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  1. If you want name suggestions, "sex and sexuality" is something that could be used to indicate that it's more about the sexual behavior/feelings aspect than the identity aspect (as opposed to say, sexuality and gender or orientations and gender or sexual and gender identities etc. As names for the current forum). For example http://www.scarleteen.com/bb/ (although I don't think it makes sense to go quite so granular here as it is already a smaller forum) On another note, this doesn't solve most of the wider issue at all but could address one specific slice - when I was back on AVEN, there was at one point a stickied "TMI Thread" that was an open thread for any and all explicit topics that one might want to discuss (often sexual or genital related, but sometimes other things like explicit descriptions of weird medical issues or whatever.) It was a great place for having frank discussions about things like, say, vaginal secretions or masturbation techniques or frustration about vaginismus or other things that other users may not have wanted to see un-warned-for in other general threads.
  2. I didn't see any other polls like this (at least in the last couple months I looked at), so I'm curious - how does everyone here on arocalypse identify? It's nearly impossible to find formal research on the demographics of various aro communities, or even informal community forum polls like this, so I'm curious to see how common various labels are here. (I'd also be curious how it compares to the demographics of other aro spaces at some point, but that's another project for another time). Also, I'm sure I forgot some labels, so if there's something not listed in the poll feel free to comment below! This is a very informal half-assed poll but it's a question that definitely deserves more thorough research in the future, and commentary now could help lead design in the future. [Edit: also, I apparently can't edit the poll, so let's just pretend I spelled quoiromantic correctly]
  3. Can I ask why you think that an umbrella aromantic organization should necessarily seek majority "aro allo" leadership (as opposed to say, parity or just letting things fall based on who volunteers?) I'm familiar with all the arguments and reasons why it's important to have both ace and non-ace aro representation (as well as representation from those in the grey-areas in between! Let's not forget that seeing "allo vs. ace" as a binary in itself can cause harm), and I don't think there's anything bad with a hypothetical majority-aro-allo group in and of itself, but I also don't think that necessarily translates to "more allos than aces is obviously better" and I think it's important to talk about why that's being suggested instead of taking it as a given,
  4. Everyone knows that oddish is the superior pokemon.
  5. Aromantic Ruminations is hosting this month’s Carnival, on the topic of “Coming Out and/ or Being Out as Aromantic Spectrum”. View the official call for submissions here >>
  6. In terms of readily available commercial aro merch the newer green-green-white-grey-black variation has definitely become established as the standard, so I think it's pretty safe to go with that one. As far as other aro symbols, there is always the good old standby of "arrow" imagery! Aromantic and wordplay together, two great things in one package.
  7. Re: AAN as a proposal - how do you feel about acronyms that sneak in a few extra letters, like AroAN for Aromantic Advocacy Network, for example. That gives you more acronym options without having to add in more words that can start to feel a little redundant, especially since I feel like advocacy already covers a lot of recognition and education efforts. Alternatively, if you leave the S for Spectrum in, while ASAN is taken, other options like ASAC (arospec advocacy coalition, center) are more available. (On a side note, ACURE is my current shampoo brand, so that one might be a little confusing lol)
  8. The acronym sounds nice as an acronym, but it feels a little wordy in the full expanded form. Might need to think a bit to find an acronym that isn't taken yet though so I don't know if I can necessarily do any better though. (It looks like ANREA isn't used for anything except obscure shipping policy, though, so that's a plus in it's favor) On the other hand, for the domain name specifically, I'd recommend going for a full word or two rather than an acronym - it makes it more obvious what your site is and is also more advantageous for SEO and making it easy for people to remember you. (This is part of why AVEN, for example, is asexuality.org and not aven.org). You can still use the acronym elsewhere. Aromantic.org (which used to be the National Coalition for Aromantic Visibility) looks like it's been snapped up and is likely too pricy to buy back, but maybe consider something like aromanticnetwork.org or another more descriptive url? -aroadvocacy.org -aromanticadvocacy.org -aromanticnetwork.org -aronetwork.org (Aromantic is more clear but aro is more concise so that could go either way. I also haven't checked availability for any of these). I also had some thoughts about that recently here: https://nextstepcake.wordpress.com/2019/04/01/the-chance-to-be-the-change-you-want-to-see/ On a side note, if you need or are open to monetary donations for supporting initial domain or hosting costs, please let me know! I've been wishing someone would set up something like this but didn't have the time do it myself, so I'd like to support in the ways that I can!
