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About Holmbo

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    Nyköping, Sweden
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  1. How do you feel about your relationship now that you realize your orientation? Are you happy with the way it is or would you like to change things? Do you think your partner is happy with how things are now. If your both content then I don't see that you being aromantic would make much difference. You still want the same thing.
  2. Role playing game

    The complication I have is that I'm not really interested in fighting. I have this idea to use a setting from a book, a space station and some of it's characters. The space station is in upheaval and the quest is for players to calm things down. They can explore the station and choose how to interact with the different characters.The success of the interactions depends which ones they choose and what the dice rolls and they get points on how much different characters trust them. They can also gain trust by other initiatives on the station. In the end there is a catastrophe and their chance of saving people depends on how well they gained their trust. But I don't know how to determine what roll of dice give what result and how I'm supposed to communicate it to the players. The other alternative would be some survival game, but how do I make sure the players doesn't die too soon? If every roll of the dice is to escape a lethal situation sooner or later they will roll too low and die.
  3. Role playing game

    Does anyone here know something about paper RPG? A friend and I talked about trying to get some people together to play but we've never done it. I know that there are lots of games we could buy and play but I think it would be more fun to create one myself and run it. The problems is, I don't understand the mechanics of RPG. I get the basic concept of deciding on initiatives and then rolling the dice to see if it succeeds. But then there are lots of other things that I don't get. Maybe there is some kind of Create your own RPG template I can use?
  4. 2018 New Years Resolutions

    I don't really do new years resolutions, mostly because I make resolutions all the time so new year would be nothing special. Right now they are: -Write everyday -Go running more -Spend less time on duties, like cooking or fixing my apartment
  5. I don't really have any experience to add but I was curious, how does it feel when you touch yourself? If that feels alright maybe another way to get less averse is to touch yourself at different places and pretend its someone else?
  6. To "come out"

    Now I have talked to my mom. A year from when I first thought of it. It's just hard to find my family members in quiet situations without having to make a very big deal about it. But yesterday my mom and I had a quick lunch together and I asked her if she knew about the term aromantic and then explained what it was and that I was it. She actually made a much bigger deal about it than I expected (sorry to say to you others who are considering it). Yesterday she didn't have much to say but today she had thought a bit and came to me to talk about it. She told me that she had tried to read about the term online but not found anything and she was doubting that this was really something that exists and maybe I was just reserved and didn't want to let someone in. I didn't take this so hard though because I know that she, like myself, always wants to make up her mind quickly about things but is not hesitant to change it and doesn't mind if someone else thinks different than her. She also wanted to understand better too and asked me questions about it. I gave her my standard example (which I seem to use for everyone that doubt the idea of aromantic) that if someone is hetero how do they know that they just haven't met the right person of the same gender yet? Also I assured her that I wasn't putting myself in some box and that I would always just do what felt right for me.
  7. Five Love Languages

    10 Quality Time 8 Words of Affirmation 6 Acts of Service 4 Physical Touch 2 Receiving Gifts I kinda wanted to choose neither when gifts and touching came up because that's really not important for me most of the time. I agree. I also think some of the best conversations can be when you're doing something else at the same time and not looking at each other. It takes the pressure of it.
  8. The 'Why I don't want to be a parent' thread

    I might like to do something like that if the option ever came up. Pregnancy is actually really fascinating to me. I'm sure it'd be very uncomfortable but also interesting to see all the weird changes of my body. Also that the kid can hear sounds in the uterus and taste the food in the amniotic fluid. If I knew someone who'd make a great parent I might have a child for them. I doubt the opportunity will come up though, which is probably just aswell because what if I wouldn't want to give the baby up. Hormones can do crazy things I've heard
  9. What made you happy today?

    Today was my last day of work for 2017. Vacation until 8th of January
  10. New Freeform show?

    That does seem like a concept for us. Not sure what it's about though except those two being close friends and people thinking they're a romantic couple.
  11. Relationship Anarchy

    Somebody called? When I look at the Swedish versionhttps://auroraaurum.wordpress.com/2011/10/11/relationsanarki-i-atta-punkter/ it says pretty much the same. The way I read "Fake it till you make it" is that it is difficult to step out of all the hang ups of relationship norms. You might feel embarrassed or silly about it but if you pretend that it feels normal you will more quickly feel comfortable with it.
  12. Do most people want to come out?

    What does it look like?
  13. The Attraction of Crime Fiction

    Redshirt is a term for a character who's just there to be killed of to up the stakes for the main characters. Too bad.
  14. Facebook group

    I'm happy to join one too.
  15. That's So Aromantic!

    I suppose the title does not grab peoples attention unless they recognize the term. Otherwise they might just think it's some add for bath products or something