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  1. I haven't really figured out what sexuality I am yet, so I kinda don't have a lable when it comes to that which means that it's not a part of my identity. I do know that I'm aro though so I identify myself as aro and that's why my romantic orientation is a bigger part of my identity
  2. Hi everyone! I have just been thinking about some stuff and since I have no aro people in my friend group I thought I would just ramble a little here since I know some of you will probably understand/ have experienced the same thing! I kinda have this problem, and that is that im really aromantic, but at the same time there is nothing i love more than physical intimacy (and I'm not talking about sex, I just mean like cuddligt and hugging and just being physically close to someone.) and since I'm aro, I don't really get to experience it that much and that is something I don't really know how to deal with. It actually brings me down quite a bit and it makes me sad that I don't have someone to cuddle with. Physical touch is my first love language so it plays a major part in me acually feeling loved, and cuddling really makes me feel calm, happy and safe, so when I don't get it, it makes me really frustrated and I don't really know how to deal with these feelings. I guess it would be a bit easier if I had a pet or something to cuddle with but I don't, and I don't really have any friends to cuddle with either. I hug my friends and stuff, but it's not the level of cuddliness (that word exists now, okay) that I'm looking for. I have a long distance friend who I spoon with and stuff but since I don't see him that often it's not enough to keep me happy. Do any of you have any experience when it comes to this? If yes, what do you do to deal with those feelings? I would be really happy to get some advice since it's pretty much all I can think about and I don't know what to do about it.
  3. When I discovered I was aro there were a lot of things that suddenly made a lot of sense to me. Some of these things include: Never wanting a boyfriend, but still wanting someone to cuddle with. Instantly disliking anyone I had a "crush" on in middle school the minute they said they liked me too. Never liking fanfiction where the people are in love with eachother/dating. It really was like weights had been lifted off my shoulders when I finally realised that all of these things actually had an explanation. Do you have any experiences that just suddenly made sense to you when you realised you were a-spec? It would be really fun to take part of and we could all relate to eachother and stuff haha!
  4. I can totally relate to this. I have a very close friend who has recently had trouble with some guy, and I'm pretty much the only one she feels like she can talk to about it. It just makes me feel like such a shitty friend when I have no advice to give her about love because I can't put myself in that situation.
  5. I didn't know what category to put this topic in, but I think it goes in here even though it's more complaining about lack of fanfiction than actually providing good aro fanfics. Okay, let's get to the actual topic now haha. Even if it's a little embarrassing to confess, I love reading fanfiction (supernatural fanfiction to be more precise). What sucks is that it is very difficult to find fanfiction that actually suits me as an aromantic person. I have never liked fanfiction written like the reader is in a romantic relationship with the character/person and that made so much sense to me when I realised I was aro. It just sucks though that pretty much all fanfiction is so extremely focused on dating the character or whatever. Like all I want is fluffy fanfics where the reader and the character/person are really good friends who cuddle. Is that really too much to ask for? Since I'm not asexual i also like smuttier fanfictions but the only ones where the characters aren't dating always end up with them confessing their eternal and undying love for eachother after they have had sex and it's just so exhausting haha. So, what are your opinions on fanfictions as a-spec people, and how do you find good fanfiction that actually suits you? If you have any good recommendations ( it doesn't have to be supernatural) I would love it if you could link some in a comment! Thanks and take care.
  6. To "come out"

    I've tried to "come out" to my mum (more as in like i told her that I don't think I am capable of romantic attraction) but that didn't go very well. She just asked me if i was gay lol.
  7. Romantic Attraction

    For me feeling romantic attraction is the capability of falling in love with someone. As and aromantic person I am fully capable of loving someone, but I will never be able to fall IN love with someone. That's the way I see it and that's what kind of helped me realise im aro. I also define a romantic relationship as two people who are IN love with eachother.
  8. Hahaha I came here to comment what it is in swedish but... yeah.
  9. Hate from the LGBT+ Community

    I understand that LGBT people don't think we should be included because we don't experience the same type of discrimination they do. For example, I don't think anyone has ever been murdered or abused for being aromantic (please correct me if I'm wrong though). But just because we aren't necessarily exposed to the same hate it doesn't mean that we don't exist or that we don't have the same rights as them. I wrote a tumblr post about this after I had read a post that aro/ace people shouldn't be included in the LGBT community. I can link it here if anyone would be interested in reading it. http://the-t-is-for-trash.tumblr.com/post/157624737687/okay-so-its-time-for-a-rant-about-aromanticism
  10. Hi everyone. I'm feeling really down at the moment, and one of the reasons for that is that i feel so lonely. I hate being aro, or well, I don't. I hate that there's no one like me in my life, I hate that I have no one to talk to and I hate that none of my friends understand me. I don't know what to do. I also really want a platonic relationship, but I dont know how to get one. I need an aromantic friend to talk about experiences and feelings with since i'm still pretty new in the aro community but im too shy and awkward to actually talk to someone on here. I'm basically feeling like shit at the moment and I have no where else to turn to so i just write about it on here hoping someone will care.
  11. Hello everyone! I was just thinking about QPRs and I'm not really sure what I think of the name. I'm not really comfortable using "the Q word" since some people in the LGBTQA+ community find it offensive and I would like to respect that. I was wondering if you people know a better word for it that doesn't include "the Q word". I was thinking maybe just like platonic relationship but idk, it makes it just sound like friends. Help me please haha.
  12. I realised I was aro a bit over a month ago and I'm finding it kind of difficult to accept and deal with the fact that i am probably never going to be in a romantic relationship. I'm a teenager, and it's pretty much expected of me to date and have crushes on people and stuff, and not wanting that makes me feel really alone and abnormal. Another thing that makes me sad is that im not asexual and I've never had sex. It worries me how I am going to have sex for the first time if im not in a relationship since I cant just walk up to someone and be like "Hey, wanna have sex with me?". I dont even know what I want to say with this post, but im just feeling kinda lost and I'm hoping someone could tell me about their experiences and hopefully tell me something that will make me feel better about myself.
  13. Word association!

  14. Negativity towards aromanticism

    One of my friends in school is gay, so I thought that if someone would be able to undestand me it would be him. When I came out to him and when I talk about being aro he just goes quiet and I don't know why. It makes me feel like he doesn't support me. It could just be that he doesn't know much about it whatever, but it still kinda worries me/makes me a bit sad.
  15. Being Aro but not Ace

    I'm not really sure if I'm romance-repulsed or not. I don't mind romantic relationships as long as im not involved and the idea of love is cute but I just don't think it's something for me. I feel like I could agree on being in a relationship with someone if they could understand that i am not going to fall in love with them.