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LBMango

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    Lizard Bench Mango
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  • Romanticism
    Aro
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  1. My understanding is that "crush" is inherently romantic. non-romantic attraction is a different thing... And aromantic is different than non-romantic. Most people have non-romantic relationships. My understanding that a PERSON is aromantic, not a relationship, an attraction, or a crush. As such, if you feel both non-romantic feelings, and alloromantic feelings for different people, or at different times, or whatever... that makes you ... normal? Basically, I'm having trouble understanding what the alternatives to what you describe are: you feel both romantic and non-romantic attraction... Well, the alternatives are, one can only experience non-romantic attractions, which makes one straight up aromantic with no qualifiers, or one can experience only romantic attraction, which makes one... what? that's not a Thing, as far as I know... I'm not trying to deny your experience. I just don't understand your experience because you're using words in very different ways than what I'm used to, and so what you are saying sounds non-sensical with the definitions of the words I'm used to...
  2. I would like to second this! Although, Pie is kind of claimed by mathematicians (pi vs pie) But eh... Yay pie
  3. I think "discount chocolates" or something like that... may be the best. Because it's obvious that we're just taking advantage of the amatonormative February brouhaha...
  4. I think that the suggestion is that we CREATE one...
  5. outside of the ace/aro communities, I think romance and sex are conflated, so "platonic" means "not that". within the a-communities, it seems (from very little evidence) that "platonic" means "the part that I want, without the part I don't understand". Which I don't find to be a useful definition personally...
  6. I think it might be cool to have a "nesting partner". Have a best friend who I live with (separate bedrooms, and plenty of space)... but I'm pretty happy living by myself...
  7. I just came up with this, so I don't have a firm idea, and maybe it's been done: but something with some pun on arrow/cupid's arrow/aro.... I'm not really sure how that would work.... I kind of want there to be a thing where the symbol of aro is the banana. Because, "Time flies like an arrow, fruit flies like a banana". But I'm weird, so don't base anything off of me. Also, It's Monday, and I haven't had enough coffee yet, so I'm a extra weird right now...
  8. I like "aromantics of all sexual orientations" I interpret "a-spec" as "the asexual spectrum", So, "a-spec" includes gray-asexuality and demisexual, but not allosexual aromantic. I kind of wish that there were two terms: as-spec and ar-spec... Then we could talk about a*-spec.... but that isn't the language we have...
  9. All of y'all who were peer pressured into choosing a person to claim you were crushing on were WAY more popular than I was, I guess. Or maybe it's a gendered thing? The geeky boys in my schools never discussed any of this... My best friend WAS surprised when I said who I would have asked to prom, if I'd decided to go, because I didn't really know her at all, I just thought she was cute, and not someone who was WAY above me in the social pecking order...
  10. I mean, that's what people think will happen to gay people... "Oh look! a penis! NOW I understand!"
  11. I agree with Jot-Aro and Nonmerci. If you explicitly include non-ace aros in the group charter/advertising/whatever, it would go a long way... If you don't explicitly include that concept, **I**, at least, would assume that I'd be tolerated, but not really a full member...
  12. I had a weird experience last night. I don't normally remember my dreams much, but I have at least bits of this one... In the dream, I was with a woman who I thought I had a crush on in college (25 years ago). I found/find her physically attractive, and she's really cool, and fun to be around. In the dream, I run into her again (I haven't actually seen her in person for almost 25 years, but we're FB friends, etc) and suddenly have all of these feelings. Heart palpitations, butterflies, etc... I remember, in the dream, thinking "huh, maybe I'm not aromantic after all?" Now, It's been a LONG time since I've had feelings for this woman. She's been married to her high school sweetheart for almost 25 years and they have at least 2 kids... I still think she's really cool... but that's about it... Have others had similar experiences? I mean, I can fly in my dreams, so it's not like dreaming I can do something that I can't do in real life is all that surprising...
  13. My ideal relationship, for ME, is what I call fractionamory. So, in polyamory, I would be in (possibly) more than one relationship. In fractionamory, I'd be in less than one, but not zero... so, like, 1/2 of a relationship...
  14. I think this falls under my category of "Language is hard"...
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