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Tired-Sparo

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  1. Thanks so much. Yeah what your friend did was definitely a bitchy thing to do. If they had already created separation between them and their friends that would be one thing but to drop everyone with no warning is another. I wouldnt make the first move to talk to them again either. Coincidentally thats similar to how i lost another friend last year. She suddenly got mad over random things in our friendship that had never bothered her before (i knew her for ten years) and then she didnt tell me she was mad about anything she just ignored me and was petty. Then she cut all contact.
  2. Totodile and bulbasaur because i cant pick between the two
  3. Yeah i have support from another close friend and my family so its made it a bit easier but they live in difference cities than me cuz im in college so sometimes its a but hard but im lucky i have that support and ive made a few new friends so slowly but surely things are getting better i think. Once summer hits and i can put more distance between friend 2 and myself i think ill feel better.
  4. Trigger warning: mention of self harm/suicide I say a lot but my close friend group was pretty small to begin with. I had about 4 close friends and i lost two of them lets call them friend 1 and friend 2. So friend 1 was treating me and friend two like therapists and we confronted friend 1 and said hey you cant do this and then we proceeded to provide friend 1 with support and an abbundance of mental health resources that we offered to go with them too. Fast forward a bit and friend 1 is still treating us like therapists so im pretty worn out mentally and we (friend 1 and i) were having a serious convo because they were having some problems again that they really needed to talk to their parents (which we also encouraged them to talk to) and some mental health professionals about. Friend 1 told me they had been moments from killing themself and that they might have done it if i hadnt comforted them when i did. That scared me especially because they had mentioned being suicidal before but this is the closest id ever known them to getting to that point and so i decided friend 1 should be baker acted. In my state baker acting is when if you think someone is a danger to themself or others you can call to have them get taken to a mental health facility and they hold you there for 3 days minimum while you get help. So friend 1 obviously didnt like that (i didnt expect them to) and friend 2 disagreed with my decision too. They somehow couldnt grasp the fact that telling someone that you were moments from suicide is a large cause for concern that i think called for some form of action because friend 1 refused to get help after we had offered resources and offered to go with her for months. It didnt really matter that i had called anyways becasue they didnt end up taking her to the mental heatlh facility. The way my state does baker acting isnt exactly the best because its cops that come pick you up and they just ask are you suicidal right now? And friend 1 said no so they didnt take her. So as far as i know friend 1 still hasnt gotten help and i havent cut myself off enirely cuz i dont want them committing suicide but i also dont really talk to them much anymore either for my own mental health. As for friend 2 she didnt have to agree with my decision to bakeract friend 1 but she was very rude to me about my decision when i was the one that got told she was moments from suicide. So id like to not talk to friend 2 much either but i live with them in a dorm so i kinda have to. TLDR: friend 1 needed to see mental health professionals but wouldnt after months of encouragement and provided resources so i decided to have officials force her to get mental health help when she told me she had been moments from suicide and friend 1 and friend 2 disagreed with that decision.
  5. figuring out your orientation or even just yourself as a person takes time. it will be hard but try and remind yourself to be patient with yourself because feelings are confusing so it takes time and patience to figure it out but one day youll get there. Also im not trying to define your orientation for you because only you can do that but just a suggestion maybe you could be grayromantic or somewhere else on the aromantic spectrum. But no matter what you will figure it out one day and whatever your orientation is youre an awesome person and i wish you luck with your dating endeavors. also even if talking to that guy seems like its too late you should talk to him anyways. just be honest about it an be like hey im confused but this is how i feel and yall can decide what you wanna do from there. you never know anything can happen.
  6. I had a falling out with a lot of my close friends in the past 6 months and ive pretty much only been left with 2 close friends altho i have to be around one of the friends i had a falling out with because shes my roommate. Sometimes i wish i could just move somewhere else and start entirely new with my friendships. has anyone else ever felt like that?
  7. I went to a convention last weekend and two of the stalls with pride flag products had aro stuff! i got a cute pin and if i can find the card i took from the table ill post it so anyone who wants a pin or something can buy one

