anzu2snow

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About anzu2snow

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    Rachel
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    female
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    USA
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    aro
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  1. I have a lot of faves. I think Gintama tops it for me. It'll have you laughing hysterically one minute, and crying the next. Crying at even seemingly stupid things. The action's awesome, the story is actually complex (people who have only seen a few episodes will probably say there isn't one, but that's so wrong), every character is unique in their own way and have something to offer, the main character has a lot of flaws but for some reason seems stronger because of them (he seems more human this way), there are aliens and samurai (strange and interesting mix), and so much more. I have a lot of fave manga, too. Probably Kuroshitsuji tops them all. The art in the manga is gorgeous and detailed. The story has so many twists and turns. I usually can predict what's going to happen in many manga/anime, but this is different. It's really dark, but I like that. I don't think the anime series is nearly as good. Although, the Book of... anime versions have been exactly like those manga arcs. So, they're pretty good.
  2. I'm starting to realize that I'm agender. Been thinking about my gender for the past few months. So, I'm a triple A. :D Sounds weird. I think I'll stick to she/her pronouns for now, since I'm used to them.  

  3. I'm nearsighted, wear contacts, and have an astigmatism in both eyes. The astigmatism is worse in one of them. I think my overall sight is worse in that eye, too. I had to start wearing glasses when I was 7. Switched to contacts when I was about 24. Contacts have been 100 times better. I almost forget I'm wearing them during the day. With glasses, especially when I was little, I kept breaking them. The first time I had them, I would walk into walls. It took a while for my brain to get used to it, and my depth perception was off. They were always dirty, too. Fogged up easily. The parts behind my ears and on my nose were always uncomfortable, and often painful. Haven't had much of an issue with contacts.
  4. I'm so happy! I made print versions of both my books, and Amazon accepted them, published them, and they're now available in paperback. The first one, Alliance, took a while to convert from the ebook version to the print one. It's a fantasy novel. The entire cover has an abstract meaning to it, and I think I like it a lot. The print version was published about a week ago. My second book, Sweet Endless Terror, took basically a day to convert to print. The cover didn't take long, either. It's 12 short stories based on my recurring nightmares. I like how it's cover turned out, too. It's a lot more straight forward looking than Alliance. I created both covers, using pictures I took, my drawings, and photoshop. I just thought it'd be nice to share my happy news.
  5. @shotinthehand, the first one's called Alliance, and the second one's Sweet Endless Terror: An Anthology of Nightmares. With Alliance, it's a fantasy, mystery, and has some horror. In their world, humans and demons are segregated, with demons getting the best schools, housing, hospitals, etc. Shadow, the main character, is the first to be admitted to what was once a demon's only college that's opened its doors to everyone. With SET, it's 12 short stories based on my recurring nightmares. (I've had many more than 12.) Definitely full of horror. They're both on Amazon now. First time using their promos for SET, and it's doing much better than it did in other places. I'm really excited about both of them now.
  6. This was weird. Lots of sexist things, and for some questions, I couldn't agree with any of the answers. Things were worded oddly, too. Some, didn't seem to matter with the subject. I just was curious what the results would be, even though I'm a cis woman. Ended up being androgenous, appearance is female, apparently am ftm, have had mild conflicts with my gender identity, and crossdress. Interesting, but a whole lot of nope. Although, I have to say, some days I'm really into feminine things like makeup, certain clothes, jewelry, etc. Other days, I could really care less. Like, have zero interest. So, I guess I might swing a bit on that. But, certainly not into stuff that would be considered masculine. I've been misgendered in the past, and it felt so wrong. Not a great thing.
  7. I've been playing the clarinet since I was 10. Was in concert band, pep band, marching band, and pit orchestra in high school. Marching band in college until I almost (never found out if I did) broke my tailbone. Walked differently ever since, but I really miss it. Now I just play for myself. For me, it's calming and boosts my self esteem. I would like to start a klezmer band some day. I also played fiddle about a year before I started playing the clarinet. Before that, the recorder.
