ever get confused with that, too...) I felt there needed to be something on this side of the water. Not everything should be over in Seattle or associated with it. I also contacted Seattle Aces, and they helped promote it, but didn’t do much else. There were a few people in that group that joined the Kitsap one as well. After some polling as to where/when we wanted to meet offline, I started the offline one of the same name. Only a friend I knew from before, who interestingly is demi, and my parent showed up. Most of the time that friend wasn’t there. I had reminders and such, and waited for close to a year. It never went anywhere. Only a couple other people posted on the online group besides me, and that was rare. I even put flyers up advertizing the group at Pride. Put them up at cafes around the county, too. Kitsap Pride tried helping a bit with it. But...again, the group was never active. I looked at creating a Meet Up group, but it costs. I’m not paying for something that may or might not work like that. The group could have agreed to that and pooled money or something. I also asked if we needed a different location or maybe even have it at my house, but nothing. So...it’s not like I haven’t tried, or I didn’t reach out to Seattle Aces. (Yes, I even talked to redbeardace.) I had so many ideas for the group. I really do want to meet more aces and aros locally. Sorry if I seem a little...irritated (is that the right word?) about it.
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    How do you dream?

    Most of the time it's in first person, usually me in them, and they're like real life. I've had mostly nightmares since I was 2. Hardly have good ones. They truly feel real. Almost too real. That makes them even scarier. I've tried lucid dreaming, and I can't change any of them during it. In fact, things got worse in those recurring dreams the next time around. I've had a dream where I slowly decay in a coffin. I feel, smell, touch, etc. everything. Another where I'm repeatedly ran over by a car. No, I don't wake up when I 'die' in these dreams. They just keep going. I've heard that's unusual. I've gotten used to them, and even wrote a collection of 12 short stories based on them.
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    At what temperature do you like to take your showers?

    I take hot showers. Hot enough that it's steamy. It's very relaxing, makes me feel extremely clean, fogs up the mirror so my dysphoria isn't triggered when I get out, and it's nice at the end of the day. I can't stand cold showers. I can never feel clean enough, my skin toughens up, and the feeling is unbearable to me. I also have a few skin issues, and oddly a hot shower helps with those.
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    Aromanticism and Religion

    I'm a Reform Jew. Was born and raised that way. My mom was Jewish ('was' because she passed away 6 years ago), and my other parent was raised Catholic. However, that other parent isn't Catholic, feels closer to Judaism, but feels she's Buddhist. Her family did not approve of her marrying a Jew, and my mom's Ultra Orthodox sister refused to go to the wedding or talk to her for 7 years. My parent's side occasionally tries to convert me...Makes for an odd mix of things when I meet either side in person. In that way, it's good I don't live near any of my other relatives besides my parent. There is quite a bit of amatonormitivity and heteronormitivity going on in Jewish communities. Even though I'm not orthodox, I've known congregants from synagogues (I'm not a member of either of the local ones anymore) try to set me up with someone. There's also a 'responsibility' of men to 'fulfill' the duty of satisfying their women sexually. Women are considered sexual beings. We're also told to be fruitful and multiply. There's a prayer that's beautiful, but it's referring to G-d as their 'beloved'. For us, G-d is referred to as a man and a woman. Typically a woman on Shabbat, or our Day of Rest. The interesting thing is we also feel that G-d is beyond gender. Everything and nothing at the same time. Interesting growing up with that when you're agender. Also, since we 'wrestle with G-d', many are atheist. I'm not, but even Ultra Orthodox Jews can be. We don't have a blind 'devotion' or something to G-d. We're told to question everything. I've thought about being more observant (like Modern Orthodox), but just can't right now. I can't go to a synagogue as much as I'd like, because I have an autoimmune disease. It would cost more to be fully kosher. Plus, I live with someone who doesn't eat kosher at all. Just lots of circumstantial stuff.
  5. I'm from Poulsbo, WA specifically. A little too much of a schlep to get to the Seattle Ace's meetings. They're the only ace group near me. I tried to create one for Kitsap county, but no one showed up offline. It'd be great to meet fellow aros, too.
  6. My cookbook, My Mother's Treasure Trove of Recipes, is finally out on Amazon! Yay! It's my 5th book, but 1st cookbook. It's based on the recipes my mom collected for 35 years in a photo album. She passed away in 2012, so this is like a tribute to her.

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    Memoir

    Hopefully this is the right section to post this is in... My memoir, More Than Meets the Eye, is available now on Amazon. Here's the description: A memoir of an aromantic asexual agender Jew. Who's a clarinetist, writer, adores cooking and food, has dealt with numerous health issues, and is an animal lover. I wanted to not only share parts of my life's story, but also to educate as well. I devote a whole chapter to being aro ace, and refer to it throughout. I even mention Arocalypse. Thought it would be great for visibility this way, too. Here's the ebook: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0782911WS?ref_=pe_2427780_160035660 Here's the paperback: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1973511207?ref_=pe_870760_150889320
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    How old are you?