  8. Even though its hard to differentiate between the two sometimes i think its a necessary distinction that needs to be made because a meetup and a qpr can have different connotations and expectations going into the situation unless theres at least a bit if a clear understanding of what someone wants out of a relationship. So there could be a thread for meetups which to me implies just to hang out as friends cuz you want to meet more aros and then another thread for dates which to me implies more of a qpr or whatever type of relationship situation
  9. I agree with a lot of the points made advocating for a dating thread. Like NotHeartless said I'd also want to date an aro person in a QPR because I feel like there's less room for misinterpretation when it comes to talking about what each person wants in the relationship, and even though there aren't many of us on this website it's still a nice starting point because for me personally I haven't met any other aros in real life. I also agree with Jot-Aro in that i think there should be a section for dating for those who want to post on that thread, but as long as it's a specific thread then those who don't want anything to do with it don't have to look at it.
  10. Happy valentines day! I platonically love you all💚

  11. So I basically described feeling aromantic to my mom but didn't tell her I'm aromantic. I was like I wouldn't mind dating but I don't feel a need to I'm okay without dating and she was like yeah that makes sense but knowing her if I said I'm aromantic she would just tell me I have to wait for the right person and that I'm still young so it was an odd situation

    1. NotHeartless

      NotHeartless

      I'm with you there, I've heard this sentence too often (same as "you'll change your mind"). And I'm not even out (yet):S.
      But congrats you brought up the courage to tell her indirectly. That's awesome! :aropride:

    2. Anything_but_allo

      Anything_but_allo

      Aw man, I hope both of you are able to come out freely one day! I have hope in you both 💚 and that’s good that she is at least ok with that decision, at least she accepts this. Just remember that you’re awesome and keep staying that way! 💚

    3. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      when i was questioning, i described aromanticism to my mom and she thought it was "sad," then when i came out she said she "wasn't worried about dating at 17 either" even though i was in a relationship at the time (wow, that was over 3 years ago?), but i tried to explain further and i think she accepts it, my dad too.  like i think the possibility that i'll change is definitely in their minds but like they're going with it for now?  idk, it could certainly be worse.  good luck.

  12. so ive taken a liking to crocheting and am almost done with a striped blanket which got be thinking that it would be pretty cool to make an aro flag blanket

    1. BecauseMeg

      BecauseMeg

      Wow, that's so cool! I actually just joined a crochet club that my friend started, so maybe one day I'll make a blanket like that :)

  13. Ironically my final paper for my 18th century literature class is on an author's view of first loves vs. second loves

  14. Happy thanksgiving! 🦃

    1. Naegleria fowleri

      Naegleria fowleri

      Pshh... American.

       

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  15. I headcanon Aloy from the video game Horizon Zero Dawn as aro because almost every character in the game flirts with her at some point but she's always like thanks not interested and she has a large group of friends she cares for immensely
  16. I can definitely attest to the fact that some of these tropes were misguiding and made it more confusing to find out I was aro. The whole soulmate concept and the idea that you had to have love to have an interesting and meaningful life made me ignore the fact that I didn't actually feel love and didn't need it to be happy. It wasn't until years later that I realized I could be completely happy without a romantic love and it helped me acknowledge that the whole time I was waiting for some "true love" person that I hadn't really felt any romantic love for anyone anyways.
  17. I would rather own an animal shelter than get married
  18. A magazine for my school is taking submissions of poetry for possible publication if i post some stuff would anyone be willing to give me opinions on which ones would be good for submission?

