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About anzu2snow

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  • Birthday November 7

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  • Name
    Rachel
  • Gender
    female
  • Pronouns
    she/her
  • Location
    USA
  • Romanticism
    aro
  • Sexuality
    ace

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  1. How old are you?

    I'm 32, and will be turning 33 in November.
  2. To "come out"

    I've come out to pretty much everyone. It didn't get as big of a reaction on facebook as I did with telling them I'm ace. Facebook is where most of my friends and family keep in contact with me. I think many people don't understand it. At least, they seem to be learning through some of the stuff I post. I think one of the worst reactions was when I came out as aro ace last Thanksgiving. We were at a couple's place, who have been friends of the family for years. They're pretty much family now. Anyways, it was after most people had left, except for the hosts, my parent (she knew beforehand), me, and this older lady who's set in her ways. The hosts were cool with it (even thought the idea made sense), and wanted to learn more. That lady kept saying things like: "You'll change your mind some day." "You just haven't found the right man." "It's just a phase." When I got into talking about how I wanted to be in a qpr, she didn't quite get it. She said: "Isn't that just friendship?" "You want a companion, you can get a dog." It was weird. The hosts and my parent were sticking up for me, but it was difficult. Coming out as agender was even more out there for some people. I only came out with that about a month or two ago. Again, most people just want to learn about it. Hopefully, people who are thinking about coming out will have positive outcomes.
  3. Aros and alcohol (poll)

    I don't drink. Mainly because of my meds, but I also never really liked the taste. I do like it when it's used in cooking. All the actual alcohol burns off, you get an interesting flavor left behind, and it tenderizes things like meats. My parents wanted me to be into drinking it. As a kid (probably around 9 or 10), they introduced me to manishewitz. It was ok, but not as great as grape juice to me. Later, in my teens they tried to get me into riesling. Still, wasn't into it. For my 19th birthday in college, all the girls on my dorm floor tried to get me to drink a lot. They tried to get me to drink a huge tumbler of mixed wine coolers. I threw it all up immediately. They took me to Greek Row, and gave me beer. Hated the taste, but gave in to peer pressure and drank it. Got a little tipsy, but not bad. That was one of the last times I actually drank alcohol. Was not a fun time, and seeing the girls get really drunk and their personalities change was also a turn-off. I think truly the last time was when I was about 23. (I'm 32 now.) I couldn't sleep and had horrible withdrawal symptoms from a med. My mom suggested I have a huge glass of vodka quickly. That was...an experience I didn't want on top of everything else. It didn't really help me. I don't understand the obsession with it.
  4. Favourite Anime/Manga(s)?

    I have a lot of faves. I think Gintama tops it for me. It'll have you laughing hysterically one minute, and crying the next. Crying at even seemingly stupid things. The action's awesome, the story is actually complex (people who have only seen a few episodes will probably say there isn't one, but that's so wrong), every character is unique in their own way and have something to offer, the main character has a lot of flaws but for some reason seems stronger because of them (he seems more human this way), there are aliens and samurai (strange and interesting mix), and so much more. I have a lot of fave manga, too. Probably Kuroshitsuji tops them all. The art in the manga is gorgeous and detailed. The story has so many twists and turns. I usually can predict what's going to happen in many manga/anime, but this is different. It's really dark, but I like that. I don't think the anime series is nearly as good. Although, the Book of... anime versions have been exactly like those manga arcs. So, they're pretty good.
  5. I'm starting to realize that I'm agender. Been thinking about my gender for the past few months. So, I'm a triple A. :D Sounds weird. I think I'll stick to she/her pronouns for now, since I'm used to them.  

    1. omitef

      omitef

      congraaats

  6. Do you wear glasses?

    I'm nearsighted, wear contacts, and have an astigmatism in both eyes. The astigmatism is worse in one of them. I think my overall sight is worse in that eye, too. I had to start wearing glasses when I was 7. Switched to contacts when I was about 24. Contacts have been 100 times better. I almost forget I'm wearing them during the day. With glasses, especially when I was little, I kept breaking them. The first time I had them, I would walk into walls. It took a while for my brain to get used to it, and my depth perception was off. They were always dirty, too. Fogged up easily. The parts behind my ears and on my nose were always uncomfortable, and often painful. Haven't had much of an issue with contacts.
  7. Print Versions of Both My Books

    I'm so happy! I made print versions of both my books, and Amazon accepted them, published them, and they're now available in paperback. The first one, Alliance, took a while to convert from the ebook version to the print one. It's a fantasy novel. The entire cover has an abstract meaning to it, and I think I like it a lot. The print version was published about a week ago. My second book, Sweet Endless Terror, took basically a day to convert to print. The cover didn't take long, either. It's 12 short stories based on my recurring nightmares. I like how it's cover turned out, too. It's a lot more straight forward looking than Alliance. I created both covers, using pictures I took, my drawings, and photoshop. I just thought it'd be nice to share my happy news.
  8. Hi Everyone!

    @shotinthehand, the first one's called Alliance, and the second one's Sweet Endless Terror: An Anthology of Nightmares. With Alliance, it's a fantasy, mystery, and has some horror. In their world, humans and demons are segregated, with demons getting the best schools, housing, hospitals, etc. Shadow, the main character, is the first to be admitted to what was once a demon's only college that's opened its doors to everyone. With SET, it's 12 short stories based on my recurring nightmares. (I've had many more than 12.) Definitely full of horror. They're both on Amazon now. First time using their promos for SET, and it's doing much better than it did in other places. I'm really excited about both of them now.
  9. S.A.G.E Gender Test

    This was weird. Lots of sexist things, and for some questions, I couldn't agree with any of the answers. Things were worded oddly, too. Some, didn't seem to matter with the subject. I just was curious what the results would be, even though I'm a cis woman. Ended up being androgenous, appearance is female, apparently am ftm, have had mild conflicts with my gender identity, and crossdress. Interesting, but a whole lot of nope. Although, I have to say, some days I'm really into feminine things like makeup, certain clothes, jewelry, etc. Other days, I could really care less. Like, have zero interest. So, I guess I might swing a bit on that. But, certainly not into stuff that would be considered masculine. I've been misgendered in the past, and it felt so wrong. Not a great thing.
  10. How many of us are musicians?