  9. Some miscellaneous advice: I'd like to second the recommendation for coalition building. Also, while LGBTQIA/Queer and Ace groups are some of the most likely to be interested in sharing resources, your coalitions don't actually have to be with a topically related organization - it can just be wherever you have connections. For example, when I was first attempting to put together a campus ace group, I did receive support from the local community ace group and LGBT Center...but I also received a lot of direct support from the campus anime club (in terms of sharing storage and event space and materials) just because I was also an officer there and had connections to it in general. In general, connections to university groups (or sometimes even high school groups, like GSAs) are valuable because educational campuses often have lots of 1. classroom space and 2. curious and interested students who like to attend events to learn new things (bonuses if there is free food). Therefore, partnering with campus groups (even if it may be for one event, like maybe a joint ASAW presentation or mixer) is one great way to get outreach started if you have any potential connections there. Also, many general student groups like GSAs/QSAs/General LGBT + Ally education groups are interested in speakers who can come do good panels or presentations for free. And even if it's not listed as a social meetup, events like that tend to bring hidden aces or aros out of the woodwork. -- Also for meetup.com specifically, one important thing to know is that each paid organizer can generaly sponsor up to 3 groups (at least as of the last time I checked) - but many organizers don't need their full 3 slots. So sometimes if you ask around with the organizer of other meetup.com events you attend, or random friends or other connections who use meetup, you may be able to find someone who can sponsor your group as a co-organizer so that you don't have to pay any additional meetup.com fees. And if you can get it, I do recommend meetup.com, as my ace group always get a lot of new members from there who wouldn't have found our group otherwise. -- In terms of online presence, I'd also add that it can be helpful (though not necessary) to have something like a facebook group, email group, discord chat, etc. where people can chat and ask questions in between meetups - this can help the group solidify as an actual community and give people chances to interact even if they can't make regular meetups, especially if you only have formal events once a month or so. -- My last advice, is make sure you have a some completely free, absolutely no obligation to spend money events (as opposed to events like cafe meetups where there is still a social expectation that attendees should buy some food or drink, even if it's not enforced). Hikes or city walks or library/classroom/community space workshops are examples of events that don't include any need to spend money; cafe meetups or conferences or movie outings or fundraisers are not. -- Also, as a minor addition: nametags! I have trouble remembering one new name, let alone 10+ when I go to new events. So I love when social events have nametags available so that I don't have to keep re-asking people what their name is, especially if I've met them before at other events and still forgot (woops). And you can also add pronouns or ace identity or whatever other info you might want on there too so you can just get it out there without having to wait for someone to ask.
  10. Is there any kind of twitter or other offsite location where communications can be posted when the site is down like it was a while ago? I'm not sure if there are some existing that I just don't know about. I used to use AVEN back when it was having a lot of server problems, and having a designated offsite twitter and "backup site" that we could check really helped with peace of mind when knowing that site downtime was just temporary technical issues that would be resolved in a few days as opposed to the end of the site forever. (Especially considering the history of ace and aro forums that do just disappear into the void without notice)
  11. This is a question for whoever currently manages the non-forum parts of arocalypse - When I was looking up aro resources pages a few weeks ago, I accidentally stumbled upon the Arocalypse 101 page section, which I had no idea even existed until now. However, I also noticed that these pages aren't accessible from the main arocalypse site (going to arocalypse.com redirects straight to the forums, which have no mention of the 101 pages that I can find) - so you have to kind of know they already exist to find them. Does anyone know whether these pages are still active, or are they more just a historical artifactand/or something still under contruction? Or, for my actual question, should I avoid including these arocalypse 101 pages in resource lists for now? I'm not sure if they were hidden for a reason or if it was just an accident of site remodeling over time I tried using the contact form in that section but didn't get a response, which is part of what makes me wonder if they may just be archived pages that don't have up to date information or functionality.
  12. Oh, yes, thank you for the reminder! I got so distracted looking up fictional aros that I completely forgot to think about non-fictional aros....
  13. If you're a university student, I would check if your school has any general lgbtqia groups that march in the parade and whether you can join them with a big giant aro sign. (For example, my university sponsors a parade contingent every year that invites any students and alumni of any identity to join). In general, all the recommendations I made above about working with ace groups can also apply to any other non-ace groups. General student LGBTQIA groups are also another option to look into if you don't want to be at directly associated with asexuality specifically since they already have a bunch of only semirelated identities joining in together anyway.
  14. @HotRamen is there a specific part of the west coast that you are most interested in? I run a bay area / northern california ace group and know a couple people who run other various west coast groups, so if you are interested in resource sharing with other ace groups in any particular area I could try to help get you in touch (if you aren't already). I'd be interested and available to help out if you plan to do any SF bay area events. I can also give some general advice based on my experience with organizing ace meetups. Fwiw we I had a fairly spontaneous one-off aro ace meetup here for ASAW that was hastily planned because I forgot what week it was, and even with that poor planning I got a good 8 people or so. So I think if you reach out to local ace and LGBTQIA spaces to start off with, there might be more interest than you think, especially if you are near a large city. As far as general meetings go, I would recommend considering a meetup.com group as well as a facebook page - my local ace group that I run has had a lot of success with people finding us through meetup that wouldn't have found us otherwise. You do need a paid subscription to start a new meetup group, but, existing hosts can host I think up to 3? groups, so if you can find another meetup group who is willing to help get you off the ground, their organizer may be able to set up the group and make you a co-mod to avoid additional fees. (For example, the SF ace meetup group and the LA ace group are currently do this) I'd also recommend scheduling a bunch of initial meetups around things that you like to do anyway, like going to a cafe for lunch or to read a book, or walking in a park, seeing a movie, getting ice cream, etc. Just bring a good book or some podcasts so that even if no one shows up to the first few you can still make it a fun outing for yourself. If you can have that at a regularly recurring time (like the X o'clock on the Nth saturday or sunday of the month) that can help get the initiative going to encourage other people to also show up, though it may take some time. For pride parades specifically, I definitely recommend trying to find an ace group to mooch off of if possible - parade registration fees can be a couple hundred dollars in some of the bigger cities, but if you march with another group but have two signs and leave like a 15 foot gap in the middle of the two halves of your group it's much cheaper The other route I would suggest is to see if there are any "alternate" pride marches in your area that are in smaller suburbs or cities near a main city - for example, Oakland pride vs. SF pride or Long Beach pride vs. LA Pride for some examples. These are often cheaper, less crowded, and less intimidating for a first time group. They are also usually on a different weekend than whenever the pride march in the biggest city in your area is. I also have some notes on planning pride parade groups here - it was originally made for ace groups but a lot of the advice applies to any small, new groups.
