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  2. Just like Jughead

    Early signs that you were aro

    I’m still not so sure everyone isn’t just pretending.
  3. Tired-Sparo

    Sharing Creations

    Thanks!
  4. SoulWolf

    Early signs that you were aro

    True, to an extent. Some people will avoid you, but I personally would prefer those kinds of people to avoid me anyway. I'd rather hang out with people who can appreciate weirdos.
  5. JetSettingAro

    Early signs that you were aro

    Yeah, from my experience I agree that people aren't usually super possessive with their partners (although I'm sure some are). I think the bigger issue is that people in romantic relationships prefer to hang out with other people in romantic relationships over their non-romantic single friends. When you don't have a partner, you become unrelatable to the rest of society. It only becomes worse with age too. The older you get, and if you continue to not pursue a romantic relationship, the more ostracized you become. If you are a man, people think you are a deviant or hiding some kind of secret sexual orientation. If you are a woman, they feel pitty on you but little else. If you don't fall into gender binaries, then it is even more complicated. By the time couples are settled down and having kids, you will be completely ostracized at that point. In fact some people might actually go out of their way to avoid you.
  6. Zemaddog

    Arocalypse Discord Server

    Sorry, I don't check the forums very often anymore. I've edited the OP to have a valid link. But i'll post it here too: https://discord.gg/jmzNe3g
  7. Amelia

    Share your Talents!

    I like to sculpt with rusted metal and broken glass.
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  9. SoulWolf

    Early signs that you were aro

    I can relate to this a lot! I've always been extra-awkward around people in relationships, because I don't know where the appropriate boundaries of "closeness" are. Especially with closer friends. I used to get all awkward and paranoid around certain friends who are very huggy and generally touchy-feely... like... isn't someone going to think you're flirting? Isn't your partner going to think you're cheating? I have since concluded that it isn't really like that, and most people aren't actually that possessive. I've just read too many dumb psychology articles.
  10. Powder

    Where to buy the flag

    * Rainbow Depot has small-ish aro flags and ships internationally: https://www.rainbowdepot.com/Aromantic-Pride.html ModestlyUniqueStudio on Etsy sells small felt flags and ships to a lot of countries as well: https://www.etsy.com/listing/505644670/aromantic-pride-flag?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=aromantic pride flag&ref=sr_gallery-1-23 I have also found these places, which ship internationally and have bigger flags: https://www.midland-flags.co.uk/Pride-Flags/Aromantic-Flags/Aromantic-Flag https://www.theflagshop.co.uk/aromantic-flag-5ft-x-3ft.html * If you are interested on accessories as well, I recommend SpacerobotStudio and NerdyKeppie, also on Etsy! https://www.etsy.com/shop/SpacerobotStudio?search_query=aromantic https://www.etsy.com/shop/NerdyKeppie/items?search_query=aromantic * Places I have personally ordered from before (from Brazil)
  11. Hello, I'm new to Arocalypse and I'm not sure if I put this in the right place or not so sorry about that. Anyway, I was wondering if anyone knew where you could buy an aromantic flag online that ships internationally? I'm a 15 y/o living in Ireland so I don't really see anything to do with any romantic orientation or sexual one for that matter besides straight relationships. My mam knows I'm aromantic so if the site is trustworthy and it's not too expensive that should be fine and I've already brought up the idea of buying one and she didn't seem to mind my only issue is finding somewhere that sells them. Sorry again if this is in the wrong spot I don't really know what I'm doing. Also thanks to anyone who tries to help me it's appreciated.
  12. Naegleria fowleri

    Writing Thread

    I checked short stories and other because I tend to write half-novels that I get bored of and usually don't come back to, haha. (Is that prose? I think of prose as poetry without the rigid structure.) Also songs sometimes. For anyone who wants a platform for choose your own adventure stories (which I got into because I'm a nerd for the Lifeline games) Twine is a good one: http://twinery.org/
  13. This is a little old but the movie Ender's Game has no romance in it, the book is phenomenal as well!
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  15. arolectriclady

    Early signs that you were aro

    When I would experience what I thought was a crush and they got a boyfriend or girlfriend, I would not feel jealous. I would feel kind of sad/bummed, but there was no desire to be their romantic partner or take their romantic partner's place. Idk I guess an early sign was that dating was just never something I considered when I harbored a crush. If my crush started dating I just felt confused. Like, is that what I was supposed to do this entire time? Lol no thanksssss Looking back I think I got squishes on people I wanted to spend time with and get to know better. If they got a partner, I felt like I could no longer pursue a close friendship because they were already spending a lot of their quality time with someone else. Idk I feel like we live in a weird culture where you cannot become close friends with someone in a relationship because it would appear as a "threat" to their romantic relationship or something?
  16. nonmerci

    Writing Thread

    @nightmarechaser that wwaswell-written! And sad I write novels, mostly fantasy. And also a bit of songs (though I only write the lyrics and never bothered to do the music, so I guess it's most poetry than songs lol). I write mostly on a computer, though I can use paper when I am in "planification phase". I Don't know if I'll share my writting here because I write in French and translation took time, but if one day I have the time I'll try to post some of my prose (poetry is too complicated for translation).
  17. running.tally

    Arocalypse Discord Server

    Same issue here; I'd love to join and see what shenanigans people are up to if there's room
  18. Erikyo

    How to find companionship for life?