  8. I'm a Reform Jew. Basically, the most liberal branch. (Or, some people refer to these branches as movements.) However, I do want to become more observant in the future. Possibly being Modern Orthodox, nothing like regular or Ultra. There are so many branches of Orthodoxy, let alone the religion as a whole. I just feel I can't at the moment. Having a chronic illness where your food is already restricted, makes it difficult to keep fully kosher. I've omitted pork and shellfish products since I was 14, at least. Taking an immunosuppressant makes it difficult to go to shul (Yiddish for synagogue), and I don't particularly like the local ones, too. Hopefully, in the future I can or figure out a better way to do it. Sorry to sound so down about it...Also, in my religion people can be atheist. (I'm not, though.) Some of the most observant are. We're told to wrestle with G-d after all. My mom's side ranges pretty much all the branches. Parent's side is Irish Catholic. So, it's an interesting mix. I was raised Reform, but both my parents encouraged me to go with how I felt about it. I love learning about other religions, and an cool with people who don't follow one. I was the only Jew at school, and one of a very small handful college. I'm used to being an 'ambassador', but never proselytize. It's against my religion. It's about education.
  9. I'm 5'4". Interestingly, when I was at my heaviest I was 5'6". This was according to doctors/nurses during both times. I've lost over 120 pounds now. Shoe size shrunk back to what it was in high school, too. I didn't think that stuff can change. Anyways, since I live in a Norwegian theme town, and most of the 'natives' have Scandinavian ancestry I'm considered short here. Yet, it's supposedly average for the rest of the country. My mom was 5'1", and parent is 5'11". Not far off from the middle of those.
  10. I'm aro ace, 32, and have only had one romantic relationship. It lasted for about 2 1/2 years. I didn't seek it out, and I kind of feel like I was suckered into it. I met him when I was eating at a cafeteria in college with about 5 other girls I was friends with and were from the same dorm floor. Also, had similar interests, and they got me into anime. Anyways, he suddenly appeared while we were talking about anime. He kept staring at me and talking only towards me. My friends were iffy about him. Eventually we became close, and I thought we were good friends. About a month later, he said if I don't tell him I love him within a week, I'll never see him again. It kind of shocked me. Thinking I didn't want to lose a good friend, I said it. At the very beginning, it was incredibly suffocating and he wanted to monopolize my time. He didn't want me spending time with my friends, and friends grew distant anyway. I eventually got used to it, and felt like I had to pretend. I liked some of it at times, but never initiated it. Never got over the bruising kisses and bone-crushing 'romantic' hugs. He'd also carry me sometimes, which was scary to me. I grew very emotionally close to him, and then on Valentine's Day (supposedly one of the most romantic days of the year), he dumped me over the phone across the state. It hurt badly, but not romantically. Just emotionally/platonically. I've had many guys try to date me, but I was so oblivious, I didn't realize I was on dates. I've tried to date because my parents kept urging me to. That just felt incredibly awkward, a waste of time, they were interested in doing things I wasn't, and the guys seemed creepy to me.
  11. When I went to my 10-year high school reunion, there was I guy I thought I was good friends with back then. The first thing he blurted out to me was: "I'm married now!" And, then proceeded to quickly walk away. No hi or anything. I was really confused and stunned. This was the guy who did a science project with me at his place, had study sessions there, invited me to a bunch of parties (again at his place, and there were mostly guys at them), asked me to stay and eat dinner with him after studying, etc. I was confused by some of it at the time, but apparently he liked me romantically? Strange. There was another guy I thought I was good friends with back in high school. I've told people about him, and apparently he seemed almost stalkerish, and really romantically interested. He asked me to have him as my +1 at the band dance/party, joined band even though all he did was hold a banner during parades and normally was apart of the choir, always sat next to me, got angry if my other friends sat next to me, also invited me to parties, asked me to be his partner at graduation, etc. I was oblivious to it all. Only thinking about things like the dress and food when I thought about having a wedding. Not about an actual partner. My parent was upset about this recently. (This was before she knew I was aro.)