  15. Does anyone know if there are any existing projects that have created / are aiming to create any kind of aro history timelines? I'm interested in maybe, eventually creating some kind of timeline / reference page with some tidbits of aro history but I don't want to reinvent the wheel if I don't have to, so I'm wondering if anyone knows of anything pre-existing, or if there's anyone already working on something like this that would be interested in some help. Specifically, the kinds of things I'm thinking to include are: Timelines of various attempts at aro forums, including when they were founded and when they collapsed (including things like the [ace] aromantic forum-motion forum, aroplane, the first arocalypse, the second (current) arocalypse, the AVEN a/romantic orientation subforum and it's false starts, etc.) especially with notes on which were aro ace specific and which were general aro. The beginnings (and ends) of various aro activist efforts and resource pages (like ASAW, the now defunct Coalition for Aromantic Visibility, the aromantic wiki, etc.) Outlines of the three main aro flag proposals and when they mostly saw use The evolution of various aro community and related vocabulary, like "aromantic", "grayromantic", "gray-aromantic", "qoiromantic", "squish", "queerplatonic", etc. When and where aro characters have appeared in mainstream media (jughead, that one dude from the cassandra clare books) [possibly] early media coverage of aromanticism, if it seems notable, and misc. things like aromantic getting added to the OED I have access to most of the sources needed for a lot of this info already, the tricky part is just getting it all organized and figuring out how to work it into something for people to actually use and understand. Also, if it sounds like I've forgotten some category of events or spaces that you think would be interesting to include, please let me know! Other things that I'm not as familiar with, however, that I'd be especially interested in learning about if anyone would be willing to share their notes: Any influential aromantic pages or groups on facebook, reddit, twitter, or other non-tumblr or wordpress social media (I know absolutely nothing about what is or isn't going on on facebook in particular) Any non-english language activity Explicit canon representation of aro characters besides bojack and rafael (I suspect there have been some webcomic and YA novel characters by now, but I don't follow either of those very closely. Also, does anyone know if Bojack has any aromantic characters? I know they named drop the word but not sure if they ever link it to any specific characters, and I don't really want to actually watch the whole show) Also, if anyone has questions about aromantic history, or is intrigued by any of the mentions above and would like a link or to learn more, feel free to post a comment here and I'll try to see if I can answer them (though I might be slow) - any thing that gets me motivated to work on this more is good.
  16. I know this is a bit late, but I've posted my own response about some of the reasons for going with the current carnival timing / proposed topic here. I don't really do forums much these days, especially after getting burned out on AVEN, which is part of why I was interested in trying to promote more centralized spaces for aro blogging conversations, so I wasn't aware of the attempts to communicate issues here, and apologize for being so late to respond. I know that there's a lot of tension between various parts of the aromantic community, and I had also hoped that the topic could be an opportunity for a sort of airing of grievances exactly like what people have already to posted - to some extent I think this is a reckoning that was going to have to happen sooner or later in any attempt to connect more disparate parts of the aro community, and I had hoped to just get it over with instead of leaving it simmering just under the surface to build into more and more resentment. It's clear now though that the timing may have been too soon for that, so that's also on me.
  17. I'm not sure if you're also interested in more resources or blogs, but if you are also interested in more people to talk to about spanish language discussion of aromanticism, Mundo Heterogéneo is a bilingual english/spanish blogger who's been doing some writing about aromanticism for the carnival of aros. I know Chrysocollatown has also written a bit about aromantic visibility at their mostly-spanish-language blog - they'd also probably be a good person to check with if you are looking for additional resources since they do a fair amount of both research and activism. (I'm a lame english monoloingual, so I can only understand bits of those posts, but I enjoy both of their english writing). But as far as topics, getting interviews/quotes from a bunch of different aro people to feature a variety of experiences could be one interesting type of content.
  18. Oh, this is really cool! It's interesting to see how explicitly aro ace they made the story coding in this edition. For anyone who's curious about the original japanese version and some of the vocabulary involved, there was some talk about it on tumblr a couple years ago. The english fan scanlation stopped only a few chapters in, so I'm curious to see if it ever gets an official license here.
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