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About SoulWolf

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    A collection of rare oddities

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  1. It's not just you. That sort of thing drives me nuts also. All of my friends changed once they got married. They stopped being their own person and had to get permission from their "owner" to make any decisions or do anything...
  2. SoulWolf

    How various sexualities view aro

    I guess I'm the weird one who would be really honoured if my friend Googled it and did independent research and then used their new knowledge to ask me intelligent questions about my personal experiences... but yeah, it'd be a bit weird if they did that right next to me. On the other hand, I could see myself reacting like that in certain situations because I'm pretty weird too. I've told basically 3 people about my aro/ace-ness. One was super supportive right from the start, and actually knows another ace, so that's gone well (she's lesbian). One is doing his utmost to ignore it and I've sent him links and stuff and it's like he just doesn't want to learn more, like he's in some kind of denial (he's hetero). My third friend (also hetero) just kinda went like "ok, I'm a sexual and a romantic", but he has a tendency to have weird short responses involving playing with words, so I guess I didn't really expect much, lol.
  3. Awesome! I'm gonna share this with some people.
  4. SoulWolf

    The thinking asexual

    It's one of my favourite sites. I really like the way the author thinks.
  5. I'm gonna say some stuff that might be a bit controversial... Right, so you say you love her, and you also say you don't have feelings for her. What? Loving her means you do have feelings for her. Maybe they're just not romantic (sounds like they probably aren't, based on what you said, but what do I know, I don't think I've had romantic feelings either so I don't really know what that's like). Why should this ruin your relationship with her? I mean, even most romantic people lose their romantic feelings for their partners eventually. A friend of mine told me that it's apparently normal to "fall in love" and have all those weird giddy feelings and whatnot, and then eventually for them to morph more into a stable form of love. Like what you already have. So basically you skipped all the giddy stuff and went straight to the good part. There's nothing wrong with that. I have no idea why people like the giddy feelings, but apparently they're all temporary anyway. Don't do anything drastic like end it - but do talk to her about your feelings and fears and stuff.
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    Early signs that you were aro

    True, to an extent. Some people will avoid you, but I personally would prefer those kinds of people to avoid me anyway. I'd rather hang out with people who can appreciate weirdos.
  7. SoulWolf

    Early signs that you were aro

    I can relate to this a lot! I've always been extra-awkward around people in relationships, because I don't know where the appropriate boundaries of "closeness" are. Especially with closer friends. I used to get all awkward and paranoid around certain friends who are very huggy and generally touchy-feely... like... isn't someone going to think you're flirting? Isn't your partner going to think you're cheating? I have since concluded that it isn't really like that, and most people aren't actually that possessive. I've just read too many dumb psychology articles.
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    Anyone want to help me make a website?

    First thought: Oooh, pretty colours! Looks really good, I like how you've organized it, and I think this would be a really good resource to point people to as a good place to start. I'm bookmarking it
  9. I actually found 5 people within a 100km radius of me who seem potentially interesting. Nobody in my town, but that's to be expected
  10. Can I install this in my brain? I needs it! Interesting app, will check it out.
  11. SoulWolf

    Confused hello from newbie

    Welcome Night It seems like being confused is kinda part of the aro package, I think. But we have ice cream!
  12. SoulWolf

    Another Aromantic Test

    The question responses were really weird how they lumped seemingly unrelated things together... I was thinking WTF a lot of the time. Also, it said "Your results were not clear." lol. Thanks, very helpful answer. Not surprising given the weird "answers" i had to select from. Results: 33% chance I'm aro/ace, 33% chance I'm demisexual, 17% just aro, 17% just ace. I think I broke it.
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    Riddle me this - Orientations and Karma

    Yup. I had to look closely to see the first I. It still gets me sometimes.
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    Riddle me this - Orientations and Karma

    Found it! http://www.iisis.net/index.php?page=semkiw-reincarnation-past-lifes-lives-gender-change&hl=en_US There's a whole bunch. And yeah, their site's acronym is a bit unfortunate. Seems plausible. I like to think that we don't have all that romance to distract and confuse us, so we can just focus on real unconditional love instead. Or not. Maybe some people don't need to do that either.
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    Riddle me this - Orientations and Karma

    I read something somewhere that said that people mostly reincarnate as the same gender over and over again, and that gay and trans people are people who incarnated as a different gender than what they are used to. I wonder if that means that agender people and aros/aces have been mixing it up for so long that they just don't give a damn anymore. If you want, I can try to find that link again. It was kinda interesting.