  12. @omitef Yeah, I told my parent (she's a trans woman, but sometimes I still call her Dad. Can't call her Mom, because my mom passed away...) and those friends who are like family about qpr's at Thanksgiving. That rude lady was there, too. Since I told them I'm aro ace, we ended up talking about relationships, and they wanted to know if I'd be happy without one. I explained that a qpr is basically like a relationship without the sexual and romantic stuff. What do you have left? My parent said it sounded a lot like what her relationship was to my mom when my mom started to get sick. The friends of ours have an interesting relationship anyways. They never wanted kids, and to spite the idea of a traditional wedding, they had it on Halloween. People dressed up in costumes instead. Sounded cool. They loved the idea, too. The other lady said: "a relationship is entirely built on that! Without that you have nothing!" I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with telling people.
  13. When you discovered the word “aromantic,” it felt like something finally clicked into place for you. Yes Identifying as aromantic makes you feel relieved, free, happy, or more like yourself. At first, I was reluctant about it, but after thinking over it and reading other people's experiences, I embraced it. Pretty happy about it now. Somewhat freeing, too. When you discovered the concept of a “squish” suddenly a lot of things made more sense to you. Yes. I've only had about 4, but it definitely made sense. You have trouble telling the difference between romantic and friendly feelings. I do have trouble telling when things start to get romantic. I can tell full on romantic stuff, but there seems to be a weird in between thing. You’ve never had a crush on someone, or fallen in love. True. You’re not sure if you’ve ever had a crush on someone or fallen in love. I'm pretty sure I haven't. You have trouble telling the difference between a crush and a squish, or between romantic and aesthetic/sexual/sensual attraction. I used to have trouble with telling the difference between romantic and aesthetic attraction. Now that I know there are different types of attractions, it's more definite for me. I do experience aesthetic and platonic (?) attractions. Very strongly with the latter, and differently than the former. You have doubted whether crushes or love really exist, or if they’re just cultural constructs. I used to, and still kind of, feel like it was all fake. Especially, if it seemed overexaggerated. You find romance boring, annoying or upsetting when it appears in fiction, even if it’s written well. Sometimes I'm indifferent to it in stories. Sometimes it's gag-inducing. Very rarely is done so well that I like it. You once thought that having a crush on someone meant you admired them or really wanted to be their friend. Yes. You thought crushes were something you consciously decided to have, and selected an acquaintance or celebrity to be your crush, because everyone else was doing it. No. You forgot which acquaintance or celebrity you were supposed to have a crush on. I didn't care, so N/A? If you’re not asexual, a “friends with benefits” relationship sounds ideal to you. I'm asexual... You have trouble relating, or feeling involved, when your friends discuss their romantic relationships or romantic feelings. Yes. Falling in love doesn’t seem very exciting to you. Yes. You don’t understand why other people make such a big deal out of having crushes or falling in love. Yes. You don’t understand why people do ridiculous, irrational or over-the-top things in the name of love. Yes. You don’t understand why finding someone sexually/aesthetically attractive would lead you to want a committed relationship with them. Yes. Or, maybe you sort of understand those things in an abstract way, but you can’t really relate to them. Sort of, I guess. You have never had a romantic relationship - not because you couldn’t get one, but because you just never really bothered to try, or you liked being single better. I have been in a romantic relationship. I didn't look around or try to be in one. Was kind of suckered into it. When a romantic relationship gets serious, it makes you feel cold, distant or uncomfortable. Uncomfortable, or I would say suffocating/smothering. Getting a romantic partner feels more like fulfilling an obligation, or something you’re supposed to do, than something you’re really enthusiastic about. Yes. Your romantic partners always seem to be way more into the lovey-dovey stuff than you are. Yes. I never initiated it, either. A likable person suggests having a romantic relationship with you, and you’re indifferent to it - you’re open to trying it, but you won’t get disappointed without it. Other people may find your indifference bizarre or think you’re giving off mixed messages. Yes. You have felt guilty about not loving your romantic partner as much as they loved you, even though you sincerely cared about them and wanted to love them