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  1. November

    Aromanticism effect on social skills

    Dating can be an important part of socializing for some alloromantic people. And sometimes people recommend that one should be around more people in order to meet "the right one". But of course that doesn't mean that dating is the only reason to socialize. Being aro affects my social skills in the same way as it does when I'm with people who share any other interest that I don't have. It can be annoying when people talk about love and just assume that everyone experiences it in the same way - and this can make me uncomfortable and more quiet than I usually am.
  2. Good point! I guess we need a survey where random people are asked instead of only users of one forum .... ... and I just noticed that in this survey (https://asexualcensus.files.wordpress.com/2017/10/2015_ace_census_summary_report.pdf on page 29) the participants were asked to which gender they were romantically attracted: 15.1% of the women, 17.4% of the men and 21.9% of the non-binary people replied that they were attracted to none ...
  3. We also have a ring (simple white ring worn on the left middle finger):
  4. November

    Aromantic Character Headcanons

    Hmm... I rather thought of Vimes and Sybil as a QPP. Somehow I thought that Carrot and Angua were both demi, but now that you mentioned it, I can see them in a QPP, too. And yes, Granny is definitely aro! Maybe Nanny Ogg is aro and heterosexual 🤔
  5. November

    Aromantic Character Headcanons

    Please tell us! I'm really curious and I have some thoughts too, but I guess I'll have to reread the books again because I'm not sure ... Anyway, I really want Susan to be aro and have a squish on Buddy (when I read Soul Music, I was really annoyed that she seemed to have a crush on him, but I didn't know that squishes exist - so maybe it fits?!)
  6. According to the ace community census (https://asexualcensus.wordpress.com/) there are about 60% women and 13% men ...
  7. November

    Oops! Uh oh! Yikes!

    If he's flirting or telling you that he has a crush on you etc, tell him that you're not interested in him. If it's a rumour or you're just guessing, ignore him and try to avoid him. Anyway, you don't have to tell him that you're aro or that you don't want a relationship. (Because this can sound like an excuse and no one has to excuse for not being in love with another person.)
  8. November

    Coming out stories!

    @CraSyFantaZi That's great When I came out to my best friend, it was really weird at first, but after some weeks I realized that it made our friendship even better because now we're both comfortable to talk about relationship-related stuff (we kind of avoided this topic before). Nevertheless I think, it's better if a coming out doesn't change a friendship
  9. I answered "born aromantic" because ... that's what it feels like 🤷‍♀️ (though I think that my attitude towards sex and romance changed from favorable to slightly repulsed since I started identifying as aro ace) I also don't like it when people assume that another person's sexuality or romanticism changed (especially if they blame it on a previous relationship).
  10. November

    Coming out stories!

    My situation is very similar. Since I started identifying as aro ace about half a year ago, only one person cared me about my love life (ok, he just kept assuming that I'd want to have a boyfriend and was worried that we couldn't be friends anymore if I had a boyfriend - so I came out to him because I was really annoyed). It's so much easier when nobody cares
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