  19. For me it took 3 days but I didn't work on it non-stop. It was a good few hours each day though.
  20. I usually write poetry/prose and recently I wrote a poem for class where we had to find a place in nature and describe that place without directly describing it. It's really long but I think it turned out pretty good so if anyone wants to read it: Spoiler Untouched yet tainted by man Like a grand ball hosted by nature itself. Trees bow in greeting, Cicadas sing their praise, Butterflies flutter across the jade floor, The palmettos wave their fans, Ever so polite are these forest beings. Expressive yet silent, They watch as man treads Through the meticulously created ball room. The lovely outfits of the occasion Shades of jade and emerald, The frequent peridot, The occasional amethyst, All glittering in the bright light of this glorious occasion. Reminiscent of the fae, You’re drawn in alone with sweet sounds Never to walk out again if not cautious. Yet nature is also kind in its care For one cannot help but smile At such a peaceful scene before them. Old trees with beards of gray, Friendly footmen enjoying the greenery, A symphony incapable of transcription, Welcome to any who enter. I was not born into this grandeur, Yet a path has been carved for me. Connected like that of branches, Yet separated like earth and water, I have yet to find my place. Such a variety of dancers, Some fresh faces close by the ground, Some aged with long and curling fingers, Some half way gone resting upon a leafy bed. I wonder how small and young I seem to them. Their years are innumerable, Mine are finite. Born of the same world, Yet different in life, And different in death. I know once I leave this palace Its inhabitants will continue the dance, Will switch the musicians, Further the conversation Whether man decides to attend or not. Although man claims the occasion, Man did not create it. Nature built this palace Brick by brick and piece by piece, Yet man has claimed his room. Gracious hosts invite man in for a visit Although he brings his bags as if to stay. He works for the lovely hosts Providing for all who visit, Tempting visitors to stay. Man does not steal the spotlight, But leaves fingerprints Throughout the halls, And interrupts the music With his own song. He pretends to speak for the silent, Attempts to understand The vast ballroom not of his creation, And control it In what human ways he can. Nature is a name given by man. He feigns knowledge to gain entrance, Pretends to know nature Like a simple definition, But he doesn’t really know. It is impossible to know a place That transforms so quickly, That disappears and again Rises like phoenix from ash, Forever retaining a fresh face. Man pretends to recognize Each new face as it appears, But instead he creates a new definition, A person to go along with the face, And he always pretends they are a friend. Sometimes a close friend, Sometimes more distant, But man always claims to know Nature as if he were there When it was brought into the world. Nature is indifferent. It does not require anything To continue to host the ball, Does not require comfort, All it needs are guests. The guests create a community Which thrives off of each other, Which helps pick up the phoenix When it is ready to be reborn, It does not need man. Although man is not necessary, Nature welcomes man to watch. Nature provides help when man needs it, And he gladly accepts For he knows he needs the help of the hosts. Man feigns being self-sufficient, But man cannot create something of nothing, Nature is necessary to build a palace. Man can only mimic the wondrous designs Of the ever changing palace. Although man can be imposing, He is forever grateful. Always showing appreciation At least every few years For the gracious gifts of the hosts. This palace will flourish for years to come. There was a time before the palace, And there will be a time after, But as long as the palace stands It will continue to cling Onto the ashes to be reborn. Some rooms may have collapsed, But new rooms will be constructed. Some rooms may be weathered, But new paint will be applied. Nature will continue without man Just as this palace continues to stand With or without its visitors, Some building upon its splendor, Some simply spectators. Man can only hope the palace continues to stand For even after long absences, Even after hurtful acts, Man will always need nature, And will continue to be but a humble observer In the palace that is nature.
  21. So I had to write a hella long poem for class and I’m actually kinda proud of it should I post it somewhere on here?

    1. Tagor

      Tagor

      You should definitely post it. I there's this thread, but you can also open a new one.

  22. There’s a person I wanna be friends with but idk how to do that 

    1. running.tally
    2. aro_elise

      aro_elise

      ah, the squish issue

  23. Omg thats so amazing its super detailed i love it so much and its not even done
  24. I’m interested in looking at anything anyone has created and wants to share. Some examples include but are not limited to: written works, arts, crafts, online stores. If anyone is interested my wattpad where I write poetry (or i guess technically it’s prose?) is made-of-words
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