    I've been playing the clarinet since I was 10. Was in concert band, pep band, marching band, and pit orchestra in high school. Marching band in college until I almost (never found out if I did) broke my tailbone. Walked differently ever since, but I really miss it. Now I just play for myself. For me, it's calming and boosts my self esteem. I would like to start a klezmer band some day. I also played fiddle about a year before I started playing the clarinet. Before that, the recorder.
  11. Religion Thread

    I'm a Reform Jew. Basically, the most liberal branch. (Or, some people refer to these branches as movements.) However, I do want to become more observant in the future. Possibly being Modern Orthodox, nothing like regular or Ultra. There are so many branches of Orthodoxy, let alone the religion as a whole. I just feel I can't at the moment. Having a chronic illness where your food is already restricted, makes it difficult to keep fully kosher. I've omitted pork and shellfish products since I was 14, at least. Taking an immunosuppressant makes it difficult to go to shul (Yiddish for synagogue), and I don't particularly like the local ones, too. Hopefully, in the future I can or figure out a better way to do it. Sorry to sound so down about it...Also, in my religion people can be atheist. (I'm not, though.) Some of the most observant are. We're told to wrestle with G-d after all. My mom's side ranges pretty much all the branches. Parent's side is Irish Catholic. So, it's an interesting mix. I was raised Reform, but both my parents encouraged me to go with how I felt about it. I love learning about other religions, and an cool with people who don't follow one. I was the only Jew at school, and one of a very small handful college. I'm used to being an 'ambassador', but never proselytize. It's against my religion. It's about education.
  12. How tall are you?

    I'm 5'4". Interestingly, when I was at my heaviest I was 5'6". This was according to doctors/nurses during both times. I've lost over 120 pounds now. Shoe size shrunk back to what it was in high school, too. I didn't think that stuff can change. Anyways, since I live in a Norwegian theme town, and most of the 'natives' have Scandinavian ancestry I'm considered short here. Yet, it's supposedly average for the rest of the country. My mom was 5'1", and parent is 5'11". Not far off from the middle of those.
  13. I'm aro ace, 32, and have only had one romantic relationship. It lasted for about 2 1/2 years. I didn't seek it out, and I kind of feel like I was suckered into it. I met him when I was eating at a cafeteria in college with about 5 other girls I was friends with and were from the same dorm floor. Also, had similar interests, and they got me into anime. Anyways, he suddenly appeared while we were talking about anime. He kept staring at me and talking only towards me. My friends were iffy about him. Eventually we became close, and I thought we were good friends. About a month later, he said if I don't tell him I love him within a week, I'll never see him again. It kind of shocked me. Thinking I didn't want to lose a good friend, I said it. At the very beginning, it was incredibly suffocating and he wanted to monopolize my time. He didn't want me spending time with my friends, and friends grew distant anyway. I eventually got used to it, and felt like I had to pretend. I liked some of it at times, but never initiated it. Never got over the bruising kisses and bone-crushing 'romantic' hugs. He'd also carry me sometimes, which was scary to me. I grew very emotionally close to him, and then on Valentine's Day (supposedly one of the most romantic days of the year), he dumped me over the phone across the state. It hurt badly, but not romantically. Just emotionally/platonically. I've had many guys try to date me, but I was so oblivious, I didn't realize I was on dates. I've tried to date because my parents kept urging me to. That just felt incredibly awkward, a waste of time, they were interested in doing things I wasn't, and the guys seemed creepy to me.
  14. Aromantic Moments

    When I went to my 10-year high school reunion, there was I guy I thought I was good friends with back then. The first thing he blurted out to me was: "I'm married now!" And, then proceeded to quickly walk away. No hi or anything. I was really confused and stunned. This was the guy who did a science project with me at his place, had study sessions there, invited me to a bunch of parties (again at his place, and there were mostly guys at them), asked me to stay and eat dinner with him after studying, etc. I was confused by some of it at the time, but apparently he liked me romantically? Strange. There was another guy I thought I was good friends with back in high school. I've told people about him, and apparently he seemed almost stalkerish, and really romantically interested. He asked me to have him as my +1 at the band dance/party, joined band even though all he did was hold a banner during parades and normally was apart of the choir, always sat next to me, got angry if my other friends sat next to me, also invited me to parties, asked me to be his partner at graduation, etc. I was oblivious to it all. Only thinking about things like the dress and food when I thought about having a wedding. Not about an actual partner. My parent was upset about this recently. (This was before she knew I was aro.)
  15. Hi Everyone!

    @omitef Yeah, I told my parent (she's a trans woman, but sometimes I still call her Dad. Can't call her Mom, because my mom passed away...) and those friends who are like family about qpr's at Thanksgiving. That rude lady was there, too. Since I told them I'm aro ace, we ended up talking about relationships, and they wanted to know if I'd be happy without one. I explained that a qpr is basically like a relationship without the sexual and romantic stuff. What do you have left? My parent said it sounded a lot like what her relationship was to my mom when my mom started to get sick. The friends of ours have an interesting relationship anyways. They never wanted kids, and to spite the idea of a traditional wedding, they had it on Halloween. People dressed up in costumes instead. Sounded cool. They loved the idea, too. The other lady said: "a relationship is entirely built on that! Without that you have nothing!" I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with telling people.
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