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Aliyiah

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About Aliyiah

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  • Birthday March 9

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  • Name
    Niccii
  • Gender
    female
  • Pronouns
    she, her
  • Location
    Somewhere out in space
  • Occupation
    college student and part-time office worker
  • Romanticism
    Alterous
  • Sexuality
    Ace (grey area)

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  1. I go to a university/college in germany, so it's different in terms of system but there's no sex ed here that all happened in my previous school when we were about 13. It was really uncomfortable but at least we were split females/males (there's another can of worms that I won't go into rn) but they didn't talk about sexualities. I know I learned about those from YouTube videos and creators that came out, no word in the class that's supposes to teach you these things. As for now, I'm open to two people in my semester bc one of them is also ace but the general opinion is amatonormativity sadly. There's also no clubs or stuff to educate people and if people don't go in my face with that stuff I generally don't care. I'm just too stressed out with my projects to educate other people 😂
  2. idk, this song just makes me happy and gives me chills at the end 😅
  3. Not right now but she's going on about wanting to have grandkids some day 🙄
  4. That sounds like my mum, just with kids. She insists I would be a great mum and everytime she meets one if my friends she asks if they're my SO and if I'm dating someone. I told her a couple of times I don't want kids but she's just like, you still have time and you'll change your mind eventually. Also I'm 20, like I'm in uni and don't have any free time so great idea to have a kid.
  5. I have two chevron bracelets I made with the aro and ace flag (it's an arrow pattern). I want to get a shirt or hoodie with aropride ^^
  6. You could approach it carefully (for lack of a better word) and just test the waters. I know I didn't come out to my mum because she's always asking if I have a boyfriend and she's always disappointed if I say no. So I told her I don't want to date anyone right now, without explaining my aroness or that I don't actually want a SO and just watched her reaction. Even if your mum told your family, she would just say that you wouldn't want it right now. Whatever you do, do it if you're comfortable and feel safe. I hope this was of some help 😅
  7. I was in a romantic relationship and it lasted one year and a half, then we broke it off but he's still my best friend. Would I want it again? I get the feeling of wanting a romantic relationship when looking at the picture movies and the media in general are painting but it's different in real life. I'm not really searching for a romantic relationship, and if it does happen again I wouldn't want to be doing romantically coded things (in my previous relationship that wasn't a problem and he understood the aroness to a point). Long story short, I get and have had that feeling of wanting to be in a romantic relationship for the sake of being someone's important person but I'm not actively searching for one.
  8. Aliyiah

    Body Mods

    I have double lobe piercings on each ear and a helix in my left one, which I really love. Been wanting to get a tattoo on my left either upper arm or wrist, I still haven't decided on a design but it's not going to be too big.
  9. I'm only out to two people about being on the aro-spec. The first one is my best friend, who is supporting but not really understanding (he just doesn't quite get it, also we've dated once and he just brings that up). The other is another close friend of mine who is ace, she's been very cool about and she actually set me on the path to discover aromanticism because she came out to me. Not out to my mum but I indirectly told her that I didn't want to date anyone and it's just frustrating how she always asks about my dating life and about the kind of relationship I have when I tell her of a new friend.
  10. I feel like that a lot. I don't have the romance repulsion but still a lot of anxiety and just trust issues in general. Although I'm lucky to have great friends right now, half of them have a SO and spend most of their time with them. But moving to a bigger city and having a bunch of roommates, like @Emerald Cheetah said, sounds like a plan ^^
  11. I relate to that a lot, when my sister got a boyfriend I couldn't stand him at the beginning. After all he stole my sister and he was the person she spent the most time with. Then they moved together and I saw her even less (maybe once a month) and we just grew apart and it hurt. Right now we're growing closer again, because I'm studying close to where she lives and we can hang out more, but I sometimes feel like I don't know her. I get along now with her boyfriend, after I got over the jealousy that he got to spend so much time with her, but it still hurts sometimes. My advice is, talk to her. Talk to her about your feelings of being left behind and being second choice, I know I should've done that. Maybe she can relieve your fears a bit or she realizes that you could spend more time together.
  12. So here's mine 😅 http://imgur.com/0c0L9gc
  13. The colours are so pretty 🙂 But did anyone else experience the displacement of the aro flag and hiding parts of the descriptions? It may just be a fluke on my phone
  14. So, I have been in two romantic relationships (the most recent one ended a while ago). I want all the hugging and cuddling and just being close, too but going further I'm just not comfortable with. My last SO and I were fully honest and he knew from the start that I was aro and potentially ace ( I hadn't really experimented because I was always just not comfortable with that level of intimacy) but I think he kept hoping that it would change but that was who I am at the moment and it just became suffocating with all the expectations. So in short, I don't mind labelling a relationship a romantic one as long as I'm not expected to behave a certain way and not be pressured or stuffed in a box of expectations. I kept thinking something was wrong with me or that I was broken because I couldn't meet the expectations (as I said I wasn't sure about the ace thing) and in my opinion that is kind of a toxic relationship, more damaging the mental state than the emotional support can balance out.
  15. If I had to choose, it would be the skulduggery pleasant series by derek landy which I'm rereading right now The books revolve around the adventures of the skeleton detective, Skulduggery Pleasant, and a teenage girl, Stephanie Edgley/Valkyrie Cain, along with some other friends. The central storyline concerns Valkyrie's struggle to stop evil forces threatening the world, finally find justice for her late uncle's death, and her internal struggle of keeping the darkness within her to stay within. As I love books with magic, adventures and dark humour, this one was perfect ^^
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