    I'm 32, and will be turning 33 in November.
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    To "come out"

    I've come out to pretty much everyone. It didn't get as big of a reaction on facebook as I did with telling them I'm ace. Facebook is where most of my friends and family keep in contact with me. I think many people don't understand it. At least, they seem to be learning through some of the stuff I post. I think one of the worst reactions was when I came out as aro ace last Thanksgiving. We were at a couple's place, who have been friends of the family for years. They're pretty much family now. Anyways, it was after most people had left, except for the hosts, my parent (she knew beforehand), me, and this older lady who's set in her ways. The hosts were cool with it (even thought the idea made sense), and wanted to learn more. That lady kept saying things like: "You'll change your mind some day." "You just haven't found the right man." "It's just a phase." When I got into talking about how I wanted to be in a qpr, she didn't quite get it. She said: "Isn't that just friendship?" "You want a companion, you can get a dog." It was weird. The hosts and my parent were sticking up for me, but it was difficult. Coming out as agender was even more out there for some people. I only came out with that about a month or two ago. Again, most people just want to learn about it. Hopefully, people who are thinking about coming out will have positive outcomes.
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    Aros and alcohol (poll)

    I don't drink. Mainly because of my meds, but I also never really liked the taste. I do like it when it's used in cooking. All the actual alcohol burns off, you get an interesting flavor left behind, and it tenderizes things like meats. My parents wanted me to be into drinking it. As a kid (probably around 9 or 10), they introduced me to manishewitz. It was ok, but not as great as grape juice to me. Later, in my teens they tried to get me into riesling. Still, wasn't into it. For my 19th birthday in college, all the girls on my dorm floor tried to get me to drink a lot. They tried to get me to drink a huge tumbler of mixed wine coolers. I threw it all up immediately. They took me to Greek Row, and gave me beer. Hated the taste, but gave in to peer pressure and drank it. Got a little tipsy, but not bad. That was one of the last times I actually drank alcohol. Was not a fun time, and seeing the girls get really drunk and their personalities change was also a turn-off. I think truly the last time was when I was about 23. (I'm 32 now.) I couldn't sleep and had horrible withdrawal symptoms from a med. My mom suggested I have a huge glass of vodka quickly. That was...an experience I didn't want on top of everything else. It didn't really help me. I don't understand the obsession with it.
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    Favourite Anime/Manga(s)?

    I have a lot of faves. I think Gintama tops it for me. It'll have you laughing hysterically one minute, and crying the next. Crying at even seemingly stupid things. The action's awesome, the story is actually complex (people who have only seen a few episodes will probably say there isn't one, but that's so wrong), every character is unique in their own way and have something to offer, the main character has a lot of flaws but for some reason seems stronger because of them (he seems more human this way), there are aliens and samurai (strange and interesting mix), and so much more. I have a lot of fave manga, too. Probably Kuroshitsuji tops them all. The art in the manga is gorgeous and detailed. The story has so many twists and turns. I usually can predict what's going to happen in many manga/anime, but this is different. It's really dark, but I like that. I don't think the anime series is nearly as good. Although, the Book of... anime versions have been exactly like those manga arcs. So, they're pretty good.
  12. I'm starting to realize that I'm agender. Been thinking about my gender for the past few months. So, I'm a triple A. :D Sounds weird. I think I'll stick to she/her pronouns for now, since I'm used to them.  

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    Do you wear glasses?

    I'm nearsighted, wear contacts, and have an astigmatism in both eyes. The astigmatism is worse in one of them. I think my overall sight is worse in that eye, too. I had to start wearing glasses when I was 7. Switched to contacts when I was about 24. Contacts have been 100 times better. I almost forget I'm wearing them during the day. With glasses, especially when I was little, I kept breaking them. The first time I had them, I would walk into walls. It took a while for my brain to get used to it, and my depth perception was off. They were always dirty, too. Fogged up easily. The parts behind my ears and on my nose were always uncomfortable, and often painful. Haven't had much of an issue with contacts.
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    Print Versions of Both My Books

    I'm so happy! I made print versions of both my books, and Amazon accepted them, published them, and they're now available in paperback. The first one, Alliance, took a while to convert from the ebook version to the print one. It's a fantasy novel. The entire cover has an abstract meaning to it, and I think I like it a lot. The print version was published about a week ago. My second book, Sweet Endless Terror, took basically a day to convert to print. The cover didn't take long, either. It's 12 short stories based on my recurring nightmares. I like how it's cover turned out, too. It's a lot more straight forward looking than Alliance. I created both covers, using pictures I took, my drawings, and photoshop. I just thought it'd be nice to share my happy news.
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    Hi Everyone!

    @shotinthehand, the first one's called Alliance, and the second one's Sweet Endless Terror: An Anthology of Nightmares. With Alliance, it's a fantasy, mystery, and has some horror. In their world, humans and demons are segregated, with demons getting the best schools, housing, hospitals, etc. Shadow, the main character, is the first to be admitted to what was once a demon's only college that's opened its doors to everyone. With SET, it's 12 short stories based on my recurring nightmares. (I've had many more than 12.) Definitely full of horror. They're both on Amazon now. First time using their promos for SET, and it's doing much better than it did in other places. I'm really excited about both of them now.
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