back. Yes. You have felt suffocated, repressed or tense in a romantic relationship, even though you really liked your partner and they hadn’t done anything wrong. Yes. When your last romantic relationship ended, you felt relieved and free more than you felt sad, even if your partner broke it off, and even if you liked them very much as a person. No. I was very emotionally attached, and he dumped me over the phone while across the state. It hurt badly. It wasn't in a romantic way. Hard to describe... You’re more excited by making a new best friend than by falling in love. Yes. You wouldn’t mind marrying your best friend and spending your life with them, even though you’re not in love with them. Yes. You’d rather spend Friday night having a sleepover party with your buddies than going out on a date. Yes. You want a best friend much more than you want a romantic relationship. Yes. It’s not so much the idea of being single forever that bothers you, so much as being alone or unwanted. Yes. You are either oblivious to other people flirting with you, or feel uncomfortable or threatened by it. I'm usually oblivious. The rare times I'm aware of it, I feel very uncomfortable. You are sometimes perceived as flirtatious when you only meant to be friendly. Yes. You live in a large community and see or meet hundreds of people around your age every year, but none of them have ever stirred romantic feelings in you. No. I don't live in a large community, and I don't live where there are a lot of people my age. When I was in college, I didn't feel 'romantic feelings'. You recognize whether something is romantic or not by comparing it to other gestures, words and signals that your culture has taught you are romantic, rather than “feeling” the romance of it intuitively. Yes. When you say or do romantic things, it feels like you’re following a script or copying romantic things you’ve seen elsewhere, rather than something spontaneous and natural to you. Yes. When thinking about what sort of person you’d want to date, your criteria are identical to what you would want from a best friend. I guess? Only, I've never liked the idea or felt like dating. The main benefit you get from a romantic relationship is either platonic, sensual, sexual, or a combination of those; the romantic aspect is okay but it’s not really the part you like most. I liked the emotional and platonic parts the most. You have trouble imagining romantic activities that you would enjoy, unless those activities are also fun or interesting for you on a platonic or intellectual level. Yes. You feel like your closest friends and/or queerplatonic partners are better at fulfilling your emotional needs than romantic partners would be. Yes. You would rather be huggy, cuddly or emotionally intimate with all of your friends instead of reserving your intimacy for just one person. Hmmm...I'm not usually a touchy-feely person. I'd probably prefer to be the most emotional/huggy (if I feel like it) with one super close best friend. Not all of them. I want to stay close to the others as well, though. You would rather have a queerplatonic relationship than a typical romantic relationship. Yes. You don’t feel as if you’re missing anything in your life right now; having a romantic partner might be nice, but you don’t need it or seek it out. Yes. The idea of being single forever sounds awesome to you. No. I'd still would like to share life experiences with someone. You enjoy gestures and activities that are traditionally labeled “romantic,” but at no point during them do you actually feel attracted to whoever you’re with. No, not usually on the enjoying things labeled 'romantic'. You don’t enoy gestures and activities that are traditionally labeled romantic, either because the romance aspect bothers you, or because all of them are just plain unappealing to you. Yes. You avoid going places where people are likely to flirt with you, such as bars, parties, nightclubs, and concerts. Nope. I usually don't think about that part. Probably the oblivious part of me. You’re not sure why other people enjoy romantic stories; you usually just find the lead characters to be annoying, boring or dysfunctional. Yes. You like the idea of having a big wedding celebration more than the idea of actually marrying someone. Yes. I've always thought of just the dress and maybe food, never the partner. My parent was upset by this recently for some reason.
  14. Thanks, @omitef! Yeah, I had a huge urge to tell the one who said it was a phase: "Maybe you'll change your mind someday. Maybe you'll become lesbian, bi, ace, etc." When I explained qpr's in the most simple way I could, she looked like a deer in the headlights. Meanwhile, my parent and a couple of close friends of our family seemed to understand quickly. My parent think it's interesting and would be cool. Cool, thank you! I might pm you in the future, then. I feel new to it, and am slowly learning more. Nice, I might join that, too.
  15. Thanks for the warm welcome. Yay, ice cream!