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Artemis's Aro

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  1. (I have a more to say but I'm not exactly sure how to word it, so here's a little anyways.) Yeah I've been thinking about this too. I know it's a common experience to feel "broken" before realizing you're aro/ace, but honestly? I never felt that way. I felt weird sometimes about being aro but it just seems pretty normal to not like people. I think it has to do with the culture surrounding romance, how it socializes people into needing it, even if it might not be exactly what they want. I also have a couple of friends who could be aro or aspec, and one of them even briefly identified as aro, but I think she's struggling with the fact that she thinks that she needs romance. She keeps entering into relationships even though we all know she's trying to see if she even feels anything for them.
  2. cavetown on YouTube is an aspec creator. His music is pretty cool.
  3. I have a lot of friends who were supportive when I came out. Of course, most of them were super confused and I had a few screenshots ready of explanations I sent to them, but afterwards they understood. Some of them even sent me aro memes! One of the friends I came out to was a little more skeptical from the others, though. She's well-meaning, but honestly she's like the external embodiment of my own doubts. She keeps asking if I'm sure I'm aro or that maybe I'm just clinging on to the label so much that I don't want to actually experience romance. One of her arguments was "everybody feels that way" and for a while now I've been thinking she's aro-spec. Oh well. Sometimes her arguments feel more convincing but other times I feel so sure in myself that it just seems aro-phobic.
  4. I know what you mean. I'm cis and basically hetero, though I know I'm aro. I see a lot of aspec positivity blogs talking about how aces and aros are still lgbtq, even if they're cis and hetero in other aspects, but sometimes it just doesn't feel right to identify as lgbtq. Honestly, I think aro does count as "coming out" because it's asserting your identity as something other than heteronormative. I know I used national coming out day as the day I told most of my friends I was aro.
  5. On National Coming Out Day last year I posted on my close friends story on Instagram about how I was aromantic. I also posted a "you might be aromantic if" post and mentioned how I related to a lot of the stuff it said, and how it made me happy to identify this way. All of my friends, though a little confused, were very supportive. One of my friends is a little more disbelieving (I'm sure more than one are but this friend is the only one that voices it sometimes) and every once in a while she asks me if I'm still identifying this way and if I might change. She's a good friend and well-meaning but it's annoying sometimes. I had already come out to 2 of my friends, one of whom is aro-spec, and they were both super supportive and they helped me figure myself out. It later turned out that two more of my friends came out as ace and demi, respectively, and it was just super cool to have an a-spec gang like that. One of my friends also got me a tiny little aro pin on the first day of pride month last june! It's very cute and I love it so much.
  6. I used to be neutral on the concept of romance, since it just felt boring and not really my thing. I mean, sure, I liked reading some romance stories but only if they were actually well-written. Thinking about romance for myself was ok but, as I said, boring. Lately I've found most depictions of romance and any indication of it for myself repulsive. I physically shudder and my muscles tense and it's altogether very uncomfortable. I was just listening to the song "Dusk Til Dawn" because the chorus is super cool and I like the atmosphere it creates, and also I wasn't really paying attention to the rest of the lyrics. Immediately after, some other song by the same artist started playing and it mentioned something like "I love this girl I wanna protect her" or some other cheesy romantic saying and I had to immediately close out of the song it made me so uncomfortable. Has anyone else gone from being positive/neutral to repulsed?
  7. Same, I don't really feel the need to come out. I've come out to most of my friends and they're (for the most part) super accepting. Some of them have even sent me aro memes. But to my family? Nah. My parents don't even want me to date til after college and that just feels like a ridiculously easy thing to follow. The only thing I don't like is that once in a while they question me as to whether I have a "secret boyfriend" they don't know about, or my extended family will start questioning me as to what my "type" is.
  8. I made myself a spotify playlist with songs I thought were aro-themed. While there are other aro playlists on spotify this one's more to my style
  9. I have a tiny little aro flag I made with a toothpick, paper, and glue, and a little aro heart pin that my friend gave me at the start of pride month! Oh, and I also have an aro ring!
  10. I use romance-neutral because when I imagine romance or see it on TV I'm not repulsed, and for TV I may even ship some characters, but ultimately I'm usually just bored by it.
  11. I haven't been in a situation like that so the only thing I can tell you is that you'll have to set boundaries. Maybe send her the link to the article and explain how that's how you envision your relationship?
  12. OK I have two hc's: Sherlock Holmes and Kusuo Saiki (from The Disasterous Life of Saiki K.) I'm basing this Sherlock off of the original stories, because BBC sherlock seems to have just a teensy bit of tension between him and John. In the original stories, he doesn't date at all, and the only potential "interest" is Irene Adler, whom is immediately dismissed as a romantic interest within the first paragraph, something about how Sherlock admired her for her brain and not as anything else. And then with Saiki, he's a psychic and all powerful and all that jazz. He has the attention of apparently the most perfect girl in the world, and he could not care less. In fact, he tries as hard as he can to get away from her and to make her lose interest in him. In fact, the only thing he's really interested in is sweets. cake and coffee jelly. The way he deals with all this is hilarious and I highly recommend this show.
  13. I haven't heard it yet but I saw somewhere that "You Can't Hurry Love" by The Supremes in a demi anthem of sorts.
  14. Sometimes I'm in first person and I'll look down at my hands and realize that it's not actually me.. like I'll have taken the form of some character from a tv show I'm binging at the moment. Most of the time I have full senses, which is especially weird because I'll be able to smell things like cooking pasta or coffee and be confused when I wake up and there is no pasta or coffee. I want to learn to lucid dream. I know that in my dreams whatever I'm looking at is clear but my peripheral vision is super cloudy. Have any of you died in a dream? Because I had a dream where I got shot point-blank to the heart and I remember falling to the ground and seeing my blood pool before my vision faded?? And then I emerged as a ghost and saw my body in third person and it was a surreal experience.
  15. I used to think relationships were cool but with any little problem that could arise it felt like too much work. I felt like the only point to dating was to find someone to get married to and I really didn't feel like going through trial-and-error. Turns out people date even without marriage in mind?? I would forget about crushes and boyfriends up until someone would ask "who do you have a crush on". It seems like allo people constantly have a crush on someone. I thought I had a crush on this one guy and someone asked if I liked him and I immediately felt embarrassed and repulsed and not in the way that would imply I had a crush on him. I didn't understand the big deal with crushes because with all my "crushes" I just wanted to impress the person with jokes and stuff. I didn't understand how other people could blush and stutter and mess up. Fictional kisses were cool but whenever I tried to imagine myself kissing someone (even my supposed "crushes" lmao) I got bored and a little disgusted with the fact that people willingly exchange saliva. When I was like 9 I think I actually screamed at the radio for playing the same love songs over and over again because they were so boring. I thought crushes were supposed to just be admired because I didn't understand why people would want to date someone they know they'd be over in like 2 months why even bother? Crushes were just people who were aesthetically attractive or fun to talk to.
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