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Ace of Amethysts

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  1. Can you please change your pronouns to "he/him"?

    1. NullVector

      NullVector

      Why? I don't mind doing it, but I'd like to know the reason you asked...

    2. Ace of Amethysts

      Ace of Amethysts

      Pronouns aren't inherently tied to gender. Nonbinary people can and do use he/him and she/her.

    3. NullVector

      NullVector

      Okay, I've got two issues with that reason:

       

      1. I'm not convinced that your first sentence is factually correct for the specific case of English language third person singular pronouns (which is what we're discussing here)
      2. I disagree with the implication that your first sentence logically follows from your second sentence.

       

      For point 1: as far as i can gather, he/him pronouns are classified by linguists as 3rd person masculine singular. Like here, for example: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/English_personal_pronouns i.e they are taken as inherently tied to gender (male gender, in this case) and that assumption is built into the structure of the language (so, English language just assumes a male/female gender binary exists, as I understand it). So me putting 'male ones' on my profile as shorthand for he/him/his/himself pronouns seems consistent with the standard category names linguists have adopted for English pronouns.

       

      For point 2: non-binary identifying people might indeed choose to use he/him (or she/her) pronouns to refer to themselves; but that doesn't alter whether or not the English language (and the majority of the people that speak it), by assumption, map these pronouns to a specific gender identity. If yes, then I guess that leaves any person identifying as non-binary with a choice - they can either accept and use the standard pronouns and everything they're taken to imply (most likely with some misgivings). Or, they can refuse to use these terms at all and seek to encourage change to the basic structures and assumptions of the language itself - with adoption of new pronouns for example (and perhaps other related changes). 

       

      It's unfortunate and I don't know what the best option is here. But, in a sense, it's just one example of the sorts of issues that come up all the time around socialisation; we have to compromise on various aspects of our individual identities and thought processes to be able to participate in society and communicate with others. I mean, a person identifying as 'Buddhist' might find a linguistic convention like "my body" similarly problematic - it implies a separate notion of "me", a separate notion of "body" and a relationship of ownership between them (with the "me/my" owning the "body"). Considering that it leads to all sorts of erroneous assumptions and thought processes, they might wish to invent a new language, free by design of these sorts of assumptions, and encourage other people to adopt it. But, this seems unlikely to happen. So, they may instead adopt the common linguistic conventions whilst simultaneously being aware that what they are taken to imply by most people is not actually true or (perhaps more importantly) helpful. Maybe non-binary people are in a position somewhat like that? English spelling is another (more trivial, perhaps) example. It's non-phonetic and this causes all sorts of issues for children trying to learn to read. But what to do about it? You've got a subtle kind of 'legacy code' problem to solve there.

       

      I'm not being intentionally stubborn. I'm very much open to changing my mind on this. If you (or anyone else on here) can give me additional reasons then I'll definitely think about them. But I'll leave my profile it as it is for now.

  2. I managed to get my Discord back up, but my nail polishes are ruined because of how hot it's been where I live lately. :/

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    2. Anything_but_allo

      Anything_but_allo

      Oh man I feel you both 😅 except for me I’ve forgotten to clean my room and I’ve come home to dirty clothes pulled on top of each other and dirty bed sheets, yet I’m to lazy to clean up. Oh well XD

    3. Emerald Cheetah

      Emerald Cheetah

      Hot? It's been consistently below freezing where I live! It's currently -6 Celsius and school was cancelled twice this week due to the winter weather. 

    4. Apathetic Echidna

      Apathetic Echidna

      @Emerald Cheetah lemme tell you, they don't cancel school when it is hot...on the up side there is a 20% chance that there are some rooms at the school that have equal or greater air con than at home. 😤 

  3. Well... my Discord updated itself to a version I literally cannot use at all and I'd have to start from scratch if I used an online account so my presence on Arocalypse is dead. Yaaaay.

    1. Anything_but_allo

      Anything_but_allo

      Aw I’m so sorry! Is there any other computer or device you can use that could possibly allow you to use discord? I’m sorry I’m not great at this stuff myself. I hope everything will be ok though :(

    2. Ace of Amethysts

      Ace of Amethysts

      There is my phone, but battery power is a thing and I have other things I use it for so that's not really an option.

    3. Anything_but_allo

      Anything_but_allo

      Aw I’m really sorry about the situation :(

  4. Ace of Amethysts

    New Here, Romantic Ally

    Hi! Don't be afraid to settle in here. It's good to have different perspectives. Hmm... do you like ice cream? We have an infinite supply of welcoming !
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    HAAIII!!

    はい, こんいちは! Hello and welcome Feel free to help yourself to as much cake or ice cream as you please.
  6. I went to a wedding yesterday! It actually went really well. I ate all kinds of finger food and danced the night away :3

  7. Ace of Amethysts

    Romance in media

    I've said it before but romantic plots in TV or movies almost always bore me.
  8. I don't know either. My eldest sister is wasting $2,000+ on hers, so I guess it's a boon for capitalism.
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    Admiration attraction?

    I had a few toxic squishes based on that, oogh.
  10. Ace of Amethysts

    Salutations, I'm new

    Hi! Welcome. We can also offer you .
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    The 'Why I don't want to be a parent' thread

    First off, sorry for necromancing this thread. I have stress issues and depression, but they don't have much to do with why I don't want biological children. I don't want any because I think it's a waste of time for me.
  12. I don't know how I'm aro either. 😕
  13. Ace of Amethysts

    Got my ring!!

    That's cool!
  14. Ace of Amethysts

    I'd rather ... than get Married

    I'd rather eat free wedding food than catch the bouquet.
  15. A situation like one described in the OP would drive me nuts. My condolences (is this a good word to use here? Words fail me sometimes).
  16. Ace of Amethysts

    Finding fellow aros in the real world?

    Huh, that's interesting.
  17. Ace of Amethysts

    The Banning Game

    Banned for reviving this game.
  18. Ace of Amethysts

    would you rather

    Sad, since I do that a quarter of the time anyway. Would you rather be able to climb Mount Everest or be able to scuba dive?
  19. Ace of Amethysts

    If you could take a pill...

    I'm with Zema on this one.
  20. Ace of Amethysts

    Hey Guys, New Here

    Hey! Glad to meet another full-on ace. Would you care for cake or ice cream? 🍰
  21. Ace of Amethysts

    You might be aro if...

    You might be aro if making out scenes bore you.
  22. Ace of Amethysts

    The thinking asexual

    I hate it. With a passion. That is all.
  23. Ace of Amethysts

    How are You a 'Bad' Aromantic Spectrum Person?

    I like pink desserts.
  24. How does Crunchyroll not have every episode of the original Yugioh yet?! I know legal issues prevented them from having it at all until 2016, but it's been two years since then.

    1. Jot-Aro Kujo

      Jot-Aro Kujo

      As in season 0? I know a place to watch it, but yeah... I wish I could watch it on Crunchyroll instead of shifty sites with weird fansubs...

    2. Ace of Amethysts
    3. Jot-Aro Kujo

      Jot-Aro Kujo

      Well for one thing they say "Yuugitachi" when they could literally just say "Yuugi and the others" or whatever. You know, typical fansub unnecessary Japanese stuff.

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