Ace of Amethysts

Why? I don't mind doing it, but I'd like to know the reason you asked...

Pronouns aren't inherently tied to gender. Nonbinary people can and do use he/him and she/her.

Okay, I've got two issues with that reason:

1. I'm not convinced that your first sentence is factually correct for the specific case of English language third person singular pronouns (which is what we're discussing here)
2. I disagree with the implication that your first sentence logically follows from your second sentence.

For point 1: as far as i can gather, he/him pronouns are classified by linguists as 3rd person masculine singular. Like here, for example: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/English_personal_pronouns i.e they are taken as inherently tied to gender (male gender, in this case) and that assumption is built into the structure of the language (so, English language just assumes a male/female gender binary exists, as I understand it). So me putting 'male ones' on my profile as shorthand for he/him/his/himself pronouns seems consistent with the standard category names linguists have adopted for English pronouns.

For point 2: non-binary identifying people might indeed choose to use he/him (or she/her) pronouns to refer to themselves; but that doesn't alter whether or not the English language (and the majority of the people that speak it), by assumption, map these pronouns to a specific gender identity. If yes, then I guess that leaves any person identifying as non-binary with a choice - they can either accept and use the standard pronouns and everything they're taken to imply (most likely with some misgivings). Or, they can refuse to use these terms at all and seek to encourage change to the basic structures and assumptions of the language itself - with adoption of new pronouns for example (and perhaps other related changes). 

It's unfortunate and I don't know what the best option is here. But, in a sense, it's just one example of the sorts of issues that come up all the time around socialisation; we have to compromise on various aspects of our individual identities and thought processes to be able to participate in society and communicate with others. I mean, a person identifying as 'Buddhist' might find a linguistic convention like "my body" similarly problematic - it implies a separate notion of "me", a separate notion of "body" and a relationship of ownership between them (with the "me/my" owning the "body"). Considering that it leads to all sorts of erroneous assumptions and thought processes, they might wish to invent a new language, free by design of these sorts of assumptions, and encourage other people to adopt it. But, this seems unlikely to happen. So, they may instead adopt the common linguistic conventions whilst simultaneously being aware that what they are taken to imply by most people is not actually true or (perhaps more importantly) helpful. Maybe non-binary people are in a position somewhat like that? English spelling is another (more trivial, perhaps) example. It's non-phonetic and this causes all sorts of issues for children trying to learn to read. But what to do about it? You've got a subtle kind of 'legacy code' problem to solve there.

I'm not being intentionally stubborn. I'm very much open to changing my mind on this. If you (or anyone else on here) can give me additional reasons then I'll definitely think about them. But I'll leave my profile it as it is for now.

Oh man I feel you both 😅 except for me I’ve forgotten to clean my room and I’ve come home to dirty clothes pulled on top of each other and dirty bed sheets, yet I’m to lazy to clean up. Oh well XD

Hot? It's been consistently below freezing where I live! It's currently -6 Celsius and school was cancelled twice this week due to the winter weather. 

@Emerald Cheetah lemme tell you, they don't cancel school when it is hot...on the up side there is a 20% chance that there are some rooms at the school that have equal or greater air con than at home. 😤 

Aw I’m so sorry! Is there any other computer or device you can use that could possibly allow you to use discord? I’m sorry I’m not great at this stuff myself. I hope everything will be ok though

There is my phone, but battery power is a thing and I have other things I use it for so that's not really an option.

Aw I’m really sorry about the situation :(

😋

As in season 0? I know a place to watch it, but yeah... I wish I could watch it on Crunchyroll instead of shifty sites with weird fansubs...

@Jot-Aro Kujo How are the subs weird?

Well for one thing they say "Yuugitachi" when they could literally just say "Yuugi and the others" or whatever. You know, typical fansub unnecessary Japanese stuff.

:pizza emoji:

I feel you I have oily skin and it's really a pain too. People with combination skin must be living the dream somewhere while we all suffer

Ugh!

I guess you might have to just grin and bare it then take great advantage of the catering at the first chance you get. 

Yes, the best part of weddings is free food!

@Eklinaar That alone makes it a whole lot more worth the time. I also get to see my older sisters who I really don't get enough time with.

Maybe we should start a food thread so your count can go up a lot more.

Maybe I need to be very @AoA for a while, then.

Assuming that everyone is perioriented, has the same sexual and romantic orientation, is the default assumption within society. Even to the extent that sexual orientation will be used in contexts where romantic orientation would make more sense (e.g. marriage).
For varioriented people only allo aces appear to have much in the way of recognition or advocacy.
 

lucky number 700

I only see 649... have we lost some?

Nearly 4:30 PM.

It's 9:28am here.. No wonder this status confused me :')

Yay ! A Panda like me

This week alone I had a maximum of 16 hours of sleep. I would never thank Mother Nature enough for letting us having coffee..;

We can all be weird together!

No we're all gonna be weird alone just like we're gonna DIE ALONE THE WHOLE WORLD IS MISERABLE LIFE SUCKS

Wow, you parodied me!

*hugs*

*hugs also* knowing my deep discomfort isn't a singular instance is somehow reassuring. I guess we've all got to keep on trucking.

*hugs*

Does it do what it says on the tin?  (I like it!)

@Dodgypotato Well, I should say 2 good forums xD. I never really went to the a/romantic board much.

Haha, okay, there might be 2 good ones ;D

*twitches*

You too! I hope 2017 is better for all of us

It`s great to see you too. I took time to piece myself together mentally before joining here.

well i hope you find the comfort & support here that you need

I will. I now come with 90% less aggression!