    This is so fun reading you folks, I relate so much!
  19. astro08

    Early signs that you were aro

    In middle school when my bff started becoming interested in dating we would have long talks about dating and crushes and looking back on them now, there were a lot of signs. Things like how she had very strong opinions whereas I would just shrug and say "someone who has a good personality", when she could name specific people and I just thought of good friends. I think my biggest sign was that every single time I would think and think but I always came up with the same criteria I have for a close friend. My conclusion every time was that I didn't need a bf or gf because I had her. -🐦
  20. Holmbo

    Writing Thread

    I often write drafts or brainstorms on paper and then on computer. Mostly I write either forum posts or articles about urban planning. I'd like to write fiction too but I have a hard time getting into it.
  21. Holmbo

    Sharing Creations

    There's also this thread a bit below http://www.arocalypse.com/forums/topic/1383-art-thread/
  22. Mark

    How to find companionship for life?

    What I find really odd and baffling is the way in which many allos can very quickly, sometimes in a matter of hours, get into a "deep" romantic relationship. Very often marginalising, even ending, pre-existing relationships in the process. The idea of dating being about "getting to know someone" seems reasonable. Though I'm unsure if this is how allos tend to go about it.
  23. Aliyiah

    Anyone want to help me make a website?

    The colours are so pretty πŸ™‚ But did anyone else experience the displacement of the aro flag and hiding parts of the descriptions? It may just be a fluke on my phone
  24. Zorcodtoa

    How to find companionship for life?

    Basically some dating schemes and suggestions are so rigid when it should differ from person to person that it inevitably results in disaster or inefficient partner finding for some. Rules should be made up naturally for each individual, not imposed. The biggest mistake in dating is not dating itself, but probably the way it's done. When people go so far as to shame or alienate someone who doesn't do it the exact same way as them, or at all, now that really pisses me off. Relationships and dating doesn't belong in fashion, let alone fascism. (Is it any coincidence that fascism and fashion sound very similar? 😝) Dating strangers is like trying out any or every car without checking out any of the specs or price first, or even figuring out if you can even fit the damn thing in your garage. Marrying strangers is like buying said car because you like the feel after just sitting in it. Then most people wonder why the steering wheel comes off or everything falls apart mid-ride and plummets into the nearest obstacle or sea.....
  25. Tired-Sparo

    Sharing Creations

    Omg thats so amazing its super detailed i love it so much and its not even done
  26. time-is-ticking

    Sharing Creations

    Great idea, I love looking at what people have created! This is far from what the end result will be, but I thought I'd share anyway. I've hidden the sketch from view because it's a mess, but I've sketched the full body and I'm pretty sure I'm going to try my hand at a background as well.
  27. JetSettingAro

    How to find companionship for life?

    I'm not sure what your experience is, but I have noticed that couples only like to talk to other couples. Our so called "friends" treat us like we are diseased and avoid us like the plague, especially once they get married and have kids. At that point, if you can't talk about couples and parenting stuff then you are a worthless to them. Ditto the thought. 😁 I mean you barely know this person, you met them last week and they are somehow already your "soulmate". Bizzare. No wonder so many marriages end in divorce. It takes years to learn the ins and outs of another person, not a week. I like that you call dating a "culturally ritualized" practice. It is somehow so ingrained into our society that if we don't date then we are somehow broken, or worse "hiding something". It used to be that people married for non-romantic reasons, but now nobody seems to do that anymore. Romance and sex are everything, and as has been noted, it is difficult in our society to have one without the other.
  28. NullVector

    How to find companionship for life?

    Oh, you are definitely not the only one. I think close to 100% of the people I've interacted with on these forums feel this way 😁 It got me thinking: what actually is 'dating' and why is it something that weirds out most of us here? I sort of get the concept of trying to get to know somebody that you are 'interested in' a bit better (perhaps most typically a euphemism for 'interested in having sex with', hah, since as you pointed out @eatingcroutons you know next to nothing else about them at this point!). But isn't 'dating' rather more than that? Well, I just skimmed through the very long Wikipedia article on dating and they say there that and So maybe it's both the ends and the means that we take issue with here? Conventional dating IMO typically assumes you have a particular end goal in mind (finding one central person to spend most of your time with) and want to follow a particular set of prescriptive, culturally ritualized, but often ill-defined and confusing, steps to get there. But when neither of those things are true (as I suspect they aren't for most of us here) then where does that leave us? (in terms of having socially accepted procedures we can follow to establish sexual partnerships, for example). Same. And I also don't know what to do about it. πŸ˜•
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