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techno-trashcan

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About techno-trashcan

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    professional salt shaker
  • Birthday 11/20/1998

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  • Name
    techno
  • Gender
    girl ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
  • Pronouns
    she/her
  • Location
    USA
  • Occupation
    student
  • Romanticism
    aro
  • Sexuality
    ace

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  1. @Coyote I'd never heard of that concept before, but from a cursory glance, it would seem so!
  2. Yeah sure! It's about separating love from humanity, or love from goodness or kindness. We're all likely familiar with the prevalent idea that love is what makes us human, but what I see talked about less is the idea that being capable of love is the same as being a good person. You can love someone and still hurt them; you can treat someone with kindness even if you don't like them at all. We can't choose whether we feel love or not, no matter whether that love is romantic or platonic or something else or what-have-you. But we can choose to be kind and to do what's right. Moses Sumney talks about this as well. The kinds of love you feel or do not feel and in what quantities don't determine your value as a human being. Love, to me, is an arbitrary concept. And we don't solve amatonormativity by shifting the focus merely onto a different type of love; we don't do right by each other by simply repackaging the same rhetoric used to alienate us ("Love is what makes us human!") in a different wrapping. A narrative in which any form of love is pure or universal or a sign of being a good person will always be one in which one of us is left behind.
  3. Returning to the initial question of what we can do besides wordsmith, I think the push to constantly create new terminology is both a result of a rapidly expanding community and a desire to somehow wordsmith our way through intracommunity differences. I guess you could call it growing pains? What happens, at least in community spaces that I've been involved in, seems to be that people begin to take notice of some sort of difference or disparity in aro experiences and narratives, and try to create the language to concisely name and talk about that disparity (for example, as others have mentioned in this thread, aromantics who don't want a qpr or similar relationship feeling alienated by those who do). I don't see the problem with this, on a surface level; if people want specific terminology to talk about their experiences, then more power to them. I personally do consider myself nonamorous, in the "not wanting a qpr or similar relationship" sense. The issue comes when we try to make the terminology we have exhaustive, intensely specific, applicable to all and not up for interpretation. And that's never going to be possible. For me, the seemingly never-ending onslaught of new terminology, while it can often be used to point out the diversity of aro experiences or to shed light on unequal representation within the community, does very little to actually solve whatever problem it's meant to address. People can use whatever labels for themselves that they feel comfortable with, and I'm never going to take that away from them; however, we need to address the root causes of problems rather than simply create terminology to attempt to patch them up. The focus should be on creating spaces where all arospecs feel welcome to talk about our experiences without having to box ourselves into a corner--that's what we can do besides wordsmith. As for how we do that? I don't know, and I don't think anyone does, or else we would have done it already. But for starters, casting all other terminology aside, what are the main goals of aro activism? When you strip back all of the word salad, what's left? Heteronormative/amatonormative society largely doesn't understand or accept us, regardless of any distinctions we choose to make between one another. In my opinion, a core tenet of aro activism should be dismantling the idea that love, in any form, is normative or necessary in order to be a valid human being capable of good and worthy of respect.
  4. since i was last active on here i like. came out to a bunch of people.

    would that be interesting to talk about?

    1. Emerald Cheetah

      Emerald Cheetah

      Yeah! I'd love to hear how people reacted. 

  5. QPRs, as they were coined, are meant to be self-definable. While I've typically heard them defined as being committed, the level of commitment is probably going to vary. QPRs can have sexual aspects, though. Whether or not you would still wanna call it a squish is beyond me; attraction terms confuse me.
  6. I've never put too much thought into my appearance. I don't like makeup or dressing too feminine, but I'm not sure how much of that is personal taste vs. not wanting people to view me as a potential partner vs. complicated gender stuff (and the last two kind of go hand in hand). It's kind of hard to tell how I'd feel if I wasn't aroace, because I've never been anything else.
  7. *taps mic* is this thing on? feels like i haven't been on the forums in ages

  8. hey siri??? if some hypothetical aroace individual has never actually properly come out to someone throughout 4 years and now they've internalized so much fear about it that it's become a control issue and they don't know how to explicitly divulge this information to anyone? asking for a friend

    1. Naegleria fowleri

      Naegleria fowleri

      Baby steps? Perhaps they can start by telling someone online outside of Arocalypse, someone they'll never meet in real life (if this hasn't happened already). Then maybe they can mention to someone open-minded (a classmate, a coworker, a loose friend) that aromanticism/asexuality exists. Then work up to coming out to friends and/or family.

       

      You've got 835 friends on here rooting for you!

  9. hey happy pride month everyone! i love being aro and i love my friends

  10. Yeah I honestly couldn't even read through this whole article because it just made me feel bad, like being asexual is something I'm going to resent when I'm 40 or whatever and feel like a monster for. Most of these people really don't seem aro to me.
  11. is the papo meme officially dead? do i need to change my profile pic or am i going to go down with this sinking ship??

    1. techno-trashcan

      techno-trashcan

      i changed my pic you guys. it's the end of an era.

    2. Zemaddog

      Zemaddog

      It was good while it lasted

  12. hm. it's only the second week of summer vacation and i'm already getting bored. what do i do??????????

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    2. Magni

      Magni

      oh mood....my sleep schedule is already more trash than normal lol

    3. Eklinaar

      Eklinaar

      Make more memes

    4. techno-trashcan

      techno-trashcan

      BRILLIANT IDEA EKLINAAR

  13. Apologies for the yelling towards the beginning and stuff, there's only live recordings of this right now, but I love this song with all my heart.
  14. several years ago, not long before i started identifying as aroace, my parents put up this archway/trellis/gate in our garden, and i was outside with one of my best friends one days when she said she could imagine me under that arch with a future boyfriend, and she said she had this mental image of the ideal boyfriend for me, though she couldn't really describe that image. i didn't have a mental image, and trying to conjure one up didn't really work. obvious aro moment.

    1. techno-trashcan

      techno-trashcan

      update: i asked my friend about this, and she told me she'd forgotten about that until now, but said, "i think i was picturing some artsy white boy. it was a different time."

       

      my response? "gross."

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