Hi everyone, new user here but I'm slow to change so I've poked around a fair bit before signing up.
The main question I have is "How were any of you ever sure with your identity?". I'm only here because I found a list of the types of attraction that can be felt (it included sexual, romantic, sensual, emotional, and aesthetic - are there any others?). I know for sure I've felt everything on that list with the exception of romantic, but I'm struggling to determine where the line is between aromantic and merely afraid of commitment. My situation also means that I pass really easily - I've been in a couple reasonably serious relationships before, and the common factor in the break ups is my inability to see things working out for a longer term future.
I think maybe something more is going on because of my answers to several of the 'You Might Be Aromantic If..." questions. I don't really get what most people get out of kissing, for example, and my ideal relationship looks like some kind of relationship anarchy/QPR with benefits mess. I scored something like 30/50 on Anagnori's list (https://anagnori.tumblr.com/post/69145328274/you-might-be-aromantic-if, I've seen it mentioned in a couple threads). Any advice on how I might be able to know for sure appreciated.