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Cristal Gris

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  1. Well, usually with a Disney/Pixar/dreamworks movie , we have a french dub. I don't know about other languages. I am not sure how it's going with Dutch. But I watched Moana in french... well, Vayana at least. They changed the name.
  2. Hey! Thanks, I hope you're okay too. Welcome here by the way
  3. i mean, being aro certainly afected my view on friendship, but my anxiety and ptsd are really the ones to be blamed for my trust issues and self esteem^^ But yeah, i always love to know more about myself. Same. Humor is one of my way of coping. Finding relatable things too.
  4. ( TW : mention of self harm and bullying) I deal with social anxiety and PTSD. Because of bullying (two years of it non stop, everyday, when i was 12-13 year old) While my aromantism and my mental health are unrelated, it cause me troubles with friendship. (trust issues, in other peoples but especially in myself. ) I am just glad i know about ptsd and anxiety because i really thought something was wrong with me and it was my fault. Not that it stop me from self harming and feeling guilty. Damn it, anxiety. Well i guess it help to talk about it.
  5. I think so, yes. If they feel like the label fit them. They could also be queer. I know some aro-spec don't indentify as such, and that's okay, but i think any aro-spec belong.
  6. Yeah. Since aromantism is a part of it , i don't see why we should exclude any aro-spec .
  7. Thank you for the advice. But this is not simple… it feel like a wall separate us. I love her but i can't really speak about feelings with her. I guess we aren't THAT close. I think i will just deal with it.
  8. That's right. thanks! Yeah i think i will just wait and see.
  9. thanks for sharing that. To be honnest, i think i will just not think about this anymore and probably see what will happen next. Also, yeah i would be happy with good friends ^^ even if we are not Partner.
  10. It make sense ! I think this is the case for me too.
  11. Well, i don't think i am aroace oriented myself, but i "know" some of them. One of them was attracted in a sensual (not sexual) way to girls only so they called themself a lesbian aroace. Squishes were not what i was thinking about, but i must admit, I don't know everything about this. I just though it was worth mentioning.
  12. Yeah that's what i think too. I am kind of romance repulsed, but this is good to know, thanks! Maybe i will give it a look.
  13. That being said, what make me think lars is aro gay is because (spoiler ! ): 1 : someone say : lars don't get attached to peoples "like that" (implied : in a romantic way ) 2: he say to his mother who want grandchildren "at least, you are atracted to the opposite gender !" (he only have sex with men) I realize he could be aroace and like sex. I guess it's up to the reader… Unless they clarify it later.
  14. Yeah, it would be great ! At least with Heroes of Thantanos, it's expliciliy said.
  15. okay, i found two webcomics with one confirmed aro character. The other one is implied. First : Heroes of Thantanos : http://www.heroesofthantopolis.com/comic/chapter-1-cover The hero is aroace , it's confirmed here :http://www.heroesofthantopolis.com/comic/chapter-9-page-21?fbclid=IwAR23UH1f1EEw6nxinl6R0_t0tZBtPmJh38GIulA2cOFYAGiVBpvycrAf6eU Secondly , The griefer belt (warning for sexual content ) :https://tapas.io/episode/181380 Lars is implied to be aro gay. I hope i am not wrong. It's implied he is attracted to the "opposite gender" (and have sex with them) but is said to not like peoples "that way" (implied : in a romantic way) Again, maybe i am wrong. It's not explicitly said and i hope i didn't misread. (add webcomics if you want)
  16. They sounded very elitist, yeah (i even feel like they were trying to say that aroace are the "true a-spec" but i can't be sure, this is just a feeling. I approve the fact that an aroace space exist, but i don't approve this kind of message ). I was not even aware of this. I guess the aro community is not immune...
  17. I have seen something like that on facebook , an aroace groupe who said : we dont believe aro and ace are spectrum. (if that's what you're talking about) I stay away from them.
  18. There is a stereotype that affect both aces and aros sometime : ace don't mean sex repulsed and aro don't mean romance repulsed. Unless your character is both ? In that case, this is fine. Also, aroace peoples can be oriented! Like, they can be bi aroace or gay aroace. They can give a label for their platonic attraction (like sensual or queerplatonic (i think? )) But again, if your character is not, this is also fine. (it's just informative, maybe you already know it) Good luck !
  19. @Apathetic Echidna It's ok, it was not a mistake. Well, i can ask around in the french groups i am in, there are peoples who are well renseigned.. Right now i don't know many things. You know what, i will do it right now. If i come back with interesting stuff i will tell you. Edit : i Don't know if you're interested, but right now i have : -arobase : a political organization created this year, in the french community. (http://aromantisme.org/?fbclid=IwAR2aOE3EZwB50dwY5ulFCzdBdxVpRTRMFC2qP8812ad9Sal8QsPXFwGd08E)
  20. Oh, dont get me wrong. I can spend time with her when her boyfried is around. In fact, we play games together sometime. It's fun. I guess this is a "me" problem heh.. Feeling like a third wheel.
  21. Oh, i have nothing against her boyfriend. But even if we were friends, i still would be the third wheel… And i hate it, being a third wheel , it make me feel horrible.
  22. Interesting way to put it. I do think qpr can be amatonormative in a way. It work in Europe too. Where i live at least. To be honnest, i describe myself as nonamorous now, but i am currently wondering if this is true. I guess time wil tell.
  23. Saaaame. But i think, in the end, that i just want someone close. Yeah, i think you're right. Everyone seem happy with their qpp , i think i just want to be happy too. But i should remember that no Relationship is more or less important.
  24. Hey. Okay so… i am nonamorous. I don't think i could have a qpr , well , i don't think i would want one anyway. I don't know if i could get THAT close with someone. … but sometime, i want to be close to someone. A qpr sound nice ( that being said, i would never be able to get physically close with them (like hugs or kisses) ). And everyone make it soud like this is the best thing in the world. (serious question : do you think this is a form of amatonormativity even if this is not romance ? ) Well, i wonder if i am really nonamorous. Or maybe i just wish i had close friends. I don't know anymore. Maybe my stance on nonamory will even change if i get closer to someone? I know i can get squishes but they never lead to anywhere. (for various reasons) (anyone can relate? Or want to add something? )
  25. I feel very isolated too. That being said, to only peoples i could call my friends… i don't see the very often. But yeah, peoples rarely